UGH MIL

does anyone else have major baby pressure?!

i am going to lose my mind!!!!!

MIL is dying for a granchild. DH is the youngest of her children...his brother and sister are a lot older but neither are married or have kids. she has made comments since before we were married about having a baby, but we tell her all the time that we dont plan to try for a few more years.

She doesnt get it. Since we have been married (less than a month!!) she has made at least 25 comments about us having a baby. She recently joined facebook and every post she makes is like 'hopefully this time next year there is a baby' or like now we are apartment hunting she wrote 'get an extra room so i can stay over and babysit'. i have even had friends asking if i am pregnant bc she keeps making these comments

i cant stand it...this is so obnoxious bc we have made it clear that we arent planning to try for a few years. Its going to be a long few years if she has to make a freakin comment every day!! We arent going to have a baby just because its good for her timeline!

I told DH he needs to talk to her and tell her to stop but i really doubt that will help.

sorry had to vent!

That must be so annoying. Tell her that you will have children if she agrees to give you at least $400k now (that's how much some people predict it will cost to send a child to a 4 year private college in 18 years). And tell her she will have to babysit too b/c you can't afford a nanny.

If all else fails, tell her you are barren.

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Posted by Marianne13

That must be so annoying. Tell her that you will have children if she agrees to give you at least $400k now (that's how much some people predict it will cost to send a child to a 4 year private college in 18 years). And tell her she will have to babysit too b/c you can't afford a nanny.

If all else fails, tell her you are barren.

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yeah i might have to tell her i am barren.....the babysitting thing won't work. she's already made comments like i can just have the baby and give it to her to take care of

mines does that too but not that extreme...i feel for you...just ignore her!!!

WOW that is a bit overboard!!

Is she old? I'm wondering if that's why?

I know it's a total PITA.... but just to look at the bright side... she must like you if she want's you to spawn with her son!! it's kind of endearing. But I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from!

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Posted by KerriJohnS

WOW that is a bit overboard!!

Is she old? I'm wondering if that's why?

I know it's a total PITA.... but just to look at the bright side... she must like you if she want's you to spawn with her son!! it's kind of endearing. But I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from!

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shes turning 65 this weekend.

dh is 26....his sis is 35 and his bro is 40 so there is a big age gap...i know she wants FBIL to get married to his gf and have babies (she puts tons of pressure on them too)....but still its like so obnoxious that she constantly makes comments. its really none of her business if and when we decide to have a baby.

That must be sooo annoying! She just needs to learn to be patient and let you guys live your own lives!

It feels like I am in the opposite situation... No one ever mentions us having kids to the point where I don't think anyone even wants us to. I guess they are letting us have one in our own time with no pressure but it kind of hurts my feelings that no one seems excited. My kid would be the first grandchild on both sides so you think someone would be excited! My FIl is almost 70 and he seems the least excited of them all... Oddly enough the only one who seems to care either way is my stepmom and she is the youngest of them all! (early 40s). People just s uck either way! lol.

I do know how you feel...my MIL told me last year that I was selfish for not wanting to have another baby

She doesnt believe in having one child. I wasnt ready then ya know?...

that is so annoying!!!!!!

since im in full satc mode..get her the cardboard baby trey gave charlotte

so sorry and hope she backs off

how annoying!!

but to look on the bright side, it seems like at least you have free childcare!

I would NOT be able to handle that.

The same way she is comfortable enough to nag at you about having a baby now.....I would 'sort of politely' remind her that she had her time when she had her children years ago and that this is YOUR marriage and YOUR life and she will not dictate when you decide to do things....so back off!

omg. im so sorry hun. thankfully i dont need to deal with this (yet). since we both have nieces, i think our parents are already overwhelmed w a grandchild

tell FH's brothers to get to work !

You need to tell her that if she wants a baby around, she should have her own. That will shut her up.

this blows!!

sorry mama

my mil and sil are the only two people who havent asked us this question.

everyone else keeps sayin
ummmmmm roz youre going to be 35 in 3months time to get moving

FCUK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!