Update - do your husbands help with housework?
First, thanks for all the input. Last night we talked about it. I didn't want to be leaving notes for him to do this do that.. but he said if I don't leave notes how is he suppose to know what needs to be done - I guess never living on his own and never having to do for himself, how would he? So we'll see how it goes! He did do the dishes after dinner and mow the lawn yesterday :)