When it comes to the wedding planning who seems to be the one who looks at more things and does most of the planning.
For FH and I it is me. I am the one who is making all of the decisions and as nice as it is sometimes it does get a little frustrating because FH claims he wants to help and all that fun stuff and has done really nothing.
But what can you do. Guys will be guys. They were taught their only thing to do is show up. HA HA!!
xBudgetBridex
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I do all the leg work but im not 'allowed' to make a decision with out him. (allowed is b in ' ' bc I don't mean my fh cintrols me like that, I just know he wants a say. and if I waited for him to do research id be old and grey lol) but wev talk it over and make up our minds together.
mab30
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Posted by xBudgetBridex
I do all the leg work but im not 'allowed' to make a decision with out him. (allowed is b in ' ' bc I don't mean my fh cintrols me like that, I just know he wants a say. and if I waited for him to do research id be old and grey lol) but wev talk it over and make up our minds together.
Same here. I do all of the research and come to him after I've narrowed it down. I wouldn't make a decision without him, after all, it is his wedding too! Sometimes he is slow to look over what I send him and that upsets me, I want him to look at things right away while they're still on my mind so I can get his perspective ASAP...if I don't make him look at it right away, sometimes he forgets to look at all :-/ That is frustrating. But overall, we have the same taste in things so he has been trusting my judgement. I'm glad I have his help because I am too indecisive!
xBudgetBridex
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Posted by xBudgetBridex
I do all the leg work but im not 'allowed' to make a decision with out him. (allowed is b in ' ' bc I don't mean my fh cintrols me like that, I just know he wants a say. and if I waited for him to do research id be old and grey lol) but wev talk it over and make up our minds together.
Same here. I do all of the research and come to him after I've narrowed it down. I wouldn't make a decision without him, after all, it is his wedding too! Sometimes he is slow to look over what I send him and that upsets me, I want him to look at things right away while they're still on my mind so I can get his perspective ASAP...if I don't make him look at it right away, sometimes he forgets to look at all :-/ That is frustrating. But overall, we have the same taste in things so he has been trusting my judgement. I'm glad I have his help because I am too indecisive!
know what's worse.... when u are both indecisive.... that's us! but sometimes I think he just does it bc he wants be too have what I like. but when I can't make up my mind I need him to make the choice! lol
brnnglgn
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Posted by mab30
Posted by xBudgetBridex
I do all the leg work but im not 'allowed' to make a decision with out him. (allowed is b in ' ' bc I don't mean my fh cintrols me like that, I just know he wants a say. and if I waited for him to do research id be old and grey lol) but wev talk it over and make up our minds together.
Same here. I do all of the research and come to him after I've narrowed it down. I wouldn't make a decision without him, after all, it is his wedding too! Sometimes he is slow to look over what I send him and that upsets me, I want him to look at things right away while they're still on my mind so I can get his perspective ASAP...if I don't make him look at it right away, sometimes he forgets to look at all :-/ That is frustrating. But overall, we have the same taste in things so he has been trusting my judgement. I'm glad I have his help because I am too indecisive!
I have the exact same thing. I am the one going to the vendors, contacting them, coming up with ideas and such but if I don't ask his opinion he throws a fit. That annoys me bc I tell him all the time to do things and look at things but it never gets done.
Amanda2022
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FH is very easy going, almost too much lol. I wish he would be more involved. He just agrees with whatever I say. The things he has come up with on his own have been a little ridiculous and I try and politely tell him it's not a good idea lol
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Posted by Amanda2022
FH is very easy going, almost too much lol. I wish he would be more involved. He just agrees with whatever I say. The things he has come up with on his own have been a little ridiculous and I try and politely tell him it's not a good idea lol
hahha this. mine wanted to shoot off fireworks at 11am as we walk down the aisle
mab30
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Posted by Amanda2022
FH is very easy going, almost too much lol. I wish he would be more involved. He just agrees with whatever I say. The things he has come up with on his own have been a little ridiculous and I try and politely tell him it's not a good idea lol
hahha this. mine wanted to shoot off fireworks at 11am as we walk down the aisle
yeahhhh....my FH likes Star Wars...so you can imagine some of the ideas he has come up with LOL. I am trying to incorporate a few subtle SW elements for him :)
mab30
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Posted by Amanda2022
FH is very easy going, almost too much lol. I wish he would be more involved. He just agrees with whatever I say. The things he has come up with on his own have been a little ridiculous and I try and politely tell him it's not a good idea lol
hahha this. mine wanted to shoot off fireworks at 11am as we walk down the aisle
Waittttt...just realized you said 11 AM...Now I'm cracking up! hahah
christinechristian
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I have been doing all the research and he has been going on the appointments and helping with the big decisions. I am surprised at how involved he is when we are at the appointments, asking questions and stuff. The little details I just run by him because he says all that stuff is up to me and whatever I like... However we can't come up with a color theme we both agree on! LOL
Amanda2022
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Posted by Amanda2022
FH is very easy going, almost too much lol. I wish he would be more involved. He just agrees with whatever I say. The things he has come up with on his own have been a little ridiculous and I try and politely tell him it's not a good idea lol
hahha this. mine wanted to shoot off fireworks at 11am as we walk down the aisle
haha that is funny lol..... FH wanted to have everything Yankees themed just to get back at his cousin who had a red sox themed wedding
shellabella2
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Posted by christinechristian
I have been doing all the research and he has been going on the appointments and helping with the big decisions. I am surprised at how involved he is when we are at the appointments, asking questions and stuff. The little details I just run by him because he says all that stuff is up to me and whatever I like... However we can't come up with a color theme we both agree on! LOL
This is exactly like us! I was so surprised when we were visiting venues and FH was asking questions I didn't even think of lol..
brnnglgn
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Posted by Amanda2022
Posted by ashandscott2015
Posted by Amanda2022
FH is very easy going, almost too much lol. I wish he would be more involved. He just agrees with whatever I say. The things he has come up with on his own have been a little ridiculous and I try and politely tell him it's not a good idea lol
hahha this. mine wanted to shoot off fireworks at 11am as we walk down the aisle
haha that is funny lol..... FH wanted to have everything Yankees themed just to get back at his cousin who had a red sox themed wedding
The only really theme thing my FH wants is he wants his ring engraved with the saying 'One ring to rule them all'. He loves the Hobbit and it doesn't help me saying no to it when my MOH, brother, father and uncle all think it is an AWESOME idea.
Jack84
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Posted by brnnglgn
Posted by mab30
Posted by xBudgetBridex
I do all the leg work but im not 'allowed' to make a decision with out him. (allowed is b in ' ' bc I don't mean my fh cintrols me like that, I just know he wants a say. and if I waited for him to do research id be old and grey lol) but wev talk it over and make up our minds together.
Same here. I do all of the research and come to him after I've narrowed it down. I wouldn't make a decision without him, after all, it is his wedding too! Sometimes he is slow to look over what I send him and that upsets me, I want him to look at things right away while they're still on my mind so I can get his perspective ASAP...if I don't make him look at it right away, sometimes he forgets to look at all :-/ That is frustrating. But overall, we have the same taste in things so he has been trusting my judgement. I'm glad I have his help because I am too indecisive!
I have the exact same thing. I am the one going to the vendors, contacting them, coming up with ideas and such but if I don't ask his opinion he throws a fit. That annoys me bc I tell him all the time to do things and look at things but it never gets done.
This! I do all the research & narrow it down. We has been helping with ideas so that has been nice. It's starting to get a little overwhelming though
