My FMIL wants me to call her Mom, which I don't have a problem with but her own children call her by her first name.
bride04
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I try to avoid calling them anything. I have been calling them Mr. & Mrs. ___ for years. It would seem strange to start calling them by their first names now. However, when I am talking to FMIL, when I refer to her husband I use his first name and vice versa. I don't think I would feel comfortable calling them mom & dad even if they told me too. I'd prefer to use their first names. Mr. & Mrs. ___ seems way too formal. My mom insists that my FH calls her by her first name, but his parents have never said anything about what to call them. I wish they would! I'm sure they wouldn't mind if I called them by their first names or mom/dad, but until they say something I will just keep trying not to call them anything.
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I know. I feel strange. I love my FMIL but my FI calls her by her first name and not Mom. But that another long story. My mother made a reference to my FI calling her Mom, and how she would't mind it. It got me thinking. And my FMIL send me a present signed Mom S. I call my FILs by their first names now and my FI avoids says anything to my parents although when he talks about them to each other, he uses their first names. Confusing yet? I was just wondering how everybody else handles it.
Marcela1654
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My FFIL wants me to call him Dad, but I feel unfomfortable doing so. I mean I love him to death and he's GREAT, but it just seems weird. So I try not to call him anything. I call Fh's mom by her first name. Peter calls my parents by their first names and my grandparents abuelo and abuela (which is grandma and grandpa in spanish)
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My FI parents asked me to call them mom & dad right after we got engaged. I had to tell them I'd me more comfortable calling them by their first names and it was no offense to them but I felt uncomfortable. It was very awkward, I still try & not call them anything. Every now and again my FI's mother refers to her husband as Mr._____ when talking about him to me (I used to call them Mr. & Mrs.) I at first thought it was purposeful but I now realize that I think she just is absent minded about it.
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I call his mom by her first name. His dad I have met 3 times and I have not called him anything. (I know it is bad but his parents are divorced so we don't see him as much as we see his mom). He calls my parents by their first name but calls my grandmother, grandma.
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I call them Mr & Mrs ________ but after we get married I am going to call them Mom & Dad. Sometimes I call his Dad, Dad when his Mom is not around. He calls my Mom, Mom and my Dad Mr _______.
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Millie and Tony....maybe Millie will become Mom because she treats me like she treats her daughters and calls me her daughter every now and then instead of DIL... Tony will stay Tony...I have one Dad and I'm so possessive of him that I wouldn't dare call anyone else the same thing!
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I call them by their first names. When they speak to me its always Mom and Dad but I just cant do it. Since I have a baby I call the grandma and grandpa. I luck out this way.
WishCandy
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By her first name.... I already have a mom and I feel like it would be disrespectful towards my own mom.
Licia
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I really didn't call them anything...I tried to avoid it also...my Fh's SIL calles them by their first name still...I started calling them Mom and Dad as soon as we got engaged...I think that is the most confortable thing for e to do. It took a while to get used to it though...the first time I called my FFIL dad he looked up at me with this face..I just smiled...I guess it was wierd for him too...he doesn't have daughters so to hear a girl say dad I think it took him by suprise
DrmnBlnd
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I call my FI mom and dad....
Ronnie&Theresa
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Doreen and Ronald
I have one set of parents..... NO one can take their NAME place!
WithThisRing
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his parents are divorced and both remarried. i call his mom by her first name and his dad by his first name. brian calls my parents by there first name.
I agree with T, i have one set of parents
cw0904
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I would never call them mom or dad. I only have one mami and papi. I can't believe I still call them mami and papi! To this day I still call them mr and mrs. But when I talk to one about the other I say your wife or your husband. Or Mr or Mrs.
