adult only reception

how would you take this as a guest:

over 21?
over 18?
over 16?


basically to save money on invites and postage we sent my aunt and cousins one invite. its my aunt, her b/f, my 20 yr old cousin, my 18 yr old cousin and my 14 year old cousin.

my 18yr old cousin just wrote me on facebook:

My mom wanted to know what the adult age ended at for the reception because she didnt want to just go and leave us kids behind and she also wanted to know where we be sitting

um... YOU, (20) and (14) are invited. lol
you're not kids. kids are under 13 years old. lol
um, the reception ends at 12:00am. so its cocktail at 6, then dinner reception from 7-12.
as for sitting, I have no clue. once I get the rsvps back from everyone then i'll know.
and let your mom know her BF is invited. we just didn't know his name.

Its rick and okay ill tell her everything and i thought since it said adult and its a wedding 21 and older would be the adults cause of drinking and me and (20) cant drink....legaly

no... adults only is for kids under 13.
over 13 is considered an adult.

the only kids there are fh's 2 nephews and 2 nieces, but they're our ring bearers and flower girls. oh and my nephew, but he's a groomsmen and he's 13.

so yea, you, (14) and (20) are fine.




so now I'm thinking, are my guests going to understand the ages? are they going to think under21 is not invited? so what do you consider an adult? (we said 13 because first off, they're mature and second they get charged per person as an adult at that age)

adult only i would say 18 and over...

but at my RH 13 is considered adult

i'm honestly not sure what i'd think ... but i'd probably assume 18 is adult age.

if i had kids over the age of 14 or 15, i'd prob ask to make sure though (unless i just don't want them to come)

I am having an adult only reception. I did not include it on the invite, but the invites were addressed to the people invited. No mention of children, etc. My cut off is 21. We decided to let friends and family spread the word and it is working, everyone knows.
But, most people I spoke to do not want to bring their children anyway.

I wouldnt assume anything...I would just pay attention to who was addressed on the invite.

For my case, I am considering an adult 21 and only inviting a very few kids under that age (FH's kids, nieces etc)

yea we HAD to put adult only on ours... can't get into the why of it, (hello stalker ) but we'll just say that a certain someone (or someones) like to bring their young, untamed, psycho kids with them everywhere they go and well.. we dont want that. I just figured that most of the people in the 13-18 frame know they are invited... but I guess I was wrong.
my 13 yr old nephew is in the BP
my mohs family is 15-20... and they knew they were invited (actually one of their invites is m.i.a.. so that was texted to me today asking if he was invited)
the only others i can think of are OOT'ers and my cousins that have 2 sons ages 13 & 18 (i think) and I wouldn't mind them there... thats more for them to decide... but I doubt that part of my family is even coming to the wedding, as there has been major drama going on since my eparty.

RH typically consider under 12 'children'
I consider over 18 adults.

In a case like that (we only had 1), you should include the names of the people invited of the invitation envelope.

For my aunt the outside envelope said:
Mr. & Mrs. C... S..... & Family

Inside envelope said:
C., D., V., & J.

That way no confussion.

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Posted by christine2010

In a case like that (we only had 1), you should include the names of the people invited of the invitation envelope.

For my aunt the outside envelope said:
Mr. & Mrs. C... S..... & Family

Inside envelope said:
C., D., V., & J.

That way no confussion.

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thats what we did.. & family, for those invited with ages 16+...