A Sad Day..........

Well, sorry to vent, but my brother is in Hwaii now, and he is getting married today
Yes, you are probably wondering why Im so sad...we HATE her. She is such a manipulative B*TCH!!!! I can write a book about all the things she has done. She is not nice to my mom at all. My grandmother doesnt even like her.
She had her shower at about a moth ago, and still no Thank You card.
So, the story is they is getting married in Hawaii, and then having a church ceremony with a sit down dinner next month We are all dreading it. He is a big boy, and knows we are not fond of her. He is 36 years old, and has been married before.
This are just getting so bad. My mom had a fight with him before he left.
She invited a few people from our side of the family to the shower, and NOT to the wedding. I think that is wrong, and my mom thought that was rude. This wedding is turning into all HER family.
We hardly know any of the details.
We NEVER get invited over anymore. The last time we were invited to his house was 2 YEARS AGO
I had them over quite a few times for parties, and she never came. But we had Thanksgiving dinner, and they came.
Im sorry...Im venting now. I wish my brother would see the real side of her

It stinks when someone comes into the family that everyone doesn't approve of, and it must be equally hard on him to love someome that his family very obviously dislikes.
I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and say MAYBE, just MAYBE she shows a side of herself to him that she doesn't show to the rest of your family.
(what other reason coukd your brother have of wanting to spend his life with this women?)

Either way, you're right, your brother is a grown man and you have to live with his decisions even if you trust that they're the wrong ones. Sorry it's so hard on your side of the family though.

sorry diane

One day he may see things your way but for now try to see things his way for his sake only You will always be his family and she will never change that fact

Diane, sorry to hear this.

It $tinks when a loved one is 'blinded by love' and all of a sudden nothing in their world matters except for their spouse's family. I've seen this happen in friends' lives and most of the time, that person came around and regretted everything.

Hopefeully your brother will soon see how much heartache he is causing to those *truly* close to his heart.

Can anyone in your family have a nice long talk with him?

Lots of hugs to you...

You and your parents weren't invited to the wedding Maybe write your brother a letter! Or an e-mail at work if you think she may intercept it! Let him know how hurt your were not to be invited to the ceremony!! Feel better and hopefully he will see the light!

Im sorry to hear this. Sometimes family can be pain in the arse!! Im sure on day he will realize that you are his family through thick and thin and that she is tearing you guys apart!!

I'm sorry Diane
Family is sometimes the hardest people to deal with