07 Lovelies...

I didn't contribute to the thread on the other site that hurt you, but I read like a page and a half before I turned away...all I have to say is that not everyone feels that way. And there are people who genuinely like to help and offer real and honest advice. So what if you're not always liked or if you don't run with a pack?

Wedding planning s*cked for me and in all honesty I hated it...I came to this site from theknot.com and at first I was turned off by the 'cliques' and the 'fake' posts (there were some hideous ideas at first and I didn't get why no one was saying 'that's really not flattering you') so I went back to theknot and finished planning. There was less drama there, more planning. Anyway, I came back here and became and avid poster post-wedding. That's when I made some lifelong friends and understood that some girls bond here and that as much as there is planning, there is also gossip, friendships, threads about life events, etc. It's just a different site. I realized that *I* didn't have to change...and honesty was needed and appreciated.

Please don't get sad or hurt. Know the difference. What you girls have is truly awesome. You all genuinely care about each other and remain positive day in and day out.

Your weddings will be over and you'll have the friendships...don't take mocking comments from past brides to heart. Not everyone looks at planning fondly. It isn't fun for all (I HATED IT!!)...and I'm sure no one meant to hurt you personally. And yes, the other site is full of great topics that can be enjoyed once the manic/exciting/sad/angry (get where I'm going here? ) planning time is over with. But as much as I love being married and don't miss planning...I look fondly on my wedding day. And know it was the best day of my life so far. So keep planning those gorgeous weddings!!

Keep being kind to each other...stay honest...and post pictures! And never forget the most important part - the marriage...life isn't all about cakes and flowers...

Wishing you all a most Happy Planning time!!

Ah Sasha! This is why you are truly loved. Everything you have said is 200% correct. You will never be liked by all and attacked by some. We will continue to meet phony people throughout our life time.

Once you know who is there for you that is all that matters. Yes there are some people that will go out of their way to make you miserable since they are as well. We can beat this by showing them how truly happy we are.

Thanks for your words of wisdom and support.

Well said! Thanks for the kind words!

Sasha I <3 you

U are AWESOME! Thanks for posting that!!! We needed that! That was some great advice!!

Thank you so much for posting that

We all truly are here, not to make enemies, BUT to have fun while planning. I have made great friends on here and it is true, you can't make everyone happy all the time.

Sometimes we do take things to heart, because we know why we are here and only want the best for eachother.

It is selfish for people to mock anyone, but it's life and it will always be there

THANK YOU!

i just love sasha!!! thank you for taking some time and posting this- i think we all need to hear that every once in a while!

That is so incredibly nice of you to take the time to post that. I remember reading your review and really admired your grace under pressure. I think I would have had a nervous breakdown if my dress wasn't ready the day of but you really took it in strides and were/are a class act!!

I'm not entirely crazy about the planning process myself. I would rather just be married and on my honeymoon now but the girls on these boards really pick me up when I'm down. Just like your post did.

Thanks for the sweet and encouraging words.

that was well said!

This isn't about me. I appreciate the love, but it's about ALL OF YOU!!

And don't be fooled...there are many people that without knowing me just plain don't like me...so no one can be 'liked by all'. And honestly, if you are, maybe you're not being truly honest.

pgonzo & ladies who have had it with planning - planning will be over soon enough. Enjoy what you can. And take little breaks...planning can become exhausting and takes a mental, emotional and physical toll. Don't let it consume you...take breaks away...there's still time!!

Tom Cruise said it best...'much love'...

I quoted crazy Tom!!

ahhhhh beloved sasha thank you for the words of wisdom..it really helps when married women like yourself help to put things in perspective for us soon to be married gals! this is why you're so special and loved (besides the fact that your wedding was GORGEOUS)

Thanks for the kind words!!!!

Thank you for the advice.. it was well said!!