Normal or Not??

I wanted to know if anyone else experienced this and what you did about it.

Now that I have no planning to do for the wedding I find myself not knowing what to do with myself. I really miss the whole wedding thing. Im even a bit depressed about it. I think I need to find something else to do but I keep finding myself back on this site . Im happy that I am married and life is great right now but a little piece of me is sad. So i need some advice...
TIA

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Posted by Songstress

GIIIIIIRL, I went through a major depressive period where my anxiety was through the roof. I joined the gym and re routed my energy to working out 3-4 times a week. It really helps. Do you go to the gym??

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I used to go but then I stopped. That is a good idea cause all I do is either shop or come home on the computer. Its very non productive

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Posted by missK

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Posted by Songstress

GIIIIIIRL, I went through a major depressive period where my anxiety was through the roof. I joined the gym and re routed my energy to working out 3-4 times a week. It really helps. Do you go to the gym??

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I used to go but then I stopped. That is a good idea cause all I do is either shop or come home on the computer. Its very non productive

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Thats what I was doing. Mostly computer though and its really bad. I started feeling so non-productive. Go back to the gym Force yourself if you have to. And I dont mean go crazy. Just do some cardio. It feels good to run, kinda like youre running from your stress. I even do classes and those are fun cause you interact and meet new people while working out!

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by missK

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Posted by Songstress

GIIIIIIRL, I went through a major depressive period where my anxiety was through the roof. I joined the gym and re routed my energy to working out 3-4 times a week. It really helps. Do you go to the gym??

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I used to go but then I stopped. That is a good idea cause all I do is either shop or come home on the computer. Its very non productive

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Thats what I was doing. Mostly computer though and its really bad. I started feeling so non-productive. Go back to the gym Force yourself if you have to. And I dont mean go crazy. Just do some cardio. It feels good to run, kinda like youre running from your stress. I even do classes and those are fun cause you interact and meet new people while working out!

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thanks for the advice. It good to know that Im not alone and it happens.

I right there with ya...esp. since I am approaching my 1yr anniversary....honsetly, it was a lot of hard work planning and very stressful...but I really miss it

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Posted by bettybcafe82

I right there with ya...esp. since I am approaching my 1yr anniversary....honsetly, it was a lot of hard work planning and very stressful...but I really miss it

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same here; i think thats why i'm on here so often...

oh i so feel ya. i went through it too! i still love all things wedding and just finished my album planning. so thats kind of the last hoorah!

...or is it? we're gonna do a day after sessions in august for our anni.

you just have to find other projects depending on your situation- work, class, reading, scrapbooking, house stuff, living on the NW board like i do, lol! etc. i still love helping other ppl w/ wedding planning.

it will get better.

youre prob just feeling it really intense now bc it all just happened and felt like it came to a hault for you.

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Posted by Aug07OFCbride


you just have to find other projects depending on your situation- work, class, reading, scrapbooking, house stuff, living on the NW board like i do, lol! etc. i still love helping other ppl w/ wedding planning.

it will get better.

youre prob just feeling it really intense now bc it all just happened and felt like it came to a hault for you.

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Yeah, I agree, you just need to find another project. I kinda felt like I didn't know what to do w/ myself after we got back from our HM & everything got back to normal, but then I threw myself into house hunting and researching the market, I even got licensed as a realtor!
The gym is a good idea too. But relax you've been married all of 2 seconds, it's ok and absolutely natural to miss it. You still have your proofs to look forward to, etc, etc.

I think we all just about went thru that period-you spend soooo much time before putting it all together, making decisions etc. and then its all over

BUT you learn to find things to keep yourself busy like ummmmm the NW board and just in general life-youll see it gets easier

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Posted by Aug07OFCbride

oh i so feel ya. i went through it too! i still love all things wedding and just finished my album planning. so thats kind of the last hoorah!

...or is it? we're gonna do a day after sessions in august for our anni.

you just have to find other projects depending on your situation- work, class, reading, scrapbooking, house stuff, living on the NW board like i do, lol! etc. i still love helping other ppl w/ wedding planning.

it will get better.

youre prob just feeling it really intense now bc it all just happened and felt like it came to a hault for you.

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Thanks. I do have the proofs to go thru. I think I miss the anticipation for the wedding and now that its over & I had such a good time I want to go back to that feeling.
Time I guess will take care of it.
thank you

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Posted by SylvieB

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Posted by Aug07OFCbride


you just have to find other projects depending on your situation- work, class, reading, scrapbooking, house stuff, living on the NW board like i do, lol! etc. i still love helping other ppl w/ wedding planning.

it will get better.

youre prob just feeling it really intense now bc it all just happened and felt like it came to a hault for you.

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Yeah, I agree, you just need to find another project. I kinda felt like I didn't know what to do w/ myself after we got back from our HM & everything got back to normal, but then I threw myself into house hunting and researching the market, I even got licensed as a realtor!
The gym is a good idea too. But relax you've been married all of 2 seconds, it's ok and absolutely natural to miss it. You still have your proofs to look forward to, etc, etc.

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Thats great Did you find a house?
I do have some things still to do wedding wise so I guess I will have to ween myself out of the wedding phase.
thank you for the advice

I think it is totally normal! I did not go through it but I just had a mini revelation reading the advice about going to the gym. After the honeymoon, we came home to our new apartment and I 100% threw myself into my new role. . . I cooked every night and tried all new dishes, I made sure DH and I went out once a week, I cleaned my apartment and it was immaculate. So that was MY way of redirecting my energy! I feel so productive every single day now, even if I DO get tired sometimes. So I definitely agree with finding something else to focus on!

And don't worry about coming on here, I am still here too work is just too boring without you girls!

Also, even BEFORE the wedding I ALWAYS need something to look forward to. People think I am crazy but I plan my vacations MONTHS in advance and then enjoy researching and planning before I actually go! I already know that we are going to Florida in March of 2009 and I am going to Italy in October of 2009 so it definitely helps having something else to look forward to!

i have been married 5 days so far

We didnt take a honeymoon, and everything feels the same as it did.
I am not sure if i am going to get depressed without wedding planning, i think its to soon to tell.

Its definately weird not having such a huge event to look forward to. This is something we have planned for a year and a half, and now its over.

I definately feel more relaxed now than before

I got really bummed after we got back frm the honeymoon. I was so sad it was all over. However, that same day I was laid off from my job, so I was occupied with the job search. And then one of my BF's asked me to plan her wedding because she was overwhelmed by it, so now Im helping ehr with that. I think its normal to be upset when its all over. You put in so much time and effort and then its all over in the blink of an eye. Best thing to do is to focus on being married and appreciating what you did all of that for has happened and now you get to sit back and enjoy your life together!!