Please tell me your honest opinion......(sorry, long!!)

I am really confused and not sure what to think...please help :(

When I met my now DH, he had owned a house for 9 years and I owned a co-op for 7. After we got married I moved into his house and I am currently renting my co-op to my sister for a year, which I plan to sell next summer. DH and I have already discussed how the proceeds from the sale of my co-op will be used (partially used to upgrade 'our' house; partial investment; and partial nice vacation ). My dilemma is that he does not want to put my name on his deed (I have no problem putting his name on mine). He says he plans to, but doesn't want to right now because of what he went through before with his ex-wife. In his previous relationship w/his ex-wife, she controlled all the money and he almost lost the house when they went through their divorce. WhIie I understand he is wary, I do not feel right about planning to sell my co-op and using the proceeds for 'us' while he refuses to put my name on the deed of 'his' house. I thought marriage was a shared venture, not a 'you have, I have' agreement. He is not even agreeing about putting my name on the deed when the co-op is sold, even though the proceeds will be put towards us and our future. He says he understands how I feel and in all other ways he is a wonderful husband, but I am very upset over this issue, and i don't know how to handle it. I feel as if I am being 'punished' for what his ex-wife put him through, and it isn't fair.

Thanks for listening....Any comments/ thoughts/advice is very much appreciated...thank you!!!!!!!!