so depressed....my mom is so negative (LONG)

Our wedding was beautiful, i loved it, i miss it, and im overall very happy with how it went.

My mom has always been one of my best friends...but lately she's making me so depressed. Anytime I mention anything about the wedding, she has something negaitve to say. When our video came back she complained that she wasnt in it enough, that he should have gotten certain shots, etc. She even went as far as saying 'do you really think you got your moneys worth?'

Today I showed her our proofs -- which DH and I were thrilled with! Well...she complains that she's standing strange in every formal picture, that the photographer didnt give them 'direction' or tell them what to do and 'thats not what a good photographer' does. She complained that some of the pictures were 'weird'....in other words....the artistic shots! She complained that there were too many bridal party shots and not enough family shots, she says that there should have been posed shots for all the tables, etc.

After the wedding she kept complaining about who she never danced with, that the RH didnt announce the cordials in the back, about where she was sitting.

I cant EVER mention the wedding without hearing something bad. I feel horrible. I keep trying to explain that WE like the pictures we got, WE like the candids more than posed shots, we didnt want to have table shots, etc. She just keeps going on about how i say that now but i'm going to 'regret it later in life.' I'm ready to cry!!!! I dont understand why she would keep saying things like that -- she knows how hard its been for me to get over the fact that my wedding is finished. She even has said after complaining about something 'well...i guess it doesnt matter because its over and theres nothing you can do about it now'


Anyone else experiencing anything like this?

thanks for letting me vent girls

Its hard when you would normally want your Mom to rave about how beautiful everything was.......

I am sure she has good intentions....and sometimes Mom's are very particular b/c they want everything to be perfect for their kids, even thought it sounds (and looks!) like it was perfect.

I have a funny feeling that when you're not around, she's telling all of her friends and acquaintences about her daughter's wedding and how phenominal it was

I agree you should talk to your mom about this; the old 'if you dont have anything nice to say...' addage applies.

I'm sorry your mom is making you so upset; i tend to think there is something else going on with her and this is how it is manifesting.

My mom was worse during the planning stages...

She made a few comment about some proofs....like 'I don't like that Matt is sitting here', 'Ew I have 5 chins', 'I don't like this picture of you, why did they have to stand that way'...ya know normal stuff....

I'm sure your mom has good intentions, she probably doesn't realize she has even said all of these things. Maybe ask her to nicely stop. let her know she's hurting your feelings, she's your mom, I'm sure she'd understand.

Sounds to me like your mom has a problem with something--maybe not even regarding the wedding. Maybe she's crabby because she feels like she's 'lost' you or something. It can come out like that--trust me, I know whereof I speak.

Why don't you talk to your mom? Say, 'you've been so negative about the wedding ever since the day...is there something wrong?' Can't hurt.

I feel so terrible! As long as you and DH like them, that is what matters. Sounds like she had high expectations for your video and pictures and just wants the best.
My mother couldn't have cared less if we were naked in all of our pictures.
When I brought over my proofs for her to view, she politely told me that my wedding was a done deal and old news. She practically fell asleep going through them.
... Needless to say I never bothered with the video

If you are happy with how everything turned out then that is really all that matters.