since you have been married have you noticed

kellybean Posted: Mar 18, 2008 03:27 PM

since you have been married have you noticed

That some of your relationships with people have changed? Not with DH but with friends etc?

PeteysBride Posted: Mar 18, 2008 03:40 PM

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Posted by kellybean

That some of your relationships with people have changed? Not with DH but with friends etc?

Mm not really. Most of our friends are married but the unmarried ones defiently because they want to hang out at bars and clubs and I don't. i am happy spendign time with my hubby and don't really feel like fending men off all night now that I REALLY DO have a husband lol and am not just saying it to get them to back off.

So with them, def change but its not hostile. We just ahve different priorities now. Alot of those same friends are still waitressing, doing acting on the side, working odd jobs etc so their situations are a little less stable and they think I am 'boring' and I worry about their security. Just diff lives. I ind amrried women a little easier to talk to now because we're closer to the same boat thats all.

diva7531 Posted: Mar 18, 2008 04:05 PM

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I noticed that change when I had DD, all of my friends were single n drunk.

dgirl0114 Posted: Mar 18, 2008 04:10 PM

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My relationships with certain friends have changed in the last few months but not necessarily because I got married. I think it's more the fact that I finally realized that some friendships are harmful to me and emotionally draining. And I just don't want that in my life anymore.

KRISTYRUSSELL Posted: Mar 18, 2008 04:13 PM

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evnme Posted: Mar 18, 2008 04:15 PM

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yes i have.
i first noticed it when certain other friends got married before us.

Brian and Marie Posted: Mar 18, 2008 04:23 PM

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Just that I talk to them a little less

JennNicole Posted: Mar 18, 2008 04:29 PM

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My relationships with certain friends have changed in the last few months but not necessarily because I got married. I think it's more the fact that I finally realized that some friendships are harmful to me and emotionally draining. And I just don't want that in my life anymore.

AMEN

failurebydsign Posted: Mar 18, 2008 04:43 PM

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i have..not with friends..but family..

when it was someone else big day everyone had to drop everything for them..but when my turn came around..it was like everyone had something better to do

im over it now

i got my hubby and my dog and our new house that i dont have the time or the energy to worry about it anymore

Christys0925 Posted: Mar 18, 2008 05:15 PM

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I def notice things have changed. I don't hear from them much anymore. I have no idea why.

curiousgeorge Posted: Mar 18, 2008 06:08 PM

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Posted by gemmifer

My relationships with certain friends have changed in the last few months but not necessarily because I got married. I think it's more the fact that I finally realized that some friendships are harmful to me and emotionally draining. And I just don't want that in my life anymore.

AMEN

100% AMEN!!!!! I realized that my life with my husband is too precious and short for me to waste my time with friends who are leeches and self centered.. Its a relief not to have that in my life anymore.... I have a nice group of amazing friends that I have had since elementary school...that accept my hubby...we all still go out and have a great time...but our defination of a great time has changed..from clubs to all of us going to someones house to hang out.....enjoying each others company

iwannabmrsD Posted: Mar 18, 2008 06:13 PM

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not so much since i've been married but while i was planning i noticed some chages in some of my friendships.. some got stronger and some died all completely..

one was a best friend and maid of honor.. i kicked her out o my wedding 3 weeks before my wedding day.. and never looked back..

drpepper318 Posted: Mar 18, 2008 06:30 PM

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Some of my relationships have changed with several people lately, but in my case I don't think it's because of getting married. Maybe because my life didn't change much at all when I got married.
I think having kids changes relationships more than getting married does. I have some friends who, once they had kids, don't really talk to me anymore, I'm not sure if it's because they are really busy or if they feel like I can't relate to them, or maybe both.

Summer07Bride Posted: Mar 18, 2008 07:00 PM

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My relationships have remained the same since the wedding. I do not see them as much as I used to (I now live upstate) but we have a get together every 4-6 weeks.