I am starting this off by saying that I love my DH more than anything..
BUT HE REALLY DRIVES ME CRAZY sometimes! OK... Here's the deal..
Right now we are living in a one bedroom basement apartment that is no longer flooding, but had that problem a few weeks ago--in a row. Things have been cleaned up from that, but now we are faced with the housing issue. Our lease is up and our landlady has been nice enough to allow us to stay until we find a place. I want a house. We already have a child, and I want the security of having a home. I don't want to move a lot. MY FEELINGS are I want to establish my home and STAY in my home... I don;t want to pick up and move after I FINALLY get things just the way I want it.
We put a bid in on a house and it wasn't accepted. I feel that that hit my DH hard. Like a blow to self ego. ANYway... He just got a new job.. Still not a good one, but a better one, on the books, with benefits. His boss is a friend of my FIL and attended our wedding. They would be working for a billionaire who owns many companies and facilities on Fire island. DH comes up with this whacked idea tonight.... His grandmother has an apartment(another one BR basement), His Idea is to love there until APRIL and then after that move out to Ocean Beach-Fire Island to one of the houses the billionaire owns and share it with another worker--(who has no family)... Rent free...Until October.. Yet DH doesn't know all of the details.. He just knows that this option is available.
For a newlywed couple just starting out that really likes the beach/ party scene, I would say OK.. But I have moved on to the we have a child stage... Does this make any sense?? If we have to share the house with someone else, I dont want to have to deal with how many WOMEN the other guy might bring over.. not to mention the drinking over the summer... DH is really excited about this, but, I am not. He knows we need to find a place, and after the cr@p we have been through with his last job, we have little hope.
What do I do??
Claud2001
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Posted by nrvbrd
You know what I hate to rain on your parade, but sometimes things sound too good to be true.
Is there a way to put this agreement in writing?
Not only do I agree, but I just don't think that the summer 'party scene' in Fire Island is a good environment for the baby. Also - have you seen the location and condition of this house? Timeshare rentals on FI are often garbage dumps - literally. And if the house is situated close to town and the bars/restaurants, you'll find it impossible to get your son to sleep at night with all the crowd noise and loud music. Even though Ocean Beach has more 'rules' than other towns over there, it does tend to be loud.
I would reserve my judgements and agreements to this arrangement until you can check it out in greater detail. JMO - coming from another Mommy...good luck, whatever you decide!
I am going to go with Christine (although maybe Claud has a point...since she is speaking as a mom)
I think its a good opportunity...but I would just consider how to get all your stuff to Fire Island...and what would you do with your car?
I think that Ocean Bay Park is the party town and Ocean Beach is the family town...and you will walk down the street and see parents pulling their children in wagons...etc...
At 22 I would have LOVED this opportunity...but having a child I am sure changes things...could you have a babysitter if needed?
good luck
Claud2001
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Posted by yabbobay
I think its a good opportunity...but I would just consider how to get all your stuff to Fire Island...and what would you do with your car?
I think that Ocean Bay Park is the party town and Ocean Beach is the family town...and you will walk down the street and see parents pulling their children in wagons...etc...
Erica - you bring up a very good alternate point...the logistics of actually 'moving' all your stuff to a town that isn't accessible by car! (how did THAT slip my mind??)
Also - from years of being part of the Ocean Beach summer scene, I can tell you that there are definitely families that vacation there in the summer - but, there is also PLENTY of partying in Ocean Beach as well! We always started our nights in OBP and ended them in OB....ahh, the memories.
Also want to add....at 22, I would have LOVED, LOVED, LOVED this opportunity. And even now as a family, DH and I have talked about going over there for a little 'getaway' during the summer - however, I would schedule it during the week mainly to avoid the scene on the weekends. I could not picture living there - albeit temporarily - with Paul in tow.
2003OCT10
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Posted by Claud2001
Not only do I agree, but I just don't think that the summer 'party scene' in Fire Island is a good environment for the baby. Also - have you seen the location and condition of this house? Timeshare rentals on FI are often garbage dumps - literally. And if the house is situated close to town and the bars/restaurants, you'll find it impossible to get your son to sleep at night with all the crowd noise and loud music. Even though Ocean Beach has more 'rules' than other towns over there, it does tend to be loud.
I would reserve my judgements and agreements to this arrangement until you can check it out in greater detail. JMO - coming from another Mommy...good luck, whatever you decide!
DH actually video taped this property.. and it looks pretty good.. Good news I found out today is that I can help paint ASAP. We would move our stuff over there little by little using Brians bosses truck. (he has 4wheel drive and the proper permits) The marina is actually part of Seaview.. We do have a wagon, and I wouldnt mind that. And according to Brians boss, the area the Marina is in does have Noise regulations. I will be PHYSICALLY seeing the place VERY soon...
Thank you ladies who FM'd me detailed words of encouragements, and advice!
I love you ladies! For all of your honest imputs!!
