Please tell me I'm not alone...

So, I know that I love DH and want to spend the rest of my life with him, and have kids and all that stuff.....but does anyone else ever think about their exes or even dream about them?

I mean, I had a few dreams about an ex that would never be a future possibility (I do not speak to ANY of my exes), so why do I dream about him?

Anyone's mind wander about their past or am I just weird?

you're not alone

I think about my ex's, but NOT fondly!

I do occasionally. Not all of them, I guess the more recent ones.

I was friends with many of them after we broke up so some of it has to do with just wondering what they're up to right now.

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Posted by dleeny

you're not alone

I think about my ex's, but NOT fondly!

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That's the problem, I don't like many of them, but in my dreams, they are just there, and there's usually an issue... I definitely feel better though.....thanks!

definately not alone--- perhaps them appearing in the dream is a way of going back to an issue that you didnt feel was resolved and getting closure on it

You aren't alone. I don't, but I wasn't really attached to many of my exes.

My friend on the other hand still thinks about her ex and even dragged her husband to see his band play 3 hours from where they live.

But she loves her husband and her kids more than anything.

I dated my last ex boyfriend (on and off) for 4 years. We had a very meaningful relationship. Was he someone that I envisioned myself spending the rest of my life with? No.

I dream of him here and there, and it's very strange because like most dreams, they are very vivid. I know exactly why I am indeed dreaming about him. I broke his heart into a gazillion pieces out of the blue, and to this day sometimes that guilt haunts me. I truly felt badly for the way I ended our relationship but I wasn't happy with him. It was very hard to close that chapter of not only his life but also mine without any real closure. Consequently it does come out in my dreams once in awhile and I think of him from time to time wondering how he's doing.

In no way shape or form, does this mean I long for my ex, want to be with my ex, or am still in love with him. He was a pivotal person in my life, and that's okay. We have no contact now and I love being married to my husband. So to answer you, you're definitely not alone and have nothing to worry about. It's completely normal to think about people from your past, including exes.