WWYD - Invited to Boss' Wedding...sorry it got kinda long

2010BTB Posted: Nov 19, 2010 12:00 PM

WWYD - Invited to Boss' Wedding...sorry it got kinda long

So my boss asked me yesterday for my home address as well as 2 other women in my office (it's a smaller office of about 20 people but our home office is located in Boston - so that's why he doesn't have my address).

My feeling is that we're invited to his wedding next summer - it's a second wedding way out in the Hamptons. He declined for my wedding but really didn't give a reason but gave a nice check.

When asking for addresses and spouse's names he said I already know Anthony (now Anthony is my DH's real name but he goes by middle name). I speak about DH in the office all the time but this is one of the reasons I'm thinking of not going to his wedding - cause he doesn't know me personally even though I've worked for him for over 5 years. I know when the wedding is and probably will not have anything going on then.

WWYD - do you go to the wedding? decline? And what do you give as a gift? I certainly cannot give what he gave DH and I.

KatieG2010 Posted: Nov 19, 2010 12:06 PM

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i would decline and send a sensible gift for your budget. You are not obligated to give him what he gave you.

halfbaked Posted: Nov 19, 2010 12:12 PM

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Posted by KatieG2010

i would decline and send a sensible gift for your budget. You are not obligated to give him what he gave you.

ITA. I wouldn't go.

little j Posted: Nov 19, 2010 12:20 PM

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hmm, idk. i think i would go and give a standard gift price.

hmm, not sure...wait till you get the invite

cateydee Posted: Nov 19, 2010 01:35 PM

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i might go because it might look good professionally to show up. it depends on whether your boss is inviting you because he HAS to or because he wants to. sorry that was no help

2010BTB Posted: Nov 19, 2010 01:46 PM

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Posted by cateydee

i might go because it might look good professionally to show up. it depends on whether your boss is inviting you because he HAS to or because he wants to. sorry that was no help

I think he's inviting cause he wants to. There's someone else in the office that if HAD to invite us that he would have included...but he didn't. But I don't know if it's him wanting to or his FW that wants to.

cateydee Posted: Nov 19, 2010 01:59 PM

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Posted by 2010BTB

Posted by cateydee

i might go because it might look good professionally to show up. it depends on whether your boss is inviting you because he HAS to or because he wants to. sorry that was no help

I think he's inviting cause he wants to. There's someone else in the office that if HAD to invite us that he would have included...but he didn't. But I don't know if it's him wanting to or his FW that wants to.

i would go then. jmo

miamimerger Posted: Nov 20, 2010 09:20 AM

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I wouldn't go, but I would get him something off the registry. I would feel weird giving my boss a monetary gift, honestly.

springsandra Posted: Nov 20, 2010 10:35 AM

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I would find out if anyone else is going from the office whom you're friends with and consider going if the date works out well for you. It would be a nice experience, and you were invited. If you feel awkward or uncomfortable or don't want to go, though, don't go.

I'd just give a modest gift off the registry that fits your budget and not worry about matching his gift. If there's no registry, then I'd do a gift card, and vary the amount depending on whether you go or not, but still keep it reasonable within your budget.

Suzie4 Posted: Nov 21, 2010 12:02 PM

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Posted by cateydee

Posted by 2010BTB

Posted by cateydee

i might go because it might look good professionally to show up. it depends on whether your boss is inviting you because he HAS to or because he wants to. sorry that was no help

I think he's inviting cause he wants to. There's someone else in the office that if HAD to invite us that he would have included...but he didn't. But I don't know if it's him wanting to or his FW that wants to.

i would go then. jmo

agreed