2nd Time She Pulled This.....

Ok so saturday my FH went golfing with his dad, we only have one car so I went with him to his parents and my best friend was picking me up from there so we could spend the day together. The minute my fiance leaves FMIL says to me oh I have a dress for Danielle to wear to the wedding, except Danielle (fiance's sister) is not invited to the wedding because twice she told the entire family she hates me. Once at my engagement party (I know) and once at Christmas. Then FMIL pulls I'm not coming if Danielle's not invited. Last time she said that if we didnt have a rabbi in my church for the ceremony. I told her its not happeneing, I've had enough of her threats. My poor fiance cant handle it anymore but he doesnt want to cut all ties with her. I told him I'm not dealing with this the rest of my life. Thanks for listening

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Posted by LeeLee111

Ok so saturday my FH went golfing with his dad, we only have one car so I went with him to his parents and my best friend was picking me up from there so we could spend the day together. The minute my fiance leaves she says to me oh I have a dress for Danielle to wear to the wedding, except Danielle (fiance's sister) is not invited to the wedding because twice she told the entire family she hates me. Once at my engagement party (I know) and once at Christmas. Then she pulls I'm not coming if Danielle's not invited. Last time she said that if we didnt have a rabbi in my church for the ceremony. I told her its not happeneing, I've had enough of her threats. My poor fiance cant handle it anymore but he doesnt want to cut all ties with her. I told him I'm not dealing with this the rest of my life. Thanks for listening

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Are you talking about FMIL or best friend? What did you respond to her?

I'm confused, who said this to you? Your best friend?????

ugh i can't imagine what you are going through. i am sorry she is acting like this - and what a jerk your FH's sister is! it's ok for you two not to get along, but for her to say she hates you?

for you - you sound like you need it!

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Posted by LeeLee111

Ok so saturday my FH went golfing with his dad, we only have one car so I went with him to his parents and my best friend was picking me up from there so we could spend the day together. The minute my fiance leaves FMIL says to me oh I have a dress for Danielle to wear to the wedding, except Danielle (fiance's sister) is not invited to the wedding because twice she told the entire family she hates me. Once at my engagement party (I know) and once at Christmas. Then FMIL pulls I'm not coming if Danielle's not invited. Last time she said that if we didnt have a rabbi in my church for the ceremony. I told her its not happeneing, I've had enough of her threats. My poor fiance cant handle it anymore but he doesnt want to cut all ties with her. I told him I'm not dealing with this the rest of my life. Thanks for listening

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WHY WHY WHY can't people (in laws or otherwise) just mind their own business and respect the couple and their wedding planning. Gheez...What a horrible position to be in.

First of all, I'm really sorry you and your FH are dealing with this nonsense.

And if you FSIL 'hates' you as she claims then why would she even want to be there?

Just remember that you will have to deal with these people for the rest of your life, UGH, yes, I know how that sounds to you but good, bad or otherwise they are his family.

Good luck.

i think it is disgusting when people threaten you so that you will do what they want for your wedding.

i'm sorry you have to deal with this BS

You need hugs!

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Posted by FutureMrsSabbagh

First of all, I'm really sorry you and your FH are dealing with this nonsense.

And if you FSIL 'hates' you as she claims then why would she even want to be there?

Just remember that you will have to deal with these people for the rest of your life, UGH, yes, I know how that sounds to you but good, bad or otherwise they are his family.

Good luck.

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Totally true. To avoid resentment and gossip and future drama, i honestly would just invite the sister. If she hates u so much she wont come, and if she does - it makes YOU the bigger person, and DOESN'T give her another reason to say she hates you. You're going to be having the time of your life and u wont even know she's there. I'm sorry you're going through all of this...it totally stinks...but these people are going to be ur in-laws whether they s u c k or not. best of luck with all of this..again i'm sorry for the situation.

i can totally relate to you...

i have gathered that my BIL hates me (for what reason, i don't know). but we invited him to the wedding and he RSVP'd no. so it was really his loss. we did the right thing and invited. DH even called him a few weeks before the wedding to see if he was coming and he mailed in his RSVP a few days later with a big fat 'NO'. then 2 days after the wedding, his brother was calling DH and texting him saying they should talk.
so to avoid all that, invite ur FSIL and have ur FH talk to her. she may not wanna be there but she should just be there regardless. she shouldn't let her brother suffer for hating you. it's just not fair.

awww I'm sorry u & ur FH is going through this..
no offense but ur FH's sister seems alittle rude.. if she doesnt like her brothers fiance then she should keep it to herself! she she respect her bro decision and make an effort to like you...but one question if she hates you why would she want to go anyways?!?!?! ermmmmmm

people should really learn how to mind their own business.. I mean its the Bride and Grooms wedding not the whole families!

Tell her to 'peace out'...if she's really that immature to not attend her own son's wedding for nonsense maybe the two of you shouldn't want her there.


I know she is his mother but she should be looking at the situation in that same 'this is my son's special day' light.

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Posted by UKsunshine

Tell her to 'peace out'...if she's really that immature to not attend her own son's wedding for nonsense maybe the two of you shouldn't want her there.


I know she is his mother but she should be looking at the situation in that same 'this is my son's special day' light.

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agreedddddddddddddddddddddddd

I had an issue like this. We kicked SIL out of the bridal party & uninvited her to our wedding after she pulled some nasty NASTY crap on us. She LITERALLY called my RH, RD hall, bridal shop, photo,g etc & said she was me & CANCELED all my vendors. That's how much she hated me (for what reason - I have NO IDEA). FIL then said if we didn't invite her, that he wouldn't come either. Its what parents do. WHY would I invite her???

I don't know if this will help you, but here's what I said to them:
She is invited to the rehearsal dinner. If she BEHAVES (ie - does not talk sh!t about me, does not embarrass me, does not get drunk/high) , she can come to the wedding.
If she does NOT behave at the RD, she cannot come to the wedding. It's up to her.

She did not like the ultimatum & she did not attend any events.

what a B*****... i wouldn't invite her either... and i'd make threats right back... 'well since FSIL isn't coming, does that means I can cut you out too?'
then again i wouldn't take her threats.... and i dont think i would care if she got offened...

or try and sit down with ur FH and his mother and sister and talk it all out... ask her y she hates you so much... and tell her your entering the family whether she likes it or not.... just be nice about it...

I just can never understand why families dont get along... but I am THANKFUL for that.

F*ck em.. more friends you can invite.