You're not alone Phyllis. My husband works late 3 nights
a week and sometimes I don't even see him when he
gets home. On some of his early nights, he goes
to practice with the band, which is really tough.
I love him and know he loves what he is doing and
he does make it up other ways. It is very trying at
times for me and sometimes I feel lonely or negelected.
I think that it's common with more wives than we think.
Hang in there. The special quiet times together will be
even nicer.
Michelle B.
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I understand what you mean Phyl...I worked at an advertising agency too and was laid off because of the economy. Now that I am home my hubby still does his own thing. It's not like he has a productive hobby...he watches sports. Now I do all the house work because I'm home. I hate it. I can't wait to go back to work so everything is 50/50 again. Venting, venting, venting!!!
Katie
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I think that we all will experience this. I thought
it was my relationship until others told me that's the
way it is. Women are just nurturing/take-care/let's do this type of
people. Guys, I THINK!, get comfortable and it's hard
to keep things new and exciting. I am a card/hugging/kissy
person, whereas my husband is not. I knew this going
in and it's okay. Sometimes I wish he would be more
huggy. My family is very much like that; his is not. Not
much hugging or kissing in his family. I think he loves
every minute of it when I do it, but it's not in him.
Get this! I have yet to receive a card from him 'TO MY WIFE'. I'll be
married one year next month. Sometimes it bothers me, but
he does other things. Yesterday he brought home the biggest
Easter Lily I've ever seen, one to plant in the yard, which
I love doing and have been doing all weekend. That's
his way of saying Happy Easter and I love you. I still wish
though sometimes I could have a card from him. UGH! venting too.
phyl
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Read all the advice while nodding my head in agreement.
This sounds childish I know- but I feel left out- and only
left out of the FUN stuff. Did talk a little bit but I
think it works better for us if I talk about it WHEN it is
happening. Gotta learn not to wait and see...
Rob actually came up with the idea that since he is always'
home b4 me, that he would reconvert the kitchen tonight...and put
away all the Passover dishes/pots/utensils/linens/glassware.
What a relief that he is actually thinking of that!
thanks for the venting..I am trying not to 'cave in' to al lhe
does esp sice I was sooo indep for such a long time...
lost both parents by the time I was 22..and I am
trying not to fall into the trap of ' a good wife'
