Addressing the envelopes.....

So my head is spinning from all the conflicting etiquette out there.
If you only know the wife (say a co-worker) and not her husband, but the husband is invited, did you put Mr and Mrs John smith on the envelope, or did you address it to the wife and put the man's name on the inner only? It just seems so strange to me to address an invite with someone's name whom I've never met!

Also, how did you do the inner envelopes? Mr Smith or John Smith or John????

And one more, did you write out numbers less than 20?? Did you write out the state??

It seems like a whole lot of nonsense but I'm afraid of doing this wrong!

Co worker uetsions.. still Mr and Mrs. John Smith.

I did my inner envelopes informally, so the inner envelope said 'Jane and John' not, 'Mr. and Mrs. Smith'

I did write out all numbers (except apartment numbers)

'Forty-Seven West Eighty-Fifth Street Apartment 2B) New York, New York, 10023

One Maple Drive Marlboro, New Jersey 07780

This is what I did:

For married couples w/ same last name:
- Mr. and Mrs. Smith (same for inner and outer)

For married couples w/ different last names (or unmarried couples):
- Mr. Bob Smith & Mrs./Miss. Joan Hart
(Same for inner and outer)

For singles:
- Mr. John
On the inner - I would then put Mr. John & Guest

For families:
Mr. & Mrs. Smith
and family

(For little kids, I put Miss. Sarah) just because I thought it was cute.

oh man... inner envelopes have names on them too???? how have i never seen this before?!?!?!?! i did not put anything on my inner envelopes ops!!!

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Posted by wishingwell1230

Wow I didn't know to write names on inner envelopes! I don't remember if I've seen that before, but I do know i have seen invites without names on the inner envelope. It definitely makes sense for singles if they get a guest, though, so you don't have to write 'and Guest' when you address them!

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I didn't put them on the Inner they are already addressed on the outer

Married: Mr. & Mr.s John Smith

Not Married: Mr. John Smith & Mrs. Jane Smith

Don't know the Guest: Mr. John Smith & Guest

Family: The Smith Family

omg, we have to spell out all the numbers too?? What if they live in the city where the house # is like 5 digits long and they live on a street in the hundreds??

This is a very helpful thread! I had no idea!!

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Posted by Jesebelle

So my head is spinning from all the conflicting etiquette out there.
If you only know the wife (say a co-worker) and not her husband, but the husband is invited, did you put Mr and Mrs John smith on the envelope, or did you address it to the wife and put the man's name on the inner only? It just seems so strange to me to address an invite with someone's name whom I've never met!

Also, how did you do the inner envelopes? Mr Smith or John Smith or John????

And one more, did you write out numbers less than 20?? Did you write out the state??

It seems like a whole lot of nonsense but I'm afraid of doing this wrong!

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id do the outer: mr & mrs john smith
the inner: mr & mrs smith
i dont think i'll write out #s, but I will write out the state

eta:

link for etiquette

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Posted by ColliMac23

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Posted by wishingwell1230

Wow I didn't know to write names on inner envelopes! I don't remember if I've seen that before, but I do know i have seen invites without names on the inner envelope. It definitely makes sense for singles if they get a guest, though, so you don't have to write 'and Guest' when you address them!

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I didn't put them on the Inner they are already addressed on the outer

Married: Mr. & Mr.s John Smith

Not Married: Mr. John Smith & Mrs. Jane Smith

Don't know the Guest: Mr. John Smith & Guest

Family: The Smith Family

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This is exactly what I did...

I didn't get any inner envelope

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Posted by dpanzarino

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Posted by ColliMac23

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Posted by wishingwell1230

Wow I didn't know to write names on inner envelopes! I don't remember if I've seen that before, but I do know i have seen invites without names on the inner envelope. It definitely makes sense for singles if they get a guest, though, so you don't have to write 'and Guest' when you address them!

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I didn't put them on the Inner they are already addressed on the outer

Married: Mr. & Mr.s John Smith

Not Married: Mr. John Smith & Mrs. Jane Smith

Don't know the Guest: Mr. John Smith & Guest

Family: The Smith Family

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This is exactly what I did...

I didn't get any inner envelope

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I didn't either... do you need them??

i have inner envelopes, but wasnt sure if I needed to have anything on them as far as addressing the guest??