Thank you card question

I just got married last month. We had two couples
(from his side of course) not give us anything. That is four people. I did not expect anyone to cover their plates at my wedding. We got married on a saturday night and paid top price for our dinners and it was a little more of an expensive place than alot of other places I know of. The fact that someone cant even give a card, I really cannot understand. Even a small token of a thought would of been nice. You go to birthday parties in homes and give gifts. That was a full night of dinner, cocktail hour, dancing and drinking. I would never do that to anyone! I havent crossed the thank you card bridge yet, but wanted to share my thoughts. Did anybody else have alot of people who didnt even give a card? It really is amazing!

Cindy: That is all of hubby's family..only his mom and one of his sisters gave anything or a card...he is # 11 of 11 and they were all there and nothing. Oh one of his brothers who could not make it from the caribbean even sent us something and a card...what does that say for the rest of them???

Diane, when you get the ones from your photographer are you going to send out another set??? why don't you just wait, most people will be expecting to see a pix of the happy couple, etiquette states you have up to 3 mos I believe...don't give yourself double work.

Diane-
I agree with Shamma96 about not doubling your work (or postage) with the ty cards. If you are planning on sending out pics and want to get a jump on it, write all the cards out and have them ready to go so you can just slip the picture inside. If you are going to send the pic with the cards the photographer provides, ask them to give you the cards so you can start them. Photographers usually have a quick turnaround time with the ty pics too (unless you & DH are having trouble picking which pose to order ). We got formal thank you cards when we ordered our invitations but I chose to use the photographer's cards - it was easier and the formal thank yous have been useful for non-wedding situations since (they were blank inside with our names on the front.)
Hope this helps.

Thanks for the replies about the TY card question....I feel like I should have had them in the mail already for some reason! I would like to get some use out of the ones from the photographer...I guess I will wait.
Thanks again!