'So-called friend' Vent

So one of my DH's former co-workers (he still works for NYSP but they have both been in different barracks for several years now & we see them once in a blue moon for a social event)

He hasnt been much of a friend to DH - they only live 1/2 hr away from us but have come to our house 2 times since we bought the house up here in 2004. Yep that's right - 2 times in 6 years.

They never came to our wedding (although they sent a small check - out of guilt Im sure), and the last time they came over to us was for our halloween party in mid october - they have been telling us yeah we need to get together, blah blah blah & we even said the next time we would come to them (b/c obviously to drive a 1/2 hr to see a 'friend' is truly a HUGE sacrifice ) We still have not gotten together with them & they keep coming up w/ excuses why we cant.

Today DH emails his 'friend' to ask for his camping stuff so we can go camping in a few weeks. He replies back that he doesnt have it & that DH's ex-wife came up one weekend whiel they were still married to come get it - why she would make a trip up just for that...sounded fishy to me. So DH emails ex-wife to see if she really has the stuf - or at least if she really did drive up there to take the stuff. Ex-wife gets back to us right away & says no she never drove up there & doesnt recall seeing the camping stuff in storage either. She also said why would she make a special trip just for camping stuff (exactly what we thought too). So DH wrote friend back & told him he spoke w/ ex-wife & she said she never drove up there to get the camping stuff. (I think friend didnt know DH still had limited contact w/ex-wife). Well friend writes back we dont have it. I mean - they dont go camping - they dont do ANYTHING - so why be spiteful just b/c we like to do things besides watch the grass grow, & keep DH's stuff that HE paid for?

Then to top it all off friend's wife is also a FB friend & she posts tonight:
'I am happy (and grateful) that I am in a marriage where I don't need to 'scream from the rooftops' or 'declare' my love for my husband to validate that love.. I don't need to convince everyone else when the only person that it matters to is him.'

ugh...jealous jealous jealous.

I took this as a direct personal hit & now I am steaming about it! I so want to write something like 'well I am glad I am in a marriage where my husband can have friendships with whomever without having to check with me 1st if it's ok!' (she keeps her husband on a VERY tight leash)

Am I wrong for being pi$$ed about that comment?

I dont really think it's SO terrible when people write nice things back & forth to each other on FB who are OBVIOUSLY in love with each other.

Vent over. Thanks for getting this far.

The camping stuff sounds soooo odd. Why would they say someone picked it up if they didn't AND knew that there was a possibility that you'd find out. Maybe they gave it away? Sounds so crazy.


As for the FB status.....I'm the FIRST person to post how happy I am with my wonderful husband on my fb status....those that don't like it....TOO BAD! Laurie you keep struttin' your awesome man and don't ANYONE tell you differently or bother you.

Maybe you should refer to that thread about deleting ppl....these people sound nuts and you and your DH are better off w/o them.

That sounds really weird all around. Maybe DH should call his friend and be like 'are you sure you don't have it in storage or something' and really press the issue with him? I mean, these people at this point aren't really your friends anymore. So I would not mind about you being the most annoying you can be to try to get your stuff back. After that, I wouldn't talk to them anymore. It's just not worth it. And real friends with put forth effort to have you around and want to spend time with you and be nice to you (and not be petty on FB).

ugh i hate people!!!!!!!

i dont get it laurie!

feel better! try to not let them bother you!

Maybe they sold the stuff??? I dont know, first thing that came to mind

wow..well the camping stuff is strange and if u dont get it back or the money for it..i would go and steal a lawnmower from them or something and hold it for ransom

as for the fb staus..dont et it bother u..she put it on there for show and if u want make urs..i love that i have friends where if they borrow something ,they return it