Town Crier: How to incorporate it into ceremony?(repost from 05 board)

Hey everyone,

I figure that you guys and gals should know best and that I should come to the pros in order to get an idea if this idea is good.

MY FH's little sister really wants to be a FG, but she's 9 years old and I really want younger FGs (I think they look so cute when they are small).

So I thought of an idea of letting her be the town Crier in the wedding. I was thinking that right before I walk down the aisle I can have her come down the aisle saying 'The Bride is Coming, The Bride is Coming' and then read a scroll welcoming the guests to the wedding. I really don't know if this would look right or not, and I'm not sure how to incorporate it into the ceremony. Do you think that it would ruin the flow of the procession?
Have you seen this at a wedding before? If you have any suggestions, it would be greatly appreciated. Oh, please let me know if you even think this idea can work...

Thanks a bunch.

This is just my opinion but I dont think it will work out the way you imagine. For one, I think that is a lot of pressure on a little girl. I dont think most adults could project well enough to get the desired effect, no less a child. Two, I think most ceremonies are solemn and having a little girl screaming out the bride is coming might be a little strange. Maybe b/c Ive never seen this before, Im the one who is not imagining it correctly but I think its a risk.

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a 9 year old flower girl along with a younger flower girl. In fact, the older one will probably help the younger one get all the way down the aisle without incident.

Or you can make her a junior bridesmaids and walk in with the wedding party.

Or she could carry the rings in place of a ringbearer.

Or hand out programs to the guests.

I voted no for all the reasons that stef posted.
I had a friend who just recently got married and had a very important 10 year old that she wanted to incorporate into the wedding (it was her sister) so she made up a new title and called her 'girl of honor' and had her walk in right before the maid of honor. Her sister got a very big kick out of this and felt that she was a step above a bridesmaid. Maybe that might help?

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Posted by lilmrs

I voted no for all the reasons that stef posted.
I had a friend who just recently got married and had a very important 10 year old that she wanted to incorporate into the wedding (it was her sister) so she made up a new title and called her 'girl of honor' and had her walk in right before the maid of honor. Her sister got a very big kick out of this and felt that she was a step above a bridesmaid. Maybe that might help?

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That's cute!

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Posted by tourist

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Posted by lilmrs

I voted no for all the reasons that stef posted.
I had a friend who just recently got married and had a very important 10 year old that she wanted to incorporate into the wedding (it was her sister) so she made up a new title and called her 'girl of honor' and had her walk in right before the maid of honor. Her sister got a very big kick out of this and felt that she was a step above a bridesmaid. Maybe that might help?

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That's cute!

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I really love the idea above. Or she can be a Junior bridesmaid, which is a step above the flower girl.

If you are getting married at a church/temple, I don't see how the Town Crier would fit in.

You can always have her be a jr. bm but to be honest if she is your FH sister- I would make her a flower girl.
edited to add: Especially if you have other fg's you don't want her to be upset that so and so got to be a flower girl and she wanted to be one.

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Posted by lilmrs


If you are getting married at a church/temple, I don't see how the Town Crier would fit in.

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I am getting married in a church and that was the same thing my mom said...

Oh, I love the girl of honor idea, but I don't think that would work for me (see below).

This is kind of funny to me, because the majority of the girls on the 05 board said 'Yes', but almost everyone here said 'No'. I'm more inclined to trust you guys because you all have the experience.

The issue is that my FH has 4 sisters (ages are 23, 17,15,9). The 23 year old is a bridesmaid and we were going to have the 17 and 15 year olds hand out the programs. I already have 6 bridesmaids and I feel that if I add the 9 year old as a junior BM that it's not fair to the 17 and 15 year old. And I don't want to have all of them in and expand the bridal party because the wedding will have approximately 200 guest.

Right now, we are considering having his niece (she will be 2.5 yrs by the wedding date) and one of his cousins and one of my cousins be the FG (they will both be 6 years old) and one of my friends sons to be the RB. I know with the 2.5 year old that we really won't know until the wedding if she will actually be able to go down the aisle (attitude wise that is).

Oh, we're going to do the polaroid guestbook at the Reception and we're putting the teenagers in charge of it. I really don't know if I'm missing anything, but I can't think of how anything else for the 9 year old to do??

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Posted by dcwife

You can always have her be a jr. bm but to be honest if she is your FH sister- I would make her a flower girl.
edited to add: Especially if you have other fg's you don't want her to be upset that so and so got to be a flower girl and she wanted to be one.

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I think you may be right. Hmm, maybe I can have 4 FG and have his sister walk down with the neice. What do ya'll think? 4 FG and one RB....

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Posted by Janice

I don't know, I know this is off the topic, but I would have his sisters in BP

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This is a toughie for me, cause my brother's wedding I wasn't asked until the LAST moment to be in the bridal party. Yes, petty me, I STILL hold it against her slightly.

I'd say let them all be in the wedding.

Otherwise the only think I can think of is that she walks out with the clergy and helps welcome the crowd.. You'd have to work with your clergy to figure that out.

I had my brother in my wedding indirectly by having him perform an Indian Wedding blessing, he and the godly guy figured it out

(yeah yeah, im getting the word wrong from the man in black at my wedding, but I call all those folks priests! I think he was technically a pastor or father? who can keep up with these things?)