What kind of husband do you have?- what kind of wife are you?

What kind of husband do you have?- what kind of wife are you?

Re: What kind of husband do you have?- what kind of wife are you?

My husband can be very confrontational and inflexible. I used to be more passive but I am starting to speak up more, I am starting to feel run over. He's working on compromise.

Re: What kind of husband do you have?- what kind of wife are you?

Re: What kind of husband do you have?- what kind of wife are you?

DH is VERY laid back and non confrontational. I am the more opinionated one who speaks up and makes my ideas known. For example, if we were in a store and we got overcharged for something DH would just say 'oh well' and I would be like' We're not ignoring this..we will get it corrected!' He is a little to passive sometimes. But on the flip side we are both very laid back and non confrontation when it comes to bickering over stupid things that many other couples may fight over. We both take the approach of will this matter tomorrow and if not there is no need to argue over it. We have never had a serious fight about anything. And i know some people either don't believe that or say that is unhealthy, but I would disagree. We agree on major issues (money, family, children, religion), we both are from similar families with similar values. So we are in agreement on the important things. The little daily things that might make me mad/upset I just blow off since it really won't matter in the end.

On the thought of birth order that someone brought up, I would definately think that DH is the way he is because of that in some way. He has three older sisters and he is the youngest, so with those sisters and his mom in the house he could never get a word in!! He learned to just not say anything to avoid the wrath of three older sisters badgering him all the time about what to do, etc. So now he is the quiet one and also well trained about putting the toilet seat down!

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Re: What kind of husband do you have?- what kind of wife are you?

we both like to air things out right then and there...we have a rule that once we fight, we have to makeup 5 minutes later and drop it.

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I AGREE. I try to do that, but sometimes I don't want to drop it. I'm famous for beating dead horses!!!

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Posted by ChristineC68

DH can re-fight any argument we have had in the last 3 years!

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ugh Christine...I am guilty of that...John hates it...


but I am lucky b/c I am married to the most laid back person...He understands when I get into a mood and he totally knows how to tune it out...that its not really about him...

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My husband is pretty laid back I think. He doesn't argue much, but he is also very set in his ways. I think in the relationship, I am certainly the more compromising one and I think that comes from years of being a middle child! It's just my nature - and he just got lucky!



However, I must hand it to him that he has become a lot more easy going with my moods lately. I have been so unpredictable and he's been dealing with that very well.

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We're both nonconfrontational. We both have strong opinions and feelings on things, but we respect each other's opinions and don't try to change each other.

The one problem is that I tend to keep my feelings inside, mostly the negative ones like anger and frustration. I tend to want everything to be 'nice,' so sometimes I agree to things that later I regret and then I get resentful. So I'm working on being more open and upfront about my negative feelings.

The good things is even when we DO have a discussion about something we're disagreeing on, it's just a discussion. We TALK it out. We don't yell or scream or fight. We don't see the point in yelling at each other when you can just take your time and SAY (not scream) what you need to say.

Although if he ever REALLY messed up, I'd let him have it!!! LOL!!!

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Re: What kind of husband do you have?- what kind of wife are you?

Great topic...

I agree with Jenn P regarding birth order.
Let's just say my DH is an only child AND a Leo.... enough said. I'm a middle child.

DH is very opinionated and aggressive. I on the other hand am very passive and a push over. I'm getting better at sticking up for myself, but I am very soft and cry at the drop of a dime. I tend to keep things in and not express myself until they've been bottled up too long that I explode. Not a good thing.

Most of the time I usually let him have his way - just cause I don't want to argue or stress over something that I don't feel that passionate about. If I feel strongly I'll put up a harder fight.

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Roger lets nothing bother him, he tries to lead a stress free life, I told him he has lost his equilibrium b/c at times he can come off as if he does not care. I am very talkative and he is always open to discussion, we are not hot heads arguers, we talk and talk a lot. Sometimes when we are talking we will both have paper and pen out so we can both remember our points and try not to interrupt. Roger is a bad listener and he is learning how to not do that, so the pen and paper is his way.

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I am a very confrontational person. Sometimes too much. And I am married to a lawyer (he is confrontational for a living) LOL! So we can go at it. It is hard winning an argument against a lawyer, but I hold my own! Anyway we are working on it. We get along great, but man the slightest disagreement can go on forever because we both need to be heard and make our points. I am learning to let more things slide and carefully choose my battles. I think we enjoy the debates, but sometimes I just laugh and think we are rediculous. Marriage is hard work, I love it, but it is work sometimes.

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Re: What kind of husband do you have?- what kind of wife are you?

My DH is about the most laid back person I know (aside from maybe my dad - is that weird that he is so much like him in that respect? ) We've been together over 9 years and can say we've never really had a real fight - yelling or saying mean things in anger. we don't ALWAYS agree, but on most things that really matter, we do. And if we don't we'll just talk it over. I know some couples who are the yelling fight type of people and it seems to work for them, but I don't think I could handle that myself.
I guess I'm the more aggressive one of the two and I have very quick temper and little patience. I also tend to be a bit pessimistic and a total worry wort whereas Scott is a glass half full kind of guy and doesn't let most things worry him. He really thinks I'm crazy sometimes. I think I got very lucky to find a guy who is so perfect for me - who can put up with me!

As far as birth order, I don't know - I'm the baby in my family (1 brother) and DH is the oldest of 3 (two sisters).

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I am the definition of a type A personalitly. I hit stress at the drop of a hat- sadly.

Frankie is EXTREMELLY laid back and takes the slow long road on EVERYTHING. I am getting better at letting him go on cruise control on non-important or urgent things.

I am lucky because Frankie is a wonderful man that knows that I go from 0 to maximum stress in 10 seconds flat. He knows when to let me be a tornado and get through it and when to kick my butt and tell me to get over it!

We balance each other