Two things...are either kinda weird?

coldasice217 Posted: May 16, 2010 08:06 PM

Two things...are either kinda weird?

So two kinda weird (IMO) things happened/I heard of this weekend, and I'm curious what everyone else'a take is on them.

First, we were invited to a Sweet 16 party of one of DH's extended cousins. We were requested to wear all white. I got a little taken aback by this, because I had never heard of specific attire for a Sweet 16 party before. And it's at a house, not a RH or anything. I didn't go to many Sweet 16s growing up, so I don't know, is that out of the ordinary or not? Believe me, I'm more inclined to show up in my wedding dress than go out and buy an all white outfit specifically for it.

Second, did anyone here register before you were engaged? Or know anyone that did? Someone in our family circle who isn't engaged yet, and as far as I know there are no immediate (i.e. within the year to 2 years) plans to get engaged, yet started a registry for when they are. Besides from the fact that SO many things will be discontinued by then, I mean, I had to redo most of mine within the 10 months I had it active, isn't that kind of jinxy? Or at the very least, ballsy? Because it's not being kept secret haha.

So curious to see what everyone else's thoughts are on these two things...I'm not quite sure how I feel about being subjected to either one, so I'd like to see how you'd all react/broach it.

FutureMrsG Posted: May 16, 2010 08:14 PM

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1- I have heard of parties where the invite requests you to wear a specific color or colors...white is pretty popular for summer parties-Actually when I was looking for a dress for my RD the sales girl in French Connection asked if I was going to a 'white' party. I went to a Bachelorette party a few years ago where the Bride requested everyone wear black& white.

2- I have not heard of couples registering before they are engaged- I booked my RH before we were officially engaged but just a couple of weeks before...

MoochsWifey Posted: May 16, 2010 08:14 PM

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Neither would really bother me. For the sweet 16 it's probably some kind of theme party, which I think could be fun. I usually would buy a new outfit for something like that anyway so I wouldn't mind getting something new as long as I had the money. As long as they don't say you must be in white head to toe or you can't come in I wouldn't have an issue with it. As for the registry, yeah it's a little odd but it wouldn't effect me so I really wouldn't care.

jme78 Posted: May 16, 2010 08:18 PM

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I wouldn't be bothered by either of these - if its at a house, I am sure they won't kick you out if you aren't all in white - its a sweet sixteen, so i am sure its more for the girl & her friends to have fun with the theme.

Also as for when someone else registers, i don't see why you would care. Nothing to do with you.

ddnsp618 Posted: May 16, 2010 08:33 PM

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SIL had a themed sweet 16, in my ILs backyard. We were all asked to wear white and she wore pink and everything else was pink:

dazies1011 Posted: May 16, 2010 08:56 PM

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Ive heard of asking people to wear certain colors but the whole register before getting engaged???

chicky724 Posted: May 16, 2010 09:09 PM

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One of my friends started a registry before they were engaged bc they moved into a new apartment and encouraged people to get items off of it for their housewarming.

HappyBride22 Posted: May 16, 2010 09:56 PM

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The white for the party is probably for a theme, like the P Ditty Party (is that what he calls himself now?). I guess that isnt that strange, could be fun.

The registry thing is a little strange.....I guess anyone can register at any time, doesnt mean people will actually get you stuff from it.

MrsInglima Posted: May 16, 2010 10:07 PM

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Firstly, I've heard of White Parties before. I know Diddy used to (possibly still does?) one every summer in the Hamptons. It's probably just a theme or something.

DH and I registered two weeks after getting engaged because people were already asking us. That was 11 months before the wedding. So it's not before we got engaged, but it was still awhile before we got married. A few things got discontinued (like our fine china, and the tablecloths and placemats we picked out). But they were among the first gifts we got, so it didn't matter that much.

grkbarbie Posted: May 16, 2010 10:41 PM

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buy a dress at a major dept store and return it.

as far as the registry thing... ehhhhhhh before being engaged.. that is jinxy. maybe they are moving in together? did u see the registry? r u sure its not a housewarming type thing?

is she having some sort of party that requires people to buy her a 'homey' gift?.. like how did u find out she has a registry?

luvabul Posted: May 16, 2010 11:11 PM

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i have heard of the and been to the theme parties were the guest is supposed to wear a specific color, but registering before seems kind of strange!

gina409 Posted: May 17, 2010 12:32 AM

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To be honest I have never heard of asking people to wear a certin color to a party but if I was asked I'd prob just go along assuming its a theme for the party.....now as for registering before u r engaged,I would never but now a days nothing surprises me...to each his own I guess

christine2010 Posted: May 17, 2010 08:17 AM

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Asking guest to wear a certain color to a sweet 16 is a relatively new thing. I have seen many pictures where all the girl on the dais purchase the same dresses too so they look kind of like bridesmaids.

Maybe they are planning to have a housewarming party.

meara Posted: May 17, 2010 08:27 AM

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yeah the color thing I've seen before and don't find that weird but the registry thing seems strange. . but I guess if it's just for them who cares? I mean if they sent out an announcement about their registry for people to start buying things I would find it odd. . .
if they are that anxious for household items somethings wrong!

LadyDuda81509 Posted: May 17, 2010 08:29 AM

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the first one, i guess its more weird cuz its not at a place...but they are -prob doing some sort of black and white theme or something like that.. that i can see being normal.

the second thing, i def think is werid...like they planned a day they are going to get engaged?? and then decided to register now? that is dumb! i think very ballsy! do they think people will buy them presents now? weird!

coldasice217 Posted: May 17, 2010 10:22 AM

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I figured the Sweet 16 thing was probably a new thing, trying to be all trendy and Hamptons-y...if we even go, I'll probably wear all black haha. Or keep the tag in the dress

As for the registry thing, they are not living together or have plans to...and I think the purpose was to accumulate as much as possible for birthdays and holidays between now and the day of engagement so that there will be less pressure to start the nest egg from just the shower and the wedding? I didn't see it myself yet, I was just told about it, and that was the explanation I was given. I mean, me and DH didn't live together before we were married, and I can kind of understand the pressure of literally having nothing to start a household with and hoping that you get enough to get by on until you're able to complete things yourself...but I could see my mother slapping me silly if I had the balls to start a registry in like 2007 and tell people to buy all my bday and Christmas presents off it.

PoppedInASnap Posted: May 17, 2010 10:40 AM

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1. Ive heard of this before. Ive been invited to a 'Hawaiian Shirt' party, 'White party' and 'Yellow'
I think its just usually summer parties though-

2. NEVER heard of this...and i think its odd since so many things will be taken off the registry before they even get engaged. Maybe they are planning a sneak wedding or something?

AugustBridein09 Posted: May 17, 2010 12:29 PM

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1 - I have been to color specific outfit parties....love them! It's so fun.

2 - thats just weird but maybe its the shop-o-holic in me that wonders why they aren't buying these household things themselves???? If you want something just buy it and if you can't afford it then you can't have it--but don't expect OTHER people to foot the bill b/c you want certain things in your house. Like I had a registry for wedding events but if I didn't I just would have bought the stuff I needed myself. These people are soooo BALLSY!

allegracristina Posted: May 17, 2010 02:41 PM

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1. I have heard of Sweet 16, Bar/Bat Mitzvah, etc where dress code is specified. I've especially heard of White Parties becoming more popular. I don't think specifying attire is only for parties at catering halls or restaurants.

2. I think it's very strange to register before being engaged. I've never heard of such a thing.