addressing invitations - the whole mr and mrs thing

Sandy&Ben Posted: Jul 19, 2003 08:38 AM

addressing invitations - the whole mr and mrs thing

ok, so i am one of those women who absolutely hates addressing a married couple as:

mr. and mrs. john smith.

i usually address all my cards, letter, etc. as just:

john and mary smith.

however, for wedding invitations, this seems too informal. i read in martha stewart weddings that one alternative is:

mr. john and mrs. mary smith.

i have never seen this before and am wondering what y'all think.

thanks!

Julybaby Posted: Jul 19, 2003 10:24 AM

Re: addressing invitations - the whole mr and mrs thing

I sided with tradition and stuck with Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. I have several married friends that kept their maiden name so it was Mr. John Smith and Ms. Mary Williams. Otherwise, I usually address cards and stuff with 'John and Mary Smith'.

HeatherandNick Posted: Jul 19, 2003 10:40 AM

Re: addressing invitations - the whole mr and mrs thing

I did mr. and mrs. john smith

VickiC Posted: Jul 19, 2003 11:14 AM

Re: addressing invitations - the whole mr and mrs thing

I also stuck with Mr. & Mrs. John Smith for the wedding invitations, and did first names on the inside envelope.

I've gotten a few wedding invitations addressed the way you describe, and honestly, it looks very smooshed on the envelope and like you're 'trying' to be PC. I don't think anyone would be upset at you if your invitation came as Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. It's tradition, and most people like to see tradition.

Now and guest is a whole other story. . . .

palebride Posted: Jul 19, 2003 11:53 AM

Re: addressing invitations - the whole mr and mrs thing

i agree with you one thousand percent! i hate that tradition - in fact i usually address things
mrs. and mr. jane smith just to be impossible and different
i see nothing wrong with putting both names on - why not recognize the woman? let her kow she's just as important (if not more) than her husband!
good for you!!