I totally should've stopped telling everyone my stress disappeared. I am so excited and so happy!!!! ANnnnnnnnnnd then my MOH messages me this morning that they have to leave the reception at 9pm (when they were supposed to stay til the next morning as they don't live in the same state)So now I am trying to find someone who can let her stay with them so she doesn't have to pay for a hotel room that she already booked and now can't do because life came up and sucks. I am always understanding and always the one saying 'That's ok' but I'm so sick of making everyone else not feel bad and letting myself be upset. UGH! I know things are beyond control but this is hugely disappointing. She missed just about EVERYTHING.. she rescheduled my bachelorette party and so technically I never really had one now. SHe's like my sister. I need her there for everything. It was all worked out and now it's not. Then a friend in the midst of this messaged me that last minute she can't make it to the wedding cause she was called in to work for a co-worker who had an emergency. (Remember how we are already UNDER our min. guest count? UGH) and then I am trying to find a ride for a friend who is being dropped off at the ceremony and needs a ride to the reception. I swore I would NOT worry about everyone else for this ONE day of my life and look how that turned around. Sooooo now it's 11AM and I am doing shots of vodka! I hope I don't sound like a bad person. I always let everyone else worry about themselves and no one worries about me. I just want ONE DAY!!! PleasE? *cries*
Kimberley2015
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You have every right to be upset but you need to pull yourself together. This is your day and you have to stop accommodating your friends on your day. If you MOH has to leave early then she should be the one looking for someone to take the room and they reimburse her the money or she has to eat it. She knew long before that she lives out of state and she should have made a decision as to whether or not she was staying. As far as your friend coming to your wedding why are you looking for a ride for her? This is something that should be taken care of on their end, not yours. You have 3 more days till YOUR big day and you have to stop making your friends problems yours. Your main focus should be how beautiful you are going to look in your wedding dress and how lucky you are to be marrying your best friend. Big hug!!!! Ssssqqquuueeezzzeeeee This is YOUR time and YOUR day to shine.
StarIzInkd
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Thank you. I think I need the reminder that it's okay to nicely be all 'F everybody' for one day. I guess everyone knows me by now to know that they can come to me to complain, look for help, etc. I just want to be oblivious though :)
Alimm729
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I agree with Kimberley. You'll have to nicely say, I'm sorry but I can't help, I have too much going on. They're all grownups, they CAN figure it out, they just think it's easier to come to you. Wash your hands of all of it and just concentrate on you and FH. Good luck!!
summerbridejen2015
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I agree with all said above, Your day is going to be amazing and some people are just all about themselves.This is the time where it is all about YOU!! Let that person get their own ride,totally not your responsibility!!
ndc923
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Posted by Alimm729
I agree with Kimberley. You'll have to nicely say, I'm sorry but I can't help, I have too much going on. They're all grownups, they CAN figure it out, they just think it's easier to come to you. Wash your hands of all of it and just concentrate on you and FH. Good luck!!
This!
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Posted by Alimm729
I agree with Kimberley. You'll have to nicely say, I'm sorry but I can't help, I have too much going on. They're all grownups, they CAN figure it out, they just think it's easier to come to you. Wash your hands of all of it and just concentrate on you and FH. Good luck!!
Agreed! I understand how hard it can be because I'm totally that person who wants to make very one happy and has a hard time saying no when people ask for things/help, but in a case like this, it's YOUR wedding, they shouldn't be worrying you about it all. If you don't feel comfortable completely making them handle it on their own, pass off the responsibility to someone close to you who you know can handle it instead! You shouldn't be dealing with everyones little problems this close to your wedding!
StarIzInkd
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XOXO to you guys
StarIzInkd
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XOXO to you guys
haw4
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I agree with everything that was said. I know letting go is hard to do, but everyone is an adult and capable of problem solving. You need to focus on you right now! You're supposed to be able to be selfish now, it's YOUR wedding!!
