Okay i post on here a lot more then a majority of the girls/guys on this board...and maybe i just don't get this all...
But after that BTB started a new thread about stuff that are 'wedding left overs' . I just don't understand the responses....i remember when the original was started b FLaCaTaCa (I think that is her user name)...and everyone thought it was the greatest idea......now everyone does not want to offer anything and not only that but they post 'why post on the Newlywed board' and 'why should I offer anything because i didn't get a thank you'.
I don't get it and maybe its because i am not on these boards enough.....but my advice to Newlyweds is this....we are all happy, we all met the man of our dreams, and if we are still on this board it is to offer help to other BHB's. Most of the people who post responses on the NW board also are regulars on the NWR board. I post and i can't fathom why you get into it with people asking questions....when the girl asked to start a new thread about selling/gving away stuff...i thought great idea...because i have stuff to sell...or give away....and then i started reading the responses and started thinking lets be mature adults...
I'm sorry...i can't figure this out...i think we need to be mature Newlyweds.....this is all very college like....and honestly some of us come off as being 'jealous' of other BTB.( Whether you are or not) ..i know it sounds weird...but being someone who had been married for six months...Who cares what has gone on in the past....I was so happy planning me wedding, and so many NW gave me great advice and now i try to do the same thing and i go on these boards and get disgusted with these responses.............i think you all can see yourself in these BTB positions....i don't understand the nastiness of everyting.....i think (and i mean this in a nice way) ... we need to grow up and become the mature adults that we are......
I like being on the NW and NWR boards and one day the TTC and Parenting Boards....Sometimes i will go to BHB board to help them out...but i never have seen the responses from NW that i have seen AFTER i got married...i don't know if i am only one.... but have gotten embarrassed sometimes by the responses....
swags1016
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OK I am going to make this short and sweet because I have to get to work! But what a load of crap!
Posted by SeptWed
'why post on the Newlywed board' and 'why should I offer anything because i didn't get a thank you'.
1) That was not the girls' point. It was that the rudeness that has been displayed to us first why bother.
2) The other reason there was ALREADY a thread on this- PERIOD!
Posted by SeptWed
I don't get it and maybe its because i am not on these boards enough.....but my advice to Newlyweds is this....we are all happy, we all met the man of our dreams, and if we are still on this board it is to offer help to other BHB's. Most of the people who post responses on the NW board also are regulars on the NWR board. I post and i can't fathom why you get into it with people asking questions....when the girl asked to start a new thread about selling/gving away stuff...i thought great idea...because i have stuff to sell...or give away....and then i started reading the responses and started thinking lets be mature adults...
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IF yoyu don't know you should comment but you always seem to feel the need to And why would you want to post with us IMMATURE adults
Posted by SeptWed
Who cares what has gone on in the past....I was so happy planning me wedding, and so many NW gave me great advice and now i try to do the same thing and i go on these boards and get disgusted with these responses.............i think you all can see yourself in these BTB positions....i don't understand the nastiness of everyting.....i think (and i mean this in a nice way) ... we need to grow up and become the mature adults that we are......
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The past does make a difference, so think what you will!
1) I used to make it a point to go onto the BHB EVERYDAY to offer help where I could. There are MANY MANY girls that I have tried to help on this board, but do to things that have been said about the NW's and the treatment we received I don't really do it anymore- MY CHOICE!
2) This is our ONLY board. The BTB have the BHB 05, 06 and May board we have ONE to discuss NW stuff and that is it. We do not go on their board and clog it up with NW stuff- IT'S A MATTER OF RESPECT!
3) Again, if you think we need to grow up then why post with us??
4) Why do you always seem to start posts that have the SOLE intention of drama??? Thankfully I know I am not the only one that has noticed this!
Posted by SeptWed
I like being on the NW and NWR boards and one day the TTC and Parenting Boards....Sometimes i will go to BHB board to help them out...but i never have seen the responses from NW that i have seen AFTER i got married...i don't know if i am only one.... but have gotten embarrassed sometimes by the responses....
This is not the first time this has been discussed. This has been going on as long as their has been a NW board. I remember when I was a bride to BTB and their was a discussion with the NW's on here at the time that they had had it also!!
Sometimes after enough time from your wedding you are done planning and you don't really want to talk about a wedding or wedding planning anymore. BUt you have friends on this site and good times on this site so why leave?
I have said my peace. I personally find this post antagonistic and condesending and STARTED WITH THE SOLE PURPOSE OF DRAMA!!! I am off to work to say good-bye to my students and I will NOT BE responding to this at all so say what you want about me. But any BTB that has ever FMed me asked me a question knows that I responded to them and helped as I could! It's not that I won't- I just won't on this board- period!
ETA- Goodness knows it's Friday and we can't have a Friday without drama
Nice April Fools Day post
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1. which is it..are you a regular poster or not?
2. IMO...there was nothing wrong with Flacataca's thread. She is a VERY good friend of mine actually and i would never say anything bad about what she has posted...
What i find annoying is that someone asks for her thread to be bumped and looks and sees that there is 8 pages and decides that ..it is just TOOOOOO LONG for her to read and so there must be a new one? WHY is that necessary? NW's have gone out of their way to post on Flacataca's thread about things they are willing to give or sell. IT IS UNNECESSARY AND EVEN RUDE to 1. Flacataca who created the thread to help B2B's that it be easily disregarded because it is tooooo long for some lazy arse to read...and 2. RUDE to the NW's who have already took the time to post all the things they would give or sell.
THAT is what is annoying...the utter lack of consideration of some poster to easily disregard the efforts made by Flacataca and the NWS!
If you are too lazy to read what has already been written THEN DON'T POST HERE! WHy the hell do we have to re-type everything because she is too lazy to read through the post that actually exists already...
NOBODY said ANYTHING about Flacataca thread and i resent the fact that you even bring it up. STUPID!
THAT LAZY POSTER WAS WHAT WAS ANNOYING.
And this blatant disregard to the efforts of the NWS was UNCALLED FOR.
What i find really MOST interesting is that YOU seem to post PRIMARILY when there is CONTROVERSY or DRAMA... I may be involved in drama ...but at least i don't go around calling out others then try to act all innocent like YOU DO!
ETA: not that i really mind NW questions...BUT HOW MANY boards do they need to ask? They have the BHB, the year boards, they ask questions on the review board and here...I mean really what is the point of having different boards? AND on top of that they ask NWR questions on BHB? I think that the boards are to be utilized as per the title. LIKE I SAID..i don't mind when girls as questions on this board but COME ON...be respectful to us and to threads that already exist here
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I gotta say this is ridiculous. I help when I want to help and I help those who show even a bit of appreciation, which isn't much.
Why don't you go over to '05 boards and tell them to behave like adults instead of bashing Newlyweds and this board. You think that makes us want to help them....PUHLEEZE!!
This board is more about just helping brides, I have developed friendships here and that is why I continue to come back. Not to help people who berate the fact that I'm a newlywed on a daily basis!!
TracyInQueens
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One thread that was clearly there for people to unload stuff that they wanted to sell was fine.
What is not fine is seeing multiple posts that should be on BHB, many of which are posted multiple times. Including a thread for people to give stuff away, which I personally found insulting. If you can afford to throw a wedding on LI, you can afford to buy your own thank you cards. It's one thing if you've bonded with a BTB but another when it's random.
suven
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Can someone please tell me why this board needed a new thread just to create drama?
I think the whole point here is that we would like to NW board to focus on newlywed issues. Have you seen thenest.com? Now THAT is a newlywed board.
Based on Ron's description of the NW board 'you've made it through the planning...the board for newlyweds only' I think his intention was to have something along the lines of thenest. com. Hopefully LIFamilies will be even more insinc with that.
I can recall one time, not too long ago, when the ENTIRE first 2 pages of threads on NWs were ALL questions about 'who used Duet? Are they good?' 'How many photographers should I get?' etc...
It was ridiculous!!!
And, as I've mentioned before, the more you keep starting threads about X versus Y, the more drama there will be.
Now, I am sure MANY B2Bs will read your initial thread and get upset. So, if your intention was to make only the NWs feel bad, you missed your mark.
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Posted by suven
And, as I've mentioned before, the more you keep starting threads about X versus Y, the more drama there will be.
SO TRUE.
Reading your post, it makes me wonder if you really read and understood what was happening in that other thread. Because it seems like you are ignoring what the real issues are here:
1. There ALREADY existed a thread for selling stuff created by a B2B that MANY NWs posted on. Why are you ignoring the fact that this thread existed and that many NWs took the time to post their items on that thread?
2. Most NWs were saying that the problem is not with helping B2Bs in general, the problem is when the influx of B2B posts takes over the Newlywed Board (which clearly says 'for newlyweds only' -- not that that should be a hard and fast rule, either). In addition to crowding the board with posts that we would happily answer (and DO answer) on BHB, there is alot of cross posting going on, and it's taking away from our NW issue posts...which leads me to my next point that I disagree with you on:
3. No, the only reason that we are still around after our weddings is NOT only to help B2Bs. Though most of us enjoy helping them, we have our own issues as NWs, and posts about that that don't belong on NWR, belong here. We come here to discuss those issues and build relationships with other NWs.
Once again, most of us don't mind helping the B2Bs, but there's a reason for the different boards -- and there comes a point when the cross posting gets out of hand. How can you not see that? I don't think we are being immature at all.
