'A' list and 'B' list

Lolablue34 Posted: Jun 18, 2009 07:50 AM

'A' list and 'B' list

Hi ladies,

Just wondering if any of you out there while making your guest list tiered guests into 'A' and 'B' groups, and staggered your invitations accordingly. Once you recieved a reply from an 'A' group invite, a 'B' group invite goes out, and so on.

My fiance and I are thinking about doing this because the room we want has a limit of 100. The people who are on the two lists have no connection (ie: nobody's feelings would get hurt). We honestly do want everyone at the wedding, but due to finances, and the fact we have a small pool of people to begin with, it seems like a good option.

Additionally, then what do you do about STDs? Send them only to the A group, because they are the only ones sure to get an invite?

Thoughts?

TIA!

LadyDuda81509 Posted: Jun 18, 2009 07:54 AM

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we didnt really have and A and a B list, just a little too many people to begin with so a few stragelers didnt make the first round of invitations going out...lol as soon as we got some no's, we sent invites to them!

Lsorrent Posted: Jun 18, 2009 08:00 AM

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We'll send out 'B' list invites as we start getting no's. I only sent STD's to 'A' list people. You can't send an STD and then not send an invite.

Tracey1979 Posted: Jun 18, 2009 08:20 AM

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If you send a STD, you have to invite them, so only send STD's to A list

mzmahagony Posted: Jun 18, 2009 09:31 AM

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Posted by Lsorrent

We'll send out 'B' list invites as we start getting no's. I only sent STD's to 'A' list people. You can't send an STD and then not send an invite.

same here

jenturch Posted: Jun 18, 2009 09:54 AM

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Posted by Lsorrent

We'll send out 'B' list invites as we start getting no's. I only sent STD's to 'A' list people. You can't send an STD and then not send an invite.

We did the same thing. Just remember you have to send out your invitations a little earlier to give the B list people enough time to RSVP.

scatteredx12 Posted: Jun 18, 2009 10:19 AM

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We are doing this. There's so many people I want to invite but can't because I have to send invites to family members I've never even met ( ), so once they say no, which most of them will because they're very old or in a state far away from NY, I'll send out more invites.

JAAMS Posted: Jun 18, 2009 10:35 AM

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We're only sending out STDs to A list people. We are inviting 350 A listers, and we'd like to have about 300 people attend (that is our minimum). So we aren't going to start sending out B list invites if & when we are getting close to the 300 people min.

MrsDR2010 Posted: Jun 18, 2009 11:35 AM

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I agree. Send it out to the A list group first and later on if you have room for more then start looking at the B list

jlt2010 Posted: Jun 18, 2009 11:53 AM

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yeah agree with everyone else. i'm only sending STDs to A listers. Then will stagger the invites and send out B lists when I get nos.

consulgirl Posted: Jun 18, 2009 01:44 PM

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IMHO

1. STD's only to the A list

2. invites to the A list must be sent quite early, earlier than 2 months, because if the B list people receive thier invites very close to the wedding date they may sense they are B list people and may not attend - possibly leaving you with empty plates and extra expenses. I was invited as a B person to an event and I did not go -sensing I was on the B list. I was not particularly offended because I didn't know the Bride and Groom that well. GL.

3. In general usually 10% or more of the invited guests cannot attend the wedding for whatever reason.

GL

Nina1010 Posted: Jun 18, 2009 10:58 PM

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Posted by Lsorrent

We'll send out 'B' list invites as we start getting no's. I only sent STD's to 'A' list people. You can't send an STD and then not send an invite.

This i show we plan to do it as well. Just make sure not to offend anyone and the ppl in your B list aren't close friends with the A listers and find out they received their invites a while before them.