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Shower Etiquette Question

lmm0922 Posted: Sep 02, 2003 01:46 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 01:46 PM

Shower Etiquette Question

Hi girls! What type of shower gift do you get for someone you really don't know nor care for and will probably never see again after the wedding? This woman is my husband's friend's bride. I'm actually surprised I was invited because she wasn't invited to my shower. The reason I ask is that I had a few no shows at my shower and I didn't receive gifts from the people who I wasn't really friendly with. (Their husbands were friends with my husband.) Is this the norm?

NovemberSue Posted: Sep 02, 2003 01:49 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 01:49 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

If its someone you really don't care for,then I wouldn't go. You can just tell whoever is throwing the shower that you can't make it.

CatchI22 Posted: Sep 02, 2003 01:58 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 01:58 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

I wouldn't go either, if I didn't invite that person to my shower and I wasn't friendly per say with them. Maybe just send something from the rregistry, like a 40$ gift.

Sonicstef Posted: Sep 02, 2003 02:03 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 02:03 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

I wouldnt go either ... probably send a nice card and maybe a GC to the store she was registered at if it were my husbands friend.

februarybride Posted: Sep 02, 2003 02:24 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 02:24 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

I wouldn't go...I would just send a small gift. I think that is generous!

michele31 Posted: Sep 02, 2003 02:32 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 02:32 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

If it is your husband's close friend I would go...if not, then just send a small gift from her registry. Don't try to pick something out if you don't know her tastes.

lmm0922 Posted: Sep 02, 2003 02:38 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 02:38 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

I agree if my husband and the groom were close I would go and get her something nice. My husband was actually hurt by the fact that they did not come to our ceremony (at the time they lived just a few blocks away) and he's not one to be easily insulted. I've made up my mind not to go. I just have to figure out what to get. I like the gift certificate idea.

franksbride Posted: Sep 02, 2003 03:04 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 03:04 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

Don't go if you don't want to...but if you do go, a small gift should be fine.

Scoop Posted: Sep 02, 2003 03:33 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 03:33 PM

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I would send a gift and base the amount on how close my husband was with hers.

Diane Posted: Sep 02, 2003 04:35 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 04:35 PM

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I agree..dont go if you will never see them after the wedding.

yabbobay Posted: Sep 02, 2003 05:39 PM+

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Posted: Sep 02, 2003 05:39 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

If I didn't know anyone else going...i probably wouldn't go...

either way I would buy something from off the registry

kelly6273 Posted: Sep 03, 2003 01:42 PM+

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Posted: Sep 03, 2003 01:42 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

I wouldn't go to the shower, but I would send a gift. Usually when I barely know the person I just get a gift certificate where they are registered.

Nora101004 Posted: Sep 03, 2003 01:56 PM+

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Posted: Sep 03, 2003 01:56 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

I'd try a discount store like Marshall's. I got my cuz Waterford Crystal Wine Stops for $20. Or just watch for good sales at Macy's, maybe try the outlets. I'd go more for price then what was on the registry.

CutieLipps Posted: Sep 03, 2003 04:45 PM+

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Posted: Sep 03, 2003 04:45 PM

Re: Shower Etiquette Question

I wouldn't go, but I would definitely send a gift. It's rude not to send a gift. I had a few people who were not able to make it, but they all sent gifts.