Now that you are married - is gift-giving not as much fun anymore? What I mean is, for all the DH gave me this weekend - he then sends roses on V-Day - which we all know is insanely expensive. Although I love them, at the same time - I'm mentally calculating all that we should be doing with that money, what bill it should go to paying off, etc. Now that we're married, I don't think giving/receiving gifts anymore is as guiltless as it was before. Anyone else feel this way?
Sonicstef
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Its definitely not as guiltless. Anything he buys for me, I immediately think of what it cost.
But Im not really a Valentines person. I would rather he give me flowers on any other day. Its a lot less important when you are each others valentine all the time. Sounds very corny, I know..but true.
So what Im trying to say is it has its advantages.
suven
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yes, gift giving is A LOT more guilt filled!
Moehick
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Definitely..we just went to dinner when we usually brought gifts for each other! Since our anniversary is in a month we decided that was enough.
Yes, I mentally calculate the cost too.
070502
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We had that exact conversation today when Dh came home from work...' sorry I don't have roses I was about to stop but then I figured you would rather spend the money on a palm tree or something for the front landscaping'
Dh proposed on Valentine's Day 2002... so it's pretty hard for him to top that special weekend! We just did cards and I made him breakfast and he made me dinner out on our patio.
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Posted by Sonicstef
Its definitely not as guiltless. Anything he buys for me, I immediately think of what it cost.
But Im not really a Valentines person. I would rather he give me flowers on any other day. Its a lot less important when you are each others valentine all the time. Sounds very corny, I know..but true.
So what Im trying to say is it has its advantages.
I totally agree..note from hubby : This is a special day in some eyes, but every day with you good or bad is special to me . . . having you and Amaya makes all 365 days of the year Valentines day for me so, therefore here are roses for you just to say happy Valentine . . . love and kises as always.
I get flowers for different occasions..no specific reason but the good thing about it is, he is not frivolous with money usually so its a perk to get them.
RedHead
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YES! I agree...we decided to not give gifts..we are trying to save I came home to 2 dozen roses and although i absolutely was surprised and LOVED them...apart of me though
pschica
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definitely....i figure out how much it costs, what we needed instead, etc....i still enjoy it - but in a different way!
1017Bride
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Yes we did feel some guilt even though we both enjoyed our gifts.
Blu-ize
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We work it out. Our anniversary is two weeks later, so we combine the gifts. One year we go on a vacation, another year we get each other some luxury gifts, and other years we just do the candy, flowers, dinner thing. It depends on the year and what went on with $$. There has also been the lingerie years. Then after that we are both March babies and we have to take that into consideration too...there's always a strategy.
