I have been researching online but I wanted to get opinions from the forum. When you are addressing married couples for the wedding invites are you using either:
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
OR
Mr. John and Ms. Jane Doe
OR some other version?
The general wording on our invite is relatively formal, but I was wondering if Mr. and Mrs. John Doe without identifying the female spouse's first name is a little too 'old school'?
Thanks for your feedback!
flynn14
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I did me and mrs John Doe
rcotter90
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You could do mr and mrs john and jane doe if you wanted to include the female spouses name. I think either way is fine. Nobody is honestly going to care or be offended lol. I did receive an invitation in which I was invited with FH's family and it said 'the doe family and Renee'. No last name for me. Just and Renee. And we've been friends with them since we were all about three so it's not like they don't know my last name. Don't do that lol.
QueensNYC
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Thanks! Good advice re: the 'dangling first name', lol.
cconaty94
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I suggest going with the old fashioned, 'right' way to do it...that way if anyone is offended (say, a female who wishes her first name could have been on it), you just say oh well it was the suggested proper etiquette way. Once you start accommodating someone, you open a pandora's box. If you decide to put female first names, now you've got to know who is still married, how does she spell her name, is she a doctor? where do I put her husband if she is Dr.?
Stick to the rules someone else made and wash your hands clean of any added drama!!
melhunny46
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We did Mr. And Mrs. John Smith
ASemderWedding
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Posted by cconaty94
I suggest going with the old fashioned, 'right' way to do it...that way if anyone is offended (say, a female who wishes her first name could have been on it), you just say oh well it was the suggested proper etiquette way. Once you start accommodating someone, you open a pandora's box. If you decide to put female first names, now you've got to know who is still married, how does she spell her name, is she a doctor? where do I put her husband if she is Dr.?
Stick to the rules someone else made and wash your hands clean of any added drama!!
This! I didn't consider it 'old school' as much as it's proper etiquette. We did 'Mr. and Mrs. John Doe'. My mom spent a lot of time researching, for we did inside and outside envelopes so we weren't sure how that worked with names and such!
