Spinoff to a BHB thread - Parents

greenfreak Posted: Aug 17, 2006 12:47 PM

Spinoff to a BHB thread - Parents

When did your parents and your in-laws meet for the first time? How soon before the wedding?

Now that you're married, do you have plans for them to get together again? If you have your own family events coming up, are you considering inviting the in-laws now too?

Our parents met at my bridal shower, just a couple months before the wedding. They are very different people (just as my DH and I are) so we were a little weirded out about the whole meeting. It went ok, not spectacular.

We figured, after the wedding, that that would be it for a while. But his parents invited my parents to their house for dinner about a month after we got back from our honeymoon. And they persisted. And persisted.

So we all got together a few weeks ago. And the minute we were all ready to get in our cars and leave, they already start making plans to have his parents come out to my parents house now.

We thought this kind of thing would wait until we have a house and have our own parties. I find it funny and wonder how long this will last. It's painfully obvious to DH and I that they are all on their guard and haven't 'hit it off' yet.

What's up in your neck of the woods with all the parents?

jeanla4c Posted: Aug 17, 2006 12:56 PM

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Since they live about 12 hours apart from each other they didn't meet until the night before our first engagement party. They also are very very different people and it went surprisingly very well.

We also had Thanksgiving at our home last year with both of our parents and it was quite lovely.

Due to the distance though, I don't ever see them really getting together regularly at all.

july06bride Posted: Aug 17, 2006 01:00 PM

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Our parents met while we were dating- we have had holidays together already and we have shared bdays and dinners and our moms have even gone away together-to mohegan sun...its nice ....wedding planning may have tampered with the relationship a little bit-but I like how everyone gets along and we are able to have all those things together, makes life easier

Goldi1021 Posted: Aug 17, 2006 01:39 PM

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Sadly, my ILs never met my father as he had been ill. They met my mother at his funeral. . 6 months before the wedding - give or take a few days.

FallBride05 Posted: Aug 17, 2006 04:15 PM

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Prior to our engagement, DH started talking about setting up a time for our parents to meet. It was a little tricky since my mother lives in Florida and had to make a trip just to do this. As it turned out the dates were set, but I think they were too far away from the time DH wanted to propose. So we got engaged, my father and step mother met my IL's 2 weeks later when we went to look at a hall, and my mother met them two months later when she ws able to get up from florida.

CLMon7906 Posted: Aug 17, 2006 04:23 PM

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ours met at the e-party. my family lived in NC and his in NY so it made a little more sense than for some.

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Aug 17, 2006 05:02 PM

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Thankfully, the parents get along really well. They first met 2 months after we were engaged, when my parents went to see the hall we chose. Now, my ILs come to my parents' house every 4th of July (2 years running) and my parents come to my ILs big bbq in August celebrating my DH and FILs birthdays (and my dad's sinceh is is a week before). Actually this big bbq is Saturday and we just got into NY. So, the parents do see each other, but not a whole lot. We may combine Thanksgiving some years just for a change. We're not sure yet. But, since my parents are in MA and my ILs in NY (and us in MD), we can't all get together too much. But it's nice when we do.