Thoughtful Thursday 10/29 NWQOTD

I was reading about this & it has prompted this question:

We've all been there...we've told a little white lie to ensure our continued “survival.” These fibs have been highlighted in sitcoms and movies with cliche lines like, “No, honey, those pants don't make your butt look big,” and “Sure, I like your best friend’s husband -- I think we should always have to chest-bump as a form of greeting in this country!” (The latter line, of course, is said by a scrawny guy who can't handle chest bumps.)


A new article in The Wall Street Journal says that these little fibs may actually be necessary for the survival of your relationship. Why? Little lies protect your partner’s ego or feelings and may help avoid unnecessary conflict. The author of the article interviewed a psychologist who said, “It's a matter of survival. If you don't fib, you don't live.” But is a conflict-free existence really worth, well, lying all the time?

So the question is: Is lying to your spouse necessary (keep in mind we’re talking small, white lies here)? Is it ever worth it?

Well - I am guilty of telling the little white lie - is it necessary? Sometimes... There are times when I know DH is just looking for a little extra reassurance when he's having a bad day at work & I dont feel it's necessary to make the world an even meaner place than it is. Is it worth it? I'd say yes - it gets him through his 'mood' and then we can move ahead to enjoy the rest of our day or night.

i think the little white lies are necessary!
sometimes we need to hear what we wanna hear even if its not entirely the truth! lol same goes for DH...he is very sensitive so the little white lies are def necessary

I do think white lies are necessary sometimes but DH and I are way too honest and open with eachother.. i can honestly say I havent told a white lie in over a year, maybe more and i dont think he has either. I will ask 'hun do i look fat in this shirt' and I will get a response 'maybe a little' There is no sugar coating in our house apparently but I like it that way. I am not sensitive and neither is DH so we can handle it.

I don't really tell little while lies, but I KNOW THAT DH DOES!!!! I am mega sensitive especially during that time of the month and I can always tell when he's saying something to make me feel better.

DH is so used to white lies to ensure survival in his own family that he tends to overdo it with me, so I called him out on it a few times. Therefor I hate when he white lies.

However little omissions here and there do sometimes happen and I do understand they are necessary for our survival. But they should be only about stupid things.