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Re: Did your relationship change w/your IN LAWS after you got engaged or married?
We got along better when I wasn't going to become their son's wife. The wedding really strained not only our relationship, but the one that they'd begun to develop with my parents.
After several months, it has entered this kind of recovery stage in which we're still operating. Are we friends? No, and I don't know if we ever will truly be, but everyone involved is making an attempt to get back to the way things were before.
I've read your posts about it - give it time. I'm not saying that they'll completely come around and change, but you never know what can happen just a few months from now.![]()
After several months, it has entered this kind of recovery stage in which we're still operating. Are we friends? No, and I don't know if we ever will truly be, but everyone involved is making an attempt to get back to the way things were before.
I've read your posts about it - give it time. I'm not saying that they'll completely come around and change, but you never know what can happen just a few months from now.
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Re: Did your relationship change w/your IN LAWS after you got engaged or married?
I haven't seen them since we got married... so I'd say no, nothing has changed.
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Ours was strained bc of numerous issues. I have been avoiding them b/c I am hurt about not getting gifts/cards from some of them, and also because I have heard that my MIL keeps trying to get my friends and family members to say bad things about me behind my back, which they of course tell me right away. Avoidance is the only key to happiness in my case!
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Now that I'm his wife, they seem to tell me exactly how they feel. I guess they feel more comfy with me, but I've been hurt a few times. I guess I need thicker skin.
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no comment.
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lets just say i see them when needed
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No, but I think they would like grandchildren. Considering I married their only son and the last male in their branch of the family tree, I suppose I have a little leverage![]()
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Hmm... not really. I also feel like they are more comfotable with me in some ways and because of that I have been hurt....
The only thing that has really changed is that I'm told exactly how things are and occasionally how things will be done. I go along with it and dont' question it, yet my BIL's wife gets to do anything she wants becasue no one wants to deal with her. Because she isn't always nice(to put it mildly) she gets whatever she wants... makes u wonder.....
The only thing that has really changed is that I'm told exactly how things are and occasionally how things will be done. I go along with it and dont' question it, yet my BIL's wife gets to do anything she wants becasue no one wants to deal with her. Because she isn't always nice(to put it mildly) she gets whatever she wants... makes u wonder.....
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I feel like his mom is more passive aggressive toward me than before. Of course, he's her only child and she doesn't have a boyfriend/husband, so I guess it's not surprising.
It was REALLY funny though when we went to visit her and there were NO pictures of me anywhere in the house. Oh, there were pics of her dancing with her dad at our wedding and her dancing with DH at our wedding, but you'd never know whose wedding it was or, if you guessed it was her son's wedding, you'd never know who he was marrying![]()
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Seriously, there were pics of her random friends' adopted son but NO pics of her daughter in law???![]()
It was REALLY funny though when we went to visit her and there were NO pictures of me anywhere in the house. Oh, there were pics of her dancing with her dad at our wedding and her dancing with DH at our wedding, but you'd never know whose wedding it was or, if you guessed it was her son's wedding, you'd never know who he was marrying
Seriously, there were pics of her random friends' adopted son but NO pics of her daughter in law???
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Posted by Dom n Nic
lets just say i see them when needed
Right there with you. We have had strains in our relationship. Nothing has changed & I don't see it ever changing. They are who they are & we are who we are.
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Strangely enough, my answer is 'Sort of'. My MIL is the same person, but she doesn't have anything to hold over my head anymore like she did when we were planning, so I don't really get stressed out over what she says as much as I used to.
Although, I have to say that it still p*sses me off when she puts DH down - he's your SON, for goodness' sake woman!!!!! She definitely favors her younger son.
Although, I have to say that it still p*sses me off when she puts DH down - he's your SON, for goodness' sake woman!!!!! She definitely favors her younger son.
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Posted by Dom n Nic
lets just say i see them when needed
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It will constantly evolve. The funny part is you change your ways w/ them too. I find I'm more comfortable and treat them more and more like family.
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Yes, I felt like during the wedding planning we didnt get along as well as the 8 yrs DH and I were dating. Its better now though.
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I feel like his mom is more passive aggressive toward me than before. Of course, he's her only child and she doesn't have a boyfriend/husband, so I guess it's not surprising.
It was REALLY funny though when we went to visit her and there were NO pictures of me anywhere in the house. Oh, there were pics of her dancing with her dad at our wedding and her dancing with DH at our wedding, but you'd never know whose wedding it was or, if you guessed it was her son's wedding, you'd never know who he was marrying![]()
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Seriously, there were pics of her random friends' adopted son but NO pics of her daughter in law???![]()
That is totally rude. I would make a sarcastic comment to her about having no pics of the bride and the groom. Some people have some set of you know what!!!
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nope, everything is jsut about the same. his family has always been very warm and welcoming to me thankfully and that is still the way it is.. i thank god everyday that Dh has such a wonderful family.![]()
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yes and for the better! i wasnt close to my IL's or SIL/BIL at all until we got engaged. the whole planning process has really brought us together and now i hang out with them without DH! we really feel like a family now!!!!
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Everything is basically the same. Things have always been great. The only thing that I guess is a little different is that they know now that their son needs to discuss decisions with his wife, not them anymore. But, they are totally cool with it. They always tell me, he's all mine. ![]()
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