I am a regular poster. I am an 08 bride. I have realized I do not want to be married. I am not sure I love my husband . I do not know what to do. I am afraid to leave and afraid to stay. not for my safety but because I could lose it all and realize I still want it.
Posted by PreshusSmurf
are you already married?
or still a bride to be?
i agree with the previous posters, fear is not a reason to get married and also not a reason to stay married.
if you have not lived together before, could you be going through some adjustments in your relationship?
Posted by PreshusSmurf
are you already married?
or still a bride to be?
If youre having doubts now, maybe you should postpone. Dont decide to go through with the wedding because youve spent the money already. Not a good enough reason. Postpone it and take the steps into either trying to fix your relationship or deciding whether its worth saving. Good luck and so sorry youre going through this.
Posted by Aug07OFCbride
Posted by PreshusSmurf
are you already married?
or still a bride to be?
good qus! i totally assumed she wasn't married yet.
Shoot I think she's already married. This is tough. Come out of hiding girl! We need more info to help you.
I think when you take the marriage vow then you owe it to yourself and your spouse to exhaust all options. Therapy and all that. After you have done that and its still not working is when the seperation or divorce can happen. Thats just MO though. I dont think you should give up so soon, unless something unforgivable happened?????
shows i read that way too quickly. given that it appears youre already married, i agree with PPs about counseling being a good idea. im sure there is much more of a back story to this, but whatever it is, im sure counseling is worth a try.
Posted by pleasehelpme
I am a regular poster. I am an 08 bride. I have realized I do not want to be married. I am not sure I love my husband . I do not know what to do. I am afraid to leave and afraid to stay. not for my safety but because I could lose it all and realize I still want it.
Posted by sugarkube4
What about counselling?? It definitely helps!!!![]()
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hugs for you!!!
thank you. We are married. I dont hate him and I am not in any danger. I do realize that what I felt before the wedding wasnt cold feet which I let people convince me it was. He is not the type of man I want to be married to . Family is a unit not about one person but everyone and he is about him. Im trying to make sense of my own feelings and I cant seem to . He will not do counseling. But I am going to try
honestly its a adjustment - being married. There are days we all struggle not everything is about 'us' and still about 'you'. If you are having issues since he hasn't cut the cord from his family yet then you should talk to him about it and wait it out a bit. It is WAY too soon to divorce yet, you need to let this relationship ride it out a bit more.
Posted by pleasehelpme
thank you. We are married. I dont hate him and I am not in any danger. I do realize that what I felt before the wedding wasnt cold feet which I let people convince me it was. He is not the type of man I want to be married to . Family is a unit not about one person but everyone and he is about him. Im trying to make sense of my own feelings and I cant seem to . He will not do counseling. But I am going to try
Posted by pleasehelpme
thank you. We are married. I dont hate him and I am not in any danger. I do realize that what I felt before the wedding wasnt cold feet which I let people convince me it was. He is not the type of man I want to be married to . Family is a unit not about one person but everyone and he is about him. Im trying to make sense of my own feelings and I cant seem to . He will not do counseling. But I am going to try
Is he against counseling b/c he doesn't think there is a problem? What kinds of issues are coming up where you don't feel like you are being consulted? Major things like children and home buying or minor like where you are going to spend the holidays?
Posted by pleasehelpme
thank you. We are married. I dont hate him and I am not in any danger. I do realize that what I felt before the wedding wasnt cold feet which I let people convince me it was. He is not the type of man I want to be married to . Family is a unit not about one person but everyone and he is about him. Im trying to make sense of my own feelings and I cant seem to . He will not do counseling. But I am going to try
