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I m confused about the A and B list thing. Do you tell the people on the B list they are being invited if you have enough room. I mean I think that seems so rude. I mean especially if they are friends with people from the A list, they will know they didnt get a STD and wont be getting an invitation at the same time as everyone else, right? I am just confused! How does inviting the B list work?
You wouldn't tell the B list people that theyre your B list. Instead, you probably would try really hard not to tell your B list people ANYTHING about your wedding as it's possible they won't be invited in the end. Your A list should be your closest friends and family - the people you 100% want at your wedding. Only those A list people should get a STD or invites to things like an e-party or shower. The B list people are 'fliller' if you have the room for them. These would be people you're less close with who would probably not care so much either way if they're invited or not. B list people may find out about your wedding or pre-wedding events from A list people but that's okay - lot's of people will find out about your wedding who aren't invited and it's common to have certain people only invited to the wedding and no other events. Bottom line - B listers are not your close friends and family so it's not people who should be expecting to get invites to e-parties, showers and even the wedding.
if and only if they ask why they did not get a std i will tell the truth and tell them we have hit our limit and come time to send the invitations we hope we will be bale to invite eveyrone we want to
lol.. i know im not suppose to tell my B list people you didnt get a std cuz ur on my 'b list.' I guess Im jsut finding it hard cuz a few of my A list and B list people run in the same circles and have been talking about the STD's in front of each other. So, if B list people end up getting invited they will know they are B list people cuz they never got STD. Also, B list people keep asking me wedding questions and I want to inivte them and just dont know what to say at this point. Plus, its wierd cuz I guess they will be getting invites sorta last minute too, right?
That is a good idea.
I guess it also depends on who is on the B list. Our B list just has mostly FMIL's friends who obviously know about the wedding but since the wedding is small, our A list is just very close friends and family. If family members and our friends can't come, then we are going to FMIL's friends. We have been really upfront with them, letting them know the wedding is really small because FH and I are paying for it, but we expect to be able to invite them because there is no way we are going to get a 100% response rate.
Iliterally just had a friend (who is on the Blist) ask if she was invited. First OMG would u ever?? Second i told her (because she is friends with some of my great friends & saw my STD) i sent my STD's to the people i really really need to have there. We have alot of famly & unfortunately they had to come first so my very closest friends got the STD's we are hoping to be able to invite everyone we just arent sure yet. I figure hey if you dont like the answer you shouldnt have asked the question!
Wanna know something funny lol, I only have like 3 people on my b list. I am soo bad.
Totally! That is waht is happening to me. B list people are asking me if they are coming or kind of hinting to me that they want to. Its so wierd.. I would never do that! I want to invite them and i dont have that many people on my B list either but we are already iniviting more people then the room can hold (im freaking out about that already) so I cant invite B people. I know once they see the STD from A list people they will come right out and ask...oh well, guess I will jsut have to tell them
Posted by sareejoh
One way to invite the B list, is to send invites out on the early side and then as you get back replies that say no, start sending out invites to the b list people to bring the numbers back up. They don't have to know anything is different.
addition: If you send out the invites 3 months in advance then you can send out the b list 2 months in advance so it's not so last minute...?
