i have a friend who lives in n.c. i just found out that she was in ny the end of march. she never said anything to me. i would've loved to see her. yes, i know the e-mails are far and few between. but i would think she would've contacted me. i feel hurt.
what would u do about this
joan_db
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Try calling her tell her how you actually feel. Just be honest of how you feel without being confrontational.
Hope everything works out.
PreshusSmurf
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i have friends who live out of town, i don't hear from them or see them every time they are in NY. sometimes their trips are too action packed with other activities.
i don't think it means our friendship means any less to them ...
i don't let it bother me at all.
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i have friends who live out of town, i don't hear from them or see them every time they are in NY. sometimes their trips are too action packed with other activities.
i don't think it means our friendship means any less to them ...
i don't let it bother me at all.
i agree...she could have been too busy lined up with other stuff
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i have friends who live out of town, i don't hear from them or see them every time they are in NY. sometimes their trips are too action packed with other activities.
i don't think it means our friendship means any less to them ...
i don't let it bother me at all.
I agree...
Ive been on the other side of this situation many times.When I come back to NY, which is every 2-4 months, i cant possibly call and see every single one of my friends when i go there even if id like too...when some people find out im back in NY and i didnt tell them....theyre like oh i didnt know you were here, why didnt you call me?....its just that i am so busy with my family and friends when i come out there that i dont always have the time to see everyone i would like too. Its not that i dont value my friendships with these individuals its just that i really always have a million things and people to see when i come back to visit.
Im sure she didnt call you to diss you or anything, maybe she had way too much going on, and too few days.
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Posted by PreshusSmurf
i have friends who live out of town, i don't hear from them or see them every time they are in NY. sometimes their trips are too action packed with other activities.
i don't think it means our friendship means any less to them ...
i don't let it bother me at all.
I agree, maybe she was only in town a few days and had things she had to take care of. I wouldnt be too upset-i would just call/email and say hey I heard you were in NY, im sorry I didnt know sooner we could have done lunch.
MY feelings would definitely not be hurt tho that is for sure
Happybride2005
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she came to ny to see clay aiken on broadway
PegaLega
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she came to ny to see clay aiken on broadway
No offense but its obvious that you arent extremely close otherwise you would have known that she was coming-maybe there are friends that she is closer with that she made plans with that come before you in the line of who to call-I wouldnt be hurt. I would take it with a grain of salt and move on...as much as it hurts you.
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she came to ny to see clay aiken on broadway
No offense but its obvious that you arent extremely close otherwise you would have known that she was coming-maybe there are friends that she is closer with that she made plans with that come before you in the line of who to call-I wouldnt be hurt. I would take it with a grain of salt and move on...as much as it hurts you.
you're right. i guess if she really anted to see me, she would've contacted me
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Posted by joan_db
Try calling her tell her how you actually feel. Just be honest of how you feel without being confrontational.
Hope everything works out.
That would be my advice!
PreshusSmurf
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she came to ny to see clay aiken on broadway
No offense meant, but it doesn't really matter why she came to NY. She must be a big fan of his if she came all the way to NY to see him on Broadway, so even though this might not seem important to you I would guess it was pretty important to her.
When she has time to fit you into her visit, I am sure she will.
If you miss her and want to see her, what about making plans to go visit her?
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she came to ny to see clay aiken on broadway
No offense meant, but it doesn't really matter why she came to NY. She must be a big fan of his if she came all the way to NY to see him on Broadway, so even though this might not seem important to you I would guess it was pretty important to her.
When she has time to fit you into her visit, I am sure she will.
If you miss her and want to see her, what about making plans to go visit her?
Completely unrelated but......
OMG CLAY!!!!!!
and as someone who has traveled across the country to see Clay I understand
PegaLega
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she came to ny to see clay aiken on broadway
No offense but its obvious that you arent extremely close otherwise you would have known that she was coming-maybe there are friends that she is closer with that she made plans with that come before you in the line of who to call-I wouldnt be hurt. I would take it with a grain of salt and move on...as much as it hurts you.
you're right. i guess if she really anted to see me, she would've contacted me
It *****, but you know that saying-you find out who your real friends are so you can drop her a notch in your list of friends
