sorry to mention this again, but as i have said recently i am moving in with FH this weekend and it will be my 1st time moving out. i have an amazing family and we are all super close. my 1 sister moved out last year when she got married and my other sister is still living here. i am trying not to be so emotional, but i am struggling. tonight and tomorrow night are my last 2 nights home ever (minus pre wedding night)....i dont know....i feel ridiculous b/c i am not a kid at all anymore, but i am sad....really really sad right now....is this normal???....i am very excited to start my life with FH dont get me wrong....i have no doubt about that, i just am pretty ugh right now.....is this normal....are there any of you out there who come from a really tight family and you felt like this too when you moved out...i think i need to talk to somone who understands what i am feeling....thank you for listening
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Its very normal. Its a HUGE change in your life, and its definitely understandable that you are feeling upset about it. Actually its a good thing that you are doing it now and not right after the wedding...this way you will have some time to get used to it and not have that additional stress before the wedding
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It is perfectly normal. I have been living in limbo between FH's and home for 7 months. I cant seem to break totally free from home. I guess its because its all I have ever known.
I have found that each night that I stay at FHs it gets easier.
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Its very normal. Its a HUGE change in your life, and its definitely understandable that you are feeling upset about it. Actually its a good thing that you are doing it now and not right after the wedding...this way you will have some time to get used to it and not have that additional stress before the wedding
thats kinda what i was thinking...i will have had 2 months to adjust to this new situation...i figure the wedding is emotional enough
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Its very normal. Its a HUGE change in your life, and its definitely understandable that you are feeling upset about it. Actually its a good thing that you are doing it now and not right after the wedding...this way you will have some time to get used to it and not have that additional stress before the wedding
thats kinda what i was thinking...i will have had 2 months to adjust to this new situation...i figure the wedding is emotional enough
Very smart move. I moved out of my parents house a million years ago, but I remember being at work the first day after, and almost bursting into tears during a meeting.
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It is perfectly normal. I have been living in limbo between FH's and home for 7 months. I cant seem to break totally free from home. I guess its because its all I have ever known.
I have found that each night that I stay at FHs it gets easier.
lol....i kep saying the same thing....that i am living in limbo lately...living out of boxes and fishing around for things that are not packed yet...thing with us is FH lives at home as well so i cant even say that i have been staying at his and i am getting used to it b/c thats never happened....its true what you said though....its all we have known...thank you
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Its very normal. Its a HUGE change in your life, and its definitely understandable that you are feeling upset about it. Actually its a good thing that you are doing it now and not right after the wedding...this way you will have some time to get used to it and not have that additional stress before the wedding
thats kinda what i was thinking...i will have had 2 months to adjust to this new situation...i figure the wedding is emotional enough
Very smart move. I moved out of my parents house a million years ago, but I remember being at work the first day after, and almost bursting into tears during a meeting.
hearing this does make me feel a bit betterb/c i feel like i have been walking around all night with a lump in my throat
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I haven't moved out yet but I can understand what your saying. I would emotional also. I tell everyone Im going to be lonely with just FH and me since Im used to having 4 people running around my house. Just try to think about how happy your going to be coming home to FH everyday.
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Its very normal. Its a HUGE change in your life, and its definitely understandable that you are feeling upset about it. Actually its a good thing that you are doing it now and not right after the wedding...this way you will have some time to get used to it and not have that additional stress before the wedding
thats kinda what i was thinking...i will have had 2 months to adjust to this new situation...i figure the wedding is emotional enough
Very smart move. I moved out of my parents house a million years ago, but I remember being at work the first day after, and almost bursting into tears during a meeting.
hearing this does make me feel a bit betterb/c i feel like i have been walking around all night with a lump in my throat
You will be fine...it just takes some adjusting.
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i was homesick for a good 6 months and only moved around the corner. the first night i cried for hours and was totally surprised by it! it gets better! i am glad we moved in together before the wedding. i wouldnt want that initial transitional stress as a newlywed!
(3 years ago, I dormed for 2 years but was home on weekends, all summer, and holidays- this i had no trouble with but moving out was still hard)
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this is the part I am not looking forward to - moving out!!! FH and I both still live at home. I'm hoping to move into a place at least a month or so before we get married, to fix it up and for an adjustment period. I don't know what i'm going to be like at first. i hate the idea of leaving my mom and sister, especially my mom, behind!!!
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Oh my god I can totally relate! I am an only child super close to my parents. I moved out a year ago, and I go home on my days off to spend time with them. I have to be honest I cried, I couldn't sleep. It was really hard for me to adjust too. It's only normal! Trust me over time it will get easier. I'm not gonna lie I do miss my parents and think about them alot. Hang in there. I promise it'll get better.
If you need to chat FM me. I'm with you on this!
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its completely normal..and i feel the same way This is a very important step in your life...good luck with moving !
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It's totally normal to feel this way. When I first moved out of my parent's home (not with FH but a roommate at the time) I cried myself to sleep the first few nights. While change like these are good things, it is not easy especially when you have such a great relationship with your family. Go and visit them often...it will help make the transition so much easier. Good luck with your move
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It's a big change and it's normal to be emotional about it! Just think that this is the beginning of something new and special with your FH. You're moving out, but that doesn't mean you are going to forget your family. I think you will be ok. Just try to think of the positive!
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YESSSSSSSS and I moved all the way to NJ ((what was I thinking)). For the first few times after I moved out, I literally cried when I said good bye to my mom...talk about DRAMA QUEEEEEEEEEEN! It'll get better, just suck it up and do it.
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its funny because i just turned 19 when i moved into an apartment with FH - on top of that my parents moved to Florida - i dont remember feeling upset - i know i was upset that my parents were selling our house and i wouldnt be able to see them anymore because they were moving but i was SO EXCITED to move in with FH (at the time we were just bf/gf) - we've been living together for almost 4 years now - its kind of hard to remember exactly how i felt but i remember being mostly EXCITED - i was def stressed out - worrying about if we could afford it all and things like that - but i dont think you should be upest about it - its not like you wont be able to see your family anymore - you should be excited more than anything!
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It's completely normal! My sister left for college in MA in August and I bawled like a baby for days! My family is super tight, especially me & my sister. I literally sat on the steps outside our house for an hour and cried when my parents drove off with her.
Are you moving far? I'm sure you'll still see them all time! Plus it makes the times you see them even more special!
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it is normal. and this sad feeling of an era of your life is ending will fade.
it was just my mom and me living in her home and when FH and I decided to move in together, i felt very guilty about leaving her. but i was also excited to have my own home where I can make dinner for her and have her over to watch a movie, have a cup of tea, whatever. My mom visits ALL THE TIME. and your family will too!
things will settle down. feel better
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sorry to mention this again, but as i have said recently i am moving in with FH this weekend and it will be my 1st time moving out. i have an amazing family and we are all super close. my 1 sister moved out last year when she got married and my other sister is still living here. i am trying not to be so emotional, but i am struggling. tonight and tomorrow night are my last 2 nights home ever (minus pre wedding night)....i dont know....i feel ridiculous b/c i am not a kid at all anymore, but i am sad....really really sad right now....is this normal???....i am very excited to start my life with FH dont get me wrong....i have no doubt about that, i just am pretty ugh right now.....is this normal....are there any of you out there who come from a really tight family and you felt like this too when you moved out...i think i need to talk to somone who understands what i am feeling....thank you for listening
I totally understand how you feel. After marriage is going to be the first time I move out of my house and although I'm excited to start my life with FH, sometimes just thinking about leaving my parents and brother brings me to tears. Even though it's a part of life, all these changes and leaving those you love is such a difficult part of it. However with your FH's support, constant phone calls and visits - I'm sure you'll be fine. FM me if you need to talk - I think this is a huge concern for most brides that are tight with their families.
