One of my good friends from college wasn't able to come to our wedding because her FBIL was getting married that same weekend. I completely understand that. She didn't send a gift for the wedding or the shower and her flight was mysteriously changed for my bachelorette party so she couldn't come to that either. This isn't a huge deal, but we're going to her wedding in New Orleans in September. We're spending a ton of money on flights and hotels for the weekend. What kind of gift should we give her? I'm kind of tempted not to give anything, but that's just me being petty.
KRISTYRUSSELL
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There seems to be something real wrong with that. Why couldnt she just say that she couldnt make it or that she couldnt afford it and send at least a small gift to say congratulations, people are strange. I would be a better person and give her what you planned on giving her, make a fun trip out of it with your new husband. I just wouldnt go out of my way at all to help her with anything. Of course inside you are going to have some resentment, who wouldnt, she is your friend and she did wrong by you....so sorry that you had to deal with that, here are some hugs, all I can say is life is too short, enjoy it and do right by everyone.
heatherandrichie
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JMO, but be the bigger person. Don't give more than $100 though. That seems to be the norm in the south.
NinaChris07
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I would buy something off her registry in the 50-100 range..
We had a similar (though not as bad, because IMO, it was really rude of her to miss ALL three events and not even send a gift to one) - but we had friends who came with no gifts, so we are getting something off their registry in that range..
Snickers76
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Posted by NinaChris07
I would buy something off her registry in the 50-100 range.. /QUOTE]
This is a good idea.
MJDoc12
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since you are traveling--and spending lots of money to do so---i would say just a $50 registry item is fine.
i had OOT guests come to my wedding--and i absolutely did NOT accept a gift from them. having to spend $500 or so to travel and pay for a hotel was more than enough to me--and i told them that if they tried to give me a gift i would slap them across their face.
i think if you have to travel for a wedding---you shouldn't really have to spend $$ on a gift. your presence at that point is gift enuff
