I just wanted to take time out to tell all of you who have been concerned and helped me out Thank you so much. I really appricate everything, I now started to feel like my wedding day will come and go and I did all this planning and spending for nothing. I dont understand why some people I invited have to be so rude to invite their children who arent invited and complain that i didnt invite the kids. . . mean while I wasnt invited to their wedding and I wasnt a child ahhh, I also dont understand why the bride does all the work even though it is the grooms wedding too. My FH pissed me off so bad on Monday. He was like Im like a guest at the wedding I just have to show up EWWW isnt that so nice of him . . . then he doesnt understand why im so tired and cranky maybe its because im up all night getting wedding projects done without his help example lastnight. My aunt came over to help me wrap my favors she got to my house at 6 and left at 1130. . . where was the FH oh well when he heard i was working on wedding stuff he decided to go out. . I wish I could go out I havent been out in almost a year cause im busy planning this wedding. . I just hope its worth it. Cause I feel that HE should be helping me more than he did. . . I have had a headache for weeks cause i dont sleep and i feel so sick. . . ahhhhhhhh sorry just needed to vent.
HeatherRose
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hang in, its almost over.
DeannaNDave07
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i just posted this is someone else's post........ i think its a guy thing! some guys love to be involved and some just dont. but........ as far as ideas, you get to pick everything that you want, since he is not involved. ......... as far as helping out, i dont think you are the only bride that deals with it, its very frustrating...i just had an argument with my FH last night about helping out....... he does to some extent....... especially now that football is on....forget it
just try to hang in there!!
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Yea well this is what i HATE on monday my cousin was talking to him about the HONEYMOON which I BOOKED not him. And my cousin was asking him about the details and he was taking the credit and getting all the details wrong so i was like no this is where we are staying and how much it cost then he was like yeah she booked it. So my male cousin looks at FH and says 'Dude the honeymoon is supposed to be booked by the guy. . whats wrong with you.' I couldnt believe that my cousin would say that being that when I told FH he was like no you can do it. . That was the only thing I asked FH to do and he couldnt even handle that. Then I asked him to book the hotel night for the night of and once again he couldnt handle it. . . . He did go to the hall,dj and photographer with me but that was in Jan- may of 2006 since may 2006 he hasnt helped me at all. . and even if he just sat there with me and said wow Val that looks good would mean so much to me. . . . . .
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It all depends on the guy. My BIL was involved in a bunch a stuff (the stuff we allowed him to be involved in ) He helped with the favors putting the picture stand inside the boxes with the frame poem, he did the tuxedo stuff with all the guys, he helped whenever we needed it. He did most of the stuff getting their new apartment ready so as he was doing that we were doing the wedding stuff.
Have you tried to talk to him and tell him you need his help? Some guys just think that the bride wants to do everything. Talk to him and when you do do stuff like wrapping favors making it fun to hold his attention, like playing music, having some wine, stuff like that.
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hahaha please, Ive done EVERYTHING for this wedding. FH was supposed to do the tuxes and WHO WAS at mens warehouse the other day geting our son fitted?
eh hmmm eh hmmm.
Only thing he's done is set the DJ up. HE'S A DJ... lol not that hard to do.
I hear you on your frustration....
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I tell him all the time and hes like Im so tired when i get home from work. . and i guess im not. . I work 7:30-4:30 I have to be on a train at 6'30 and I wake up at 430 i get home at 6 and i cook dinner for us clean up after dinner and then work on wedding stuff meanwhile he wakes up at 6 goes to work at 7 gets home at 5 and sits on the couch and watches tv till dinner is ready. . . then sits and watches tv while im cleaning up and then goes to bed when i start the wedding stuff and if i ask for him to help hes like what can i do you got it. .
Don't get me wrong he has been great with everything else, like getting the apartment together shopping for furniture and stuff. .. . just the wedding stuff he doesnt do. . . . .
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is all I cansay!
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Posted by LuckiestGirl
Yea well this is what i HATE on monday my cousin was talking to him about the HONEYMOON which I BOOKED not him. And my cousin was asking him about the details and he was taking the credit and getting all the details wrong so i was like no this is where we are staying and how much it cost then he was like yeah she booked it. So my male cousin looks at FH and says 'Dude the honeymoon is supposed to be booked by the guy. . whats wrong with you.' I couldnt believe that my cousin would say that being that when I told FH he was like no you can do it. . That was the only thing I asked FH to do and he couldnt even handle that. Then I asked him to book the hotel night for the night of and once again he couldnt handle it. . . . He did go to the hall,dj and photographer with me but that was in Jan- may of 2006 since may 2006 he hasnt helped me at all. . and even if he just sat there with me and said wow Val that looks good would mean so much to me. . . . . .
yea i know its frustrating that he cant even handle one thing. one of the other girls was upset about that too. i wish i can help more, but like i said... i believe a lot of guys are not a big help. here are some more hugs...
LuckiestGirl
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thanks for the hugs i need them . . . now if you could get rid of my headache
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dont worry!!! this will ALL be worth it...TRUST ME! I spent a year and 7 months planning my wedding and at times i felt just like you, like i was the only one who cared and worked for this wedding (my DH did not help much either) and at times I felt like it was all for nothing...but i was dead wrong! Every ounce of work and dedication was completly worth it because I had the most amazingly beautiful day ever and I was so proud of myself and my hard work. Trust me, it doesnt seem like it now, but on your wedding day you will be so incredibly happy and it will all be worth it!! Good Luck!
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Posted by JessMxPx88
dont worry!!! this will ALL be worth it...TRUST ME! I spent a year and 7 months planning my wedding and at times i felt just like you, like i was the only one who cared and worked for this wedding (my DH did not help much either) and at times I felt like it was all for nothing...but i was dead wrong! Every ounce of work and dedication was completly worth it because I had the most amazingly beautiful day ever and I was so proud of myself and my hard work. Trust me, it doesnt seem like it now, but on your wedding day you will be so incredibly happy and it will all be worth it!! Good Luck!
Thank you so much. . . this was so nice to read because its 16 days till my wedding and im not gettin nervous im getting sad. . . and your kind words made me smile so thank you.
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All of your hard work and effort will pay off!!! Don't worry! I wish your FH would help you out, but you know what? Even if he doesn't, it will all be over in about 2 weeks and you will be married and all this stress will be gone.
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MrsQ - - - - your probably right. . . . I'm sitting here trying to figure out where to sit people so I called FH and asked who to sit his cousin with and he was like um call my mom i was like shes not home so he told me to wwait till she was. . . . i think he is trying to avoid doing anything because hes gettin nervous. . . . he said he knows hes gonna cry cause he loves me so much and is so happy and he hates it. . hahaha
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Try to take some time away from the wedding, i know its sooo close but you still need to keep some sort of normalcy in your life. DH was the same way, got upset b/c he wasnt involved but when I wanted him to he said 'I dont care whatever you want' its a guy thing.
It will come and it will go-but you will remember that day over the aggravation of planning for the rest of your life
