Thank you cards to Guests who Didn't give a gift

crystalsky Posted: Dec 26, 2007 09:16 AM

Thank you cards to Guests who Didn't give a gift

Wanted to get some of your opinions as I am writing out my thank you cards.

I have a couple of people who came to my wedding, who gave neither a card or a gift.
Any thoughts on sending a thank you card to these people? I am inclined not to but wanted to see if any of you girls came across this situation.

Thank you in advance.

PeteysBride Posted: Dec 26, 2007 09:16 AM

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Yea I sent them a TY -for coming. But I didnt say ty for a gift or anything-stated ty for coming and that was it.

Elise&Matt Posted: Dec 26, 2007 09:18 AM

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I think it's ettique you should send them one for attending....

DeannaNDave07 Posted: Dec 26, 2007 09:27 AM

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Posted by PeteysBride

Yea I sent them a TY -for coming. But I didnt say ty for a gift or anything-stated ty for coming and that was it.

thats a good idea... we had the same thing... someone came but gave no gift.

drpepper318 Posted: Dec 26, 2007 09:29 AM

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I have this situation too. I'm not sending them a thank you.

werock0709 Posted: Dec 26, 2007 09:39 AM

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I sent them squat!!! Especially if you knew about my wedding 1 year in advance, and you can't even buy a card, I had to pay over 2 hundred dollars for you AND your guest to eat and drink all you want. As far as I'm concerned, your written off!!!!!

PeteysBride Posted: Dec 26, 2007 09:43 AM

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-rolls- LOVE the angry mel! Go on your warpath girl lmao. I will admit I fudged lil bit-we didnt send a card to one relative because they are known a holes and gave us NADA AND had the nerve to say ...'the RH stole it...' mind you, we had 4 carsd misplaced outside by guests and each one was recovered except his...the notoriously cheap one...

riiiight.

crystalsky Posted: Dec 26, 2007 10:30 AM

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Posted by werock0709

I sent them squat!!! Especially if you knew about my wedding 1 year in advance, and you can't even buy a card, I had to pay over 2 hundred dollars for you AND your guest to eat and drink all you want. As far as I'm concerned, your written off!!!!!

Exactly. One of these people brought a guest, and both are all over my wedding video.. They didn't even give a card. Now I have to be reminded of them and the fact they didn't give a thing.

ali120206 Posted: Dec 26, 2007 11:32 AM

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We had a few guests who didn't even give a card and we sent them a thank you note for spending our special day with us.

Snickers76 Posted: Dec 26, 2007 01:53 PM

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We just sent cards thanking them for attending...

Dear _________,

Thank you for attending our wedding. We hope you had a good time.

Best,

bonniejd Posted: Dec 26, 2007 05:44 PM

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We sent thank yous to everyone who attended. We only had 1 person not give a gift and sent a thank you for sharing the day with us. We didn't invite them so they would give us a gift, we invited them so they would come spend our wedding day with us and that is what they did.

Lissy3077 Posted: Dec 26, 2007 07:29 PM

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Posted by werock0709

I sent them squat!!! Especially if you knew about my wedding 1 year in advance, and you can't even buy a card, I had to pay over 2 hundred dollars for you AND your guest to eat and drink all you want. As far as I'm concerned, your written off!!!!!

ditto>>> i totally agree with you... i did the exact same thing....

evnme Posted: Dec 26, 2007 07:31 PM

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Posted by PeteysBride

Yea I sent them a TY -for coming. But I didnt say ty for a gift or anything-stated ty for coming and that was it.

this is what we did too

diva7531 Posted: Dec 26, 2007 07:54 PM

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I have 2 cousins who attended and no gift or card. I know guests have 1 year to give a gift, so I will say thank you for attending, hope you had a good time, (I love that line!)

kns11 Posted: Dec 26, 2007 11:36 PM

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As stated above I would send a thank you and just write thanks for being with us on our special day. Thankfully we did not have this issue.

Colette Posted: Dec 27, 2007 12:24 AM

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I'm with the 'send one' crew. I see it this way... I invited them for a reason, right? And even if the reason was to 'keep the peace' well that's a noble aspiration... Gift or no gift, they took time to come to our party, and that deserves a thank you. Of course I wouldn't be effusive or anything, that's disingenuous, but a short note 'thank you so much for sharing in our day' would be appropriate.

My standard is simple, I am who I am (didn't Popeye say that?) and just because someone might be a cheapie doesn't mean I have to be tacky in response. If I don't send one, then for the rest of my life every time I see them or hear their names I'd be THINKING... [insert cartoon bubble here] 'Ohhh Mr & Mrs Cheapie, they're the ones who came to the wedding and didn't give us a gift; well, I got the last word, I didn't send them a TY blahblahblahblah'.

If I send the TY card I am FREEEEEE and can hold my head high knowing I showed some grace...

*NB: For the most part I was truly ASTOUNDED at our guests' generosity, I was amazed at what some guests gave us as a gift At the end of the day they MORE than make up for the cheapies (to my knowledge there were only 2 non gifters, and that was FINE with us!!)

Mooshyboo Posted: Dec 27, 2007 09:10 AM

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I am going to thank them for coming and spending the day with us...

Mich0621 Posted: Dec 27, 2007 12:53 PM

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For those who explained to me before RSVPing that they couldn't afford to but came at my urging, yes.

For those who showed up, ate as a couple, even with kids (costing us about 400) and didn't even have the courtesy to give us a 1 dollar card....i am not wasting the postage

Michi9506 Posted: Dec 27, 2007 02:32 PM

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NO WAY IN ***...We had 3 people come with no gift or card. They could of at least gave a card if they couldnt afford a gift...they're not gettin nothing from us