Need your HelpUpdated

SoontobeMrsG Posted: Dec 09, 2009 11:03 PM

Need your HelpUpdated

Hi Guys,
I am finally over to the newlywed board, Yeah to all of us!!!!
I need your help. A really good friend of mine who lives in California was suppose to come to my wedding, had her plane ticket already purchased and her hotel room reserved. The night before the wedding she called me and I thought she was here in NY and she wound up cancelling!
I use to work with her and people that we use to work with were all coming to the wedding (mind you all of us were very close and use to go out often) She said she had a mental breakdown! She split from her fiancee over 6 months ago (she was so relieved and happy when it ended) She did not want to have to deal with the 'old gang' I told her you dont have to sit with them or talk to them, just come.
Needless to say for as much as she said she could not wait to come to my wedding she never came and I have yet to hear from her nor receive even a card from her!!!!
Do you think I should call her? I am really torn, she is a very good friend of mine.
PS She use to say if I had a bachelorette party in Vegas she would drive down from Cali, so I wound up going to Vegas and she never came telling me that she would rather save the money and be there for my wedding!

UPDATE:
I decided to take everyones advice, as she really is a close friend of mine. I called my friend on saturday and left her a message, she has not returned my phonecall as of yet, so we shall see.
Thanks for all your help!

tinadansr Posted: Dec 09, 2009 11:16 PM

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Ugh tough one! I would call her to see how she is? If se really is having issues right now friendship might be needed.

HTH GL

flairforfashion Posted: Dec 09, 2009 11:20 PM

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Posted by tinadansr

Ugh tough one! I would call her to see how she is? If se really is having issues right now friendship might be needed.

HTH GL

I agree with this one...

She may be really having these issues. I would call her and see what's up.

SoontobeMrsG Posted: Dec 10, 2009 08:48 PM

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thanks you guys for taking the time to write back, Its just that I am still so hurt, but I think that I will give her a call.

MrsDrinkh20 Posted: Dec 10, 2009 08:53 PM

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I definitely agree with the girls...sounds like friendship is what she needs right now...Im sorry you are going through this

MrsKtoBe Posted: Dec 10, 2009 08:55 PM

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You can call, but I wouldnt be offended if she doesnt call back. I think your relationship has probably hit a you-have-what-i-want point, which is alwyas painful and hard. it seems like she took the breakup worse than you think and maybe she just didnt want to ruin your engagement or make you feel guilty crying to you about it. JMO

alli3131 Posted: Dec 10, 2009 09:38 PM

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I think you need to call and see how she is doing.....If you find out she really did just ditch your wedding then be mad but if she is really in a bad place emotionally right now try to understand and dont be upset with her.

FutureMrsG Posted: Dec 10, 2009 11:08 PM

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If your friend had a break down she could probably use some support. I would give her the benefit of the doubt and call her. She may need you.

flairforfashion Posted: Dec 10, 2009 11:34 PM

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Did you call her yet? Let us know the outcome.

marriedinmontauk Posted: Dec 10, 2009 11:40 PM

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She sounds like an undependable person. If you want you can keep her in your life, but she may not change.
So sorry:(

PROBM Posted: Dec 11, 2009 11:44 AM

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it sounds like she is going thoug a rough patch everyone goes through depression differently , let her have her space and be there if she comes back you never know when your life might take a turn for the worse and you shut down and when you come out u need people who love around you

unless she hurt you like sleeping with husband or hurt your family i dont think you need to cut her off