Poll: Do you and DH ever bicker?

Katherine121 Posted: Jul 03, 2005 01:05 PM

Poll: Do you and DH ever bicker?

I'm curious. How many of you feel you have a quiet, idyllic relationship, and how many will admit to the occasional argument? DH and I have a great relationship. I do notice little things we quibble about since we are living together now. If you and DH do argue, is it over relationship stuff, or stuff like the toilet seat's left up AGAIN?

JimmysBride Posted: Jul 03, 2005 01:40 PM

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I wouldn't consider it a great relationship if we NEVER fought. I think a certain amount of bickering and arguing is normal and even necessary for a truly healthy relationship.

So yes we do bicker all the time. We argue less often and even our biggest fights don't last very long. Though I can probably stay mad forever, DH is very much a resolver so we usually end up coming to some sort of resolution pretty quickly. We aren't the type that won't speak to each other for days or make one of us sleep on the couch, etc. That's just not how our fights go.

When we do have our common 'little' bickerings, it's not usually about the mundane things like the toilet seat being up or who made a mess there, etc...we actually get along pretty well in that respect. Usually we bicker if one person is inconsiderate of the other. For example, I was taking a nap in the living room yesterday and someone came to the door. The dogs went ballistic barking and scratching at the door and woke me up and of course DH heard it, yet he didn't get his azz off the computer to get the door, I had to. Those are the little things we bicker over.

btrflygrl Posted: Jul 03, 2005 02:12 PM

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we do argue, but it's never anything serious. It's always over something stupid, or the same thing over and over (like how he piles his clothes in places in the bedroom but not in the hamper and not put away)

diamondgrlie Posted: Jul 03, 2005 02:38 PM

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We bicker once in a while. I voted once or twice a month. (Usually when I get 'cranky') I think when you marry your best friend, the bickering is a natural thing.

AJsMommy122 Posted: Jul 03, 2005 03:03 PM

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We do bicker... Its hard to vote b/c sometimes we will go a month without anything.. other times we have a week where we just seem to bicker constantly.

We went through a period in our relationship where we wouldnt bicker at all.. but we would have one huge blown up argument once a month like clockwork. It was from holding everything back and not letting it out as it happened.

Our fights don't last long... I used to be able to fight for days but I am just to tired to put up a good fight lately
Once I yell a little and get my side across I feel much better and can move on.

My mom tells us we fight too much, I'm like we are having a conversation night fighting
Neither of us is mad or raising our voices and we know when to take eachother seriously.
I think each couple has their own definition of arguing. So if you ask me we hadly ever really argue. If you ask my mom she would tell you we argue all the time

Katherine121 Posted: Jul 03, 2005 03:21 PM

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Wow! You guys all sound not just normal, but actually healthy. And I think it's true: if you're NEVER spatting, that's just not real.

bluesashbride Posted: Jul 03, 2005 03:53 PM

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we just kinda squawk at each other about pet peeve type of stuff--nothing huge. For example, DH is a neat FREAK and he stomps around the house being mad because there are boxes everywhere - uh we're moving! and i just hate his moodiness but i can understand the boxes are annoying to neatnic inside of him. so, he's just squawking!!! i can appreciate a little venting-he lets me do my fair share!

February05 Posted: Jul 03, 2005 03:56 PM

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we 'bicker' almost every single day.. and it will probably always be like that- or until the 'darling' husband realizes that i am ALWAYS right

most of the times, its silly things like DH will complain that i have too many clothes and shoes... to which my response it 'i will gladly throw them all out when you make enough $$ for me to stay home naked and barefoot. until then, learn to deal'
our bicker sessions usually have a 5 minute life span (one of the perks to having a short attention/ memory span ), and we usually end up laughing at each other- and we never go to bed angry. DH may go to bed with bruised nippples, but nonetheless, not angry.

the one thing (and this required Alot of effort on My part)... was that we dont argue in front of other people. we rarely have big arguments anyway, But its important to both of us to have that certain 'unity' when we're out with others. Sometimes the car ride home isnt the most pelasant, but still- whats between Us should stay between us

February05 Posted: Jul 03, 2005 03:58 PM

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Posted by bluesashbride

we just kinda squawk at each other about pet peeve type of stuff--nothing huge. For example, DH is a neat FREAK and he stomps around the house being mad because there are boxes everywhere - uh we're moving! and i just hate his moodiness but i can understand the boxes are annoying to neatnic inside of him. so, he's just squawking!!! i can appreciate a little venting-he lets me do my fair share!

did we marry the same man?

Dooodles Posted: Jul 03, 2005 04:44 PM

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I have to say - I totally agree with Neenie about trying not to argue in front of other people. HOWEVER, with that being said, we do argue a few times a week. Most of these little arguments end up with us laughing at ourselves (or each other) but always with telling each other we love each other. Things have a tendency of getting heated since at times I have a bad temper. But once I calm down, we are back on track. He can keep me grounded, but I think I want to try the purple nipple thing until DH realizes I am also always right!

MissMelissa Posted: Jul 03, 2005 10:01 PM

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are u kidding me with this question??? i laughed out loud when i read it

Sonicstef Posted: Jul 04, 2005 08:33 AM

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We argue all the time...thats just our personalities.

Sometimes being able to argue is a good thing. We dont let things build up over time..we deal with it right away.

melissaandsean Posted: Jul 04, 2005 09:36 AM

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heeheheeh

funny question

every day. And I think it's perfectly normal. We always find our way right back to each other, after we've gotten everything off our chests. We kiss and hug and get on with our lives. Sometimes we'll even laugh about it, because it's so ridiculous. We've actually been starting to do that more. When we find ourselves arguing, one of us will just start smiling and the other will then start laughing and it's over. I find we laugh a lot more now

And we don't argue in front of other people. Something might come up, but we'll say to each other that we'll discuss it later. I think it's important to be respectful to each other at all times, but especially in front of other people.

azoodie Posted: Jul 04, 2005 11:00 AM

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we bicker a few times a week...we're still getting used to living with each other...it can be fun though when we wrestle it out!

Butterflybride Posted: Jul 04, 2005 02:27 PM

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We bicker all the time, but usually for the fun of it. We usually see how long we can go before we start cracking up. A REAL fight between us is very rare.

dita531 Posted: Jul 04, 2005 05:24 PM

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cocoa Posted: Jul 04, 2005 11:29 PM

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how can you not when you live with someone? anyone! especially if you are in close quarters and stressed. we bicker but it just stress coming out. it started with my mom, doubt it will end with dh. just human nature.