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Good morning lovely ladies! I'm running off to the doctor in a moment since I haven't been able to speak in 3 days and my throat's still hurting after 7... but that's neither here nor there.

It's hump day, but I'll let Gina keep up with the Sextions... I'm no good at those sorts of things...

Today's question is more about you and your MIL...

Do you ever worry that you're a lot like your MIL? Or that you're going to become like her?

Is this a good thing or a bad thing? If not, how are you different from your MIL?

If you don't have a MIL or don't want to answer that, my secondary question is, in what ways do you feel like you're mothering DH sometimes?

For all the expectant parents, perhaps it's good practice!

Have a great day everyone!

I am in no way like my MIL!
She is very quiet- Im not
But at the same time she is very opinionated and negative- Im not
She has dinner on the table the second FIL comes home- I dont for DH


I only mother DH when he is sick

Great question!

Not really...We are totally different in our personalities and who we are as people.

What's funny is that we look more like mother and daughter than my SIL! I DO resemble his mom! She's a tiny little blond lady, I'm a tiny little blond lady. That was always funny to me. I know I remind him of his mom in ways, but not in a creepy gross way, in a comforting way I know Mike reminds me of my dad a lot, especially when we first started dating.

Yes, my MIL and I are pretty alike and I'm OK with that. Just don't tell DH. I'm sure he doesn't think we are ANYTHING alike, but we are. I love my MIL!

I don't mother DH at ALL ... I'm saving all my mothering for when I'm a MOTHER. If anything, DH mothers me.

I'm exactly like my MIL! But it's ok, I love her!

EDA: I forgot to answer the 2nd part. I mother DH sometimes and I really wish I didn't have to but he forgets anything and everything that is important. Last night I probed him about the following: registering for grad school, completing his passport application, sending in a check for an education association, applying for financial aid, calling his accountant...mind you last night we also bickered a bit about him needing to be more responsible because he shouldn't need all of these reminders. I don't like mothering but it happens sometimes.

im very diffrent from my mil...

she is so nice,never yells very even temperd

but i looooooove her..i know im lucky to have a great mil

she is such a good mom to her boy that if i am half the woman she is i will be a lucky lady

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Posted by gina409

im very diffrent from my mil...

she is so nice,never yells very even temperd

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LOL - so does this mean you are a horrible person who yells all the time and is crazy???

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Posted by julesrbf

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Posted by gina409

im very diffrent from my mil...

she is so nice,never yells very even temperd

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LOL - so does this mean you are a horrible person who yells all the time and is crazy???

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yes!!!!!! i am a total biotch!!!!!

i should have said i am loud..as u all know
and can def yell

she is just a aid back easy going person...def not me lol

I KNOW I'm a lot like my MIL...I am trying very, very hard to ignore the Oedipal undertones to that.

We're both a little high-strung and worry a lot and have a tendency to nag DH...I feel we differ though because she's very proper, and I'm definitely more irreverent (unless she's just still on good behavior aorund me) and I can't see myself ever getting as overprotective as she is. But we are overall very similar, and that's not necessarily a bad thing.

I don't overly mother DH, I do have to ask him every morning if he has his wallet and phone, and I make his lunch every morning and have dinner started when he gets home, and I patronize him when he's sick because I know he likes to be doted on with having a blanket put on him and making him tea....well, I guess that sounds pretty motherly. But we talked about it, and I kind of have to do it because he's almost 30 and has lived at home with his entire family for his entire life and he needs that to make an easy transition. From mothered to wifed I suppose. It's alright, because I do like caring for him....now at least, ask me in a few years haha.

Sandra - sorry you're sick. I've had the same thing going on since I got back from my HM. Just went to the dr again last night for a 3rd round of antibiotics and another decongestant. DH likes to tell everyone that I keep losing my voice because I keep yelling at him.

Anyway - now on to my answer:

I would KILL myself immediately if I were anything like her!!! You girls only know a small fraction of the bad MIL stories I have.

Do I mother DH? Not really. I don't really have patience for it. He's a 42 year old man. I take care of him if he needs it, but I'm lucky in that he's really self-sufficient.

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Posted by geegee827

Sandra - sorry you're sick. I've had the same thing going on since I got back from my HM. Just went to the dr again last night for a 3rd round of antibiotics and another decongestant. DH likes to tell everyone that I keep losing my voice because I keep yelling at him.

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I went to the doctor today because I kept reading on the medicines I was taking that if the sore throat lasts more than 7 days, it's time to see a doctor. She did a quick strep test just in case (negative) and put me on 3 things -- antibiotics, mucinex, and a nasal spray. I feel like a drug farm now! But hopefully it'll be ok, and I'll be able to talk tomorrow.

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Posted by geegee827
Anyway - now on to my answer:

I would KILL myself immediately if I were anything like her!!! You girls only know a small fraction of the bad MIL stories I have.

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LOL I hear that a lot -- I had a feeling Michelle would say that too.


As for me... My MIL is very scattered. Sometimes I'm like that, and I think it's sweet that DH doesn't mind it. I just hope I don't get worse because I really pride myself on being organized and 'smart' lol... not to be too big-headed.

As for mothering DH, I feel like I'm his servant sometimes but I only mother him when he's sick. He was so good to me on NYE when I had a huge panic attack in bed because I got super dizzy and couldn't swallow and was having trouble breathing. He got the BP machine (I was fine) and got me some water and held my hand until I calmed down. It was the sweetest thing ever, and I love knowing I can count on him. It truly has felt like 'in sickness and in health' the past week.