Vent! In-laws....
Ok so its the holiday season and the means good food, good times and of course, the in-laws-dreaded more by some of us than others. In my case, I love my MIL and FIL-remind me of my own parents with their wackiness. But my SIL is the issue....
I can't stand her as a person. And yet people LOVE her. She is one of those people who's a master manipulator and yet she does it in such an agreeable way you would happily sign over your first born without realizing what you've done. what makes it hard is that DH adores her. But she's younger than he is and has that whole youngest child 'me me me MINE' complex.
This most recent example is she lives in Brooklyn with her g.f. and never comes out to NJ for functions unless she has to or, if she wnats something like going to the tax free outlets or something. She won't pay for taxis when she has to go to the airport so calls us to chaffuer them around but won't return the favor EVER. she calls sure, but when it comes time to step in and do things, she makes my DH feel like crap by saying he's not taking care of his mother.
Just manipulative. Anyway, suddenly she's coming over for thanksgiving and all the fmaily functions, making herslef the prodigal child, offering to cook, and saying she is bringing desert and all the salads and appetitizer (which we had alreadY said we were bringing), all to make her parents go 'awww she's such a good girl (as they forget how much they complain about her selfishness thougout the year) and why? I'll tell you why. Because she is havign a committement ceremony with her longtime partner next year and they want money. His parents gave us 9,000 dollars for the wedding and Im sure she expects the same.
Mind you, they never had to pay college, car nothing for him. They are generous but he's always been self-sufficient. His sister went to an out of state college, australia, spent time aborad etc...she's one of those people who will demand and she's given. So annoys me because they all KNOW she's like this but now she's trying to make my poor DH look bad by pumping herself up and my in-laws cant see she's using them.
Im just pissed bcause he gripes and all, but if his parents need ANYTHING he is the one there doing it. She 'sweetly' declines everytime so they think she's the good child-or rather her mom does. her dad knows she's a pain, but mom rules the roost.
Ugh soooo mad! We didnt ask forthe money but they never give him anything and they ahd it so they helpes us as we help them thoughout the year. but now his sis is sweeping in to take them for money and I KNOW her..she will expect the same or more cause she's the 'daughter.'
And no one else sees it. and the worst part is when she's around, Im forgotten about in DH's eyes-like he totally fawns over his sister who by the way IGNORES him all frickin year.
Im just irritated.
I can't stand her as a person. And yet people LOVE her. She is one of those people who's a master manipulator and yet she does it in such an agreeable way you would happily sign over your first born without realizing what you've done. what makes it hard is that DH adores her. But she's younger than he is and has that whole youngest child 'me me me MINE' complex.
This most recent example is she lives in Brooklyn with her g.f. and never comes out to NJ for functions unless she has to or, if she wnats something like going to the tax free outlets or something. She won't pay for taxis when she has to go to the airport so calls us to chaffuer them around but won't return the favor EVER. she calls sure, but when it comes time to step in and do things, she makes my DH feel like crap by saying he's not taking care of his mother.
Just manipulative. Anyway, suddenly she's coming over for thanksgiving and all the fmaily functions, making herslef the prodigal child, offering to cook, and saying she is bringing desert and all the salads and appetitizer (which we had alreadY said we were bringing), all to make her parents go 'awww she's such a good girl (as they forget how much they complain about her selfishness thougout the year) and why? I'll tell you why. Because she is havign a committement ceremony with her longtime partner next year and they want money. His parents gave us 9,000 dollars for the wedding and Im sure she expects the same.
Mind you, they never had to pay college, car nothing for him. They are generous but he's always been self-sufficient. His sister went to an out of state college, australia, spent time aborad etc...she's one of those people who will demand and she's given. So annoys me because they all KNOW she's like this but now she's trying to make my poor DH look bad by pumping herself up and my in-laws cant see she's using them.
Im just pissed bcause he gripes and all, but if his parents need ANYTHING he is the one there doing it. She 'sweetly' declines everytime so they think she's the good child-or rather her mom does. her dad knows she's a pain, but mom rules the roost.
Ugh soooo mad! We didnt ask forthe money but they never give him anything and they ahd it so they helpes us as we help them thoughout the year. but now his sis is sweeping in to take them for money and I KNOW her..she will expect the same or more cause she's the 'daughter.'
And no one else sees it. and the worst part is when she's around, Im forgotten about in DH's eyes-like he totally fawns over his sister who by the way IGNORES him all frickin year.
Im just irritated.
