Step~ Children

luvleyles Posted: Jan 05, 2003 10:05 PM

Step~ Children

Anone else have them now?! I am the step-mother of 3 now!

RichsBride Posted: Jan 05, 2003 11:22 PM

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Yep, I have 1 Step-daughter & my DH has 1 step-son now.
It's not as easy as the Brady Bunch makes it look!

RichsBride Posted: Jan 05, 2003 11:59 PM

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luvleyles,
Do your kids live with you fulltime? My son is with us fulltime, I'm his only custodial parent.
We have Nicole every other weekend & any other times her Mom is flexible on. We split holidays. It's complicated...we live in Oakdale, Nicole lives in Lynbrook. So it's not like we can just run over there any time. It's always such a pain when we are trying to plan ahead to do things. Rich is always a little sad when she's not here. He keeps her bedroom door closed because it's makes him sad to see her room empty. Things are better with her Mom now, since we've gotten married I guess she has excepted the situation.
How is everything working out for you?

Stacey1403 Posted: Jan 06, 2003 12:58 AM

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I just want you both to know I adore my step-mom!!!

MichelleW Posted: Jan 06, 2003 09:05 AM

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My husband became a step father to my son when we got married. His 'dad' and I use this term loosely lives in Florida and only has visitation

MaryK Posted: Jan 06, 2003 09:34 AM

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When I get married, I will be the step mom to 4 teenagers! I've been with their dad for a little over three years - they have their own beds/rooms at my place. While we were dating they stayed at my place since it was much bigger than his ap, so they're used to it. We only see them every other weekend; they live about an hour away.

RichsBride Posted: Jan 06, 2003 09:38 AM

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Michele, How old is your son?

April,
Wow!!! I give you a lot of credit! Teenagers are tough! My son drives my husband nuts sometimes.
We all get along pretty well, but it's stressful at times!

shamma Posted: Jan 06, 2003 09:45 AM

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I am a step mother to a 16yr old boy. His dad has sole custody. I don't feel like a mom tho' his mother is around and he visits her all the time. I guess I met him when he was already so old. I met him when he was 12.

RichsBride Posted: Jan 06, 2003 09:48 AM

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Shamma,
I never knew you had a stepson!!! What grade is he in? My son is in 10th.

shamma Posted: Jan 06, 2003 09:55 AM

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Edited to say, I made a mistake he is a junior in
HS at Bklyn Tech

shamma Posted: Jan 06, 2003 09:57 AM

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Here he is with his dad

He was a GM at our wedding. He said it was the best wedding he was ever in and the most fun bridal party he has ever been a part of

RichsBride Posted: Jan 06, 2003 10:00 AM

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He's handsome!!!!!!!!
Here's my son with Rich & our Best Man(he's on the right)

Crisco718 Posted: Jan 06, 2003 10:31 AM

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I will be a stepmom to a 12 year old girl. The relationship between her father and mother is very rocky!!!!! This is going to take a lot of prayer and patience.

shamma Posted: Jan 06, 2003 10:35 AM

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Crisco, I know what you mean, that is one of the reasons I did not want to get in to a relationship with a man that had a child/children, but ours has been good and I have to say thank God b/c I know I would not be able to deal with any baby mamma drama at all. I think it is important that the father/mother let the child's other parent know that they must respect his/her home, or the outside parent will create havoc. I had to nip that mess right in the bud before it got out of hand. Now it is good morning, good afternoon and no darn uncessary calls

RichsBride Posted: Jan 06, 2003 10:36 AM

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Crisco,
Dealing with the ex IS the hard part, the kids are the easy part. The hardest thing for me was having another person(that doesn't have have my best intrest a heart)involved in my life & able to have some control over it.
My step daughter is usually the sweetest, funniest kid on the planet...........after she's been 'de-programed' .

dgtlsunshine Posted: Jan 06, 2003 10:56 AM

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I don't have any step children but I just wanted to say how great it is to see the kids were in the wedding. I was just at a friends wedding and the step children were not even at the wedding. I thought that was so childish of the parents to not let the kids be at their own father's wedding.

michele31 Posted: Jan 06, 2003 11:41 AM

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I am a stepchild and have been for many years. I think becoming a stepparent it is a huge responsiblity and one that should be take seriously. There were times in the beginning that were very difficult for my stepmother and I (such as her children being treated differently than us) but after many years of working thru our relationship she is very much a Mom to me.

luvleyles Posted: Jan 06, 2003 02:18 PM

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I have 3 - 19 y/o boy, and 2 girls 13 and 9. The two girls are with us every other weekend from Friday - Sunday, and Mike sees them every Tuesday and THursday for a couple of hours in the eveing. It's tough - it's very tough actually. But we are at the beginning stages of a beautiful relationship. They are just at tough ages. Girls are tough. But I love them so much - and it is so sexy to see Mike as such a great Dad. It's also very sad - 'who has us this weekend, who has us for this holiday', etc. We live in Huntington Station, and they live in Sayville. So when we buy we would love to live in Oakdale!