*~*~*NWQOTD 12/13*~*~*

So... first off, thanks for picking me Becca.

Secondly - I haven't been around since Wednesday and have no clue what's going on so... I hope I don't repeat anything.

Before my question, because I haven't even gotten to write about anything that happened... let me share and then question will be at the bottom:


Okay, so ... I haven't written anything about how the reception went but I'm sure SOME of you saw on facebook that the icing on the cake of my short novel of things that went incorrectly on Saturday, was this:

One of the differences I'm guessing (because I've never planned a reception here in NY) between here and the midwest is that... I had to go set up on the morning of.

I mean the room was put together. The tables were dressed and what not. But we were responsible for placing our favors and any any other decorations I had on the tables.

The long story short is that I have no F-ing clue what happened because I didn't actually feel it happen but I sliced my finger open on the morning of and realized it only after I had blood all over my hands and a big smudge of it on my face.

So we bandaged it up but the thing wouldn't quit bleeding. I had two small but deep cuts right at the tips of a finger and nothing I did would make it stop for a long while.

Eventually it clotted and I had it bandaged... had to get dressed and do my own makeup (I know... I know... 'You did your own makeup!?') in seriously 40 minutes.

My husband took longer than me.

I have my dress on and go downstairs and ask someone to zip me up and I look down and there's

BLOOD. ON MY DRESS.

RIGHT IN THE FRONT.

IN THREE DIFFERENT SPOTS.

My finger isn't even bleeding at this point. I still have no clue what happened. But whatever. I started crying because Bill just kept telling me 'wear a bandaid.' And I'm like *** is the matter with you I'm not wearing a bandaid in my wedding pictures...

My mom and grandma and Bill are simultaneously scrubbing away trying to get it out but it was on the tulle part and it just didn't budge.

Whatever - it was fine. Seriously no one knew. No one even noticed. I stopped caring and it was fine.

But while we did our pictures (in the freaking FREEZING COLD) (No seriously, I can't explain to you... google weather metro-detroit right now and you'll see what was happening and I went and struggled it out without a shawl or little jacket or anything) I just told our photographer 'Well I guess I can't even try to sell this thing now. My future daughter isn't going to want to wear my dress with my paper cut blood on it... I might as well destroy the thing. Fckkk it .... Let's just do like the most obnoxiously messy trash the dress session ever. You can like cover me in fake blood if you want.'



So my question is really a two parter because I'm going to abuse my NWOTW privilege...

1. Given that I never wanted to keep my dress... and was going to just try to sell it on pre-owned wedding dresses or some other place like that. Would you advise me to just go ahead and freakin destroy the hell out of this dress? It already has blood on it. At most I'm going to cut out a section of the dress to use it on my future kid's christening gown but the rest of it doesn't need o stay with me.

And....

If you were able to do a TTD shoot however you wanted... what would be your dream way of doing it? (And you girls who are thinking 'I'd never destroy my dress' ... I'll throw you a bone. What if someone gave you another dress or even a SECOND dress the exact same as yours so that you could be messy with your actual dress with no worries...

oh hi! who are you again? you've been gone so long I barely remember! Cool story about your wedding. No but seriously it sounds like you had the right attitude in the end and just had fun with it because nobody noticed! can't wait to see pics and p.s. I totally understand what you mean by the weather- my sister's last week of college classes was canceled and the city she goes to school in (London, about 1.5 hrs from Detroit) shut down. Like, they closed the highways. So, fun times!

onto the questions

1. trash the shitttt out of it. just go for it. save a piece, trash the rest

2. i would do the following:
play with animals a lot
play in the snow a lot
go swimming in it

don't know how i would accomplish these all in one TTD shoot (the snow and swimming at the same time might be tough) but you ask my dream, thats it!

1) Yes do it!!! Trash it!!

2) I never thought about a TTD shoot but I probably would do a beach thing, lay in the sand- run in the water.

What a fiasco!

1 - I'd probably trash it or just throw it in the closet. My dress also has blood on it from a friend of mine, and it's mad dirty...and hanging in a bag in the closet. Look at it this way...if you're into the idea of a TTD shoot, then do it. You probably won't find someone to buy a dress that's got bloodstains on it, KWIM?

2 - If I were to do a TTD shoot (personally, it's not really 'me', so I don't see it happening), it'd have to be somewhere related to music. I would've loved a shoot at CBGB but clearly that ain't happening. I guess I would go to a place where my friend's band is playing and get up on the stage and crowdsurf and crap like that.

If you're going with using the blood that's in it, think about shoots based on movies. Carrie, Psycho, etc?

First off, glad you had a good time other than the blood issue ... how did everyone like elvis?


i'd want to do an extreme TTD ... like us playing paintball or spray-painting each other

but for me personally right now, i'd rather have the $$$ from selling it (if i can) ... or at least, the satisfaction of donating it.

i might do a non-extreme TTD eventually. we'll see.

1. Trash it.

2. You know I'm all for trashing it. If I had to do it AGAIN and I'd probably go horseback riding.

1. YES! If I had no intention of keeping it anyway and probably couldn't sell it now if I wanted to I would trash the HELL outta that dress!!

How would I do it?? Good question the first that comes to mind is....PAINTBALL!!!!

although a food fight or graffitti'ing a fake wall would be fun too!

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched



If you're going with using the blood that's in it, think about shoots based on movies. Carrie, Psycho, etc?

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I didnt even think of this! This would be so perfect for you- a movie takeoff!!!

Welcome back!! Missed you around here! Sorry your wedding day was so friggin hectic Cannot wait to see pics!! How did the Elvis do? Uncle Brucie?

1..Trash the suckaaaaaaaaa!!!!!

2. I dont know if this would be my 'dream' TTD shoot, but I would want to involve my dogs in some way! They're like babies to us..and they were in chicago for the wedding and I would have loved to take pics with them! So, I would like to TTD while walking the dogs...going to the dog park...walking them to the lake...etc etc

You're dress is so friggin cute though! i think you should do a TTD wearing your dress while blending things in your new blender! Then you can have some staged 'mishaps' with the batter and what not!

1. Trash it!

2. My ideal TTD shoot would be in New Orleans. I want to wear that thing on Bourbon street. I probably wouldn't even be coming home with a dress after that trip. LOL

1. Be rid of the dress!!!

2. At first, I didn't want to do the TTD thing... then I kept seeing pics and how fun it would be and I said so to my Mom (who bought my dress) and she flipped... 'I didn't spent all that money on the dress for you to 'trash' it!!' I thought she was going to bust a vein..... SO no plans to TTD, but if I could - The day would start at Cedar Point on Roller Coasters..Move on to sitting on the floor of an Animal Shelter surrounded by puppies (and hopefully picking one out!)... ending with a dip in the Ocean!

1. def trash it but also def save enough to use for one of your babies (love that)

2. I had never heard of ttd before liw so i've never put any thought to it...but I guess something beachy just because our wedding was in the fall and our epics were also in the fall....

beach or a giants game!

TOTALLY TTD! Pretend youre getting eaten by a shark....


and I think cause everything else surrounding the wedding was beach related... i would probably do something in like Central Park, or maybe downtown Manhattan...

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Posted by Byrne2Be

1. def trash it but also def save enough to use for one of your babies (love that)

2. I had never heard of ttd before liw so i've never put any thought to it...but I guess something beachy just because our wedding was in the fall and our epics were also in the fall....

beach or a giants game!

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scratch the giants game. i would freeze my business off and i wouldn't be able to watch the game.

Sorry to hear about the coldness- I woulda begged and cried to get someone follow me around with a heater on a loooong xtension cord
If you still wanted to sell and since your dress friggin rocks and most likely wouldnt take long to go you could prob get all the stains out- a lil elbow grease might do.
I do like the graffiti TTD idea - Im all for destroying things so Id play all day in it get it real F'd up, maybe do some mock b- horror vids, play out different scenarios then burn the dang thing.