Ok, we're finalizing printing on our invites today, and I have a question.
We're inviting the children of my FH's aunt. They range in age from 16-19. We do not want them to bring guests. We're paying $150/pp and we have to cut out some distant relatives, we can't afford to give these young people (there are 5 of them) guests. These kids have family and friends coming, they will be fine.
So, should we give the people 18 and over their own invites, or include them on their parents invite? Please help!
shelzyp
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Do they all live in the same house?
I would put them all on one, if they live in teh smae house, but I am not sure ettiquitte wise if this is proper.
kelly6273
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I would still give them their own invite. Just don't put & GUEST on it.
MarcellaBella
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if they are over 18, you should give send them each their own invite..
julybride444
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You guys are the best, I always know where I can go for answers!
They all do live in the same house, so should I still give them their own invite?
OctBride03
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Either way mentioned is fine... I would say those under 18 should be on the same invite as parents (provided they live in the same house), those 18 and over, seperate invite with NO guest put on it.
Rob-luvs-me
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Proper etiquette is to give the kids over 16 or 18 (not sure of exact age) their own invitation.
Honestly - My family has always given us a single invitation to their weddings - and I haven't lived home for years and am WELL over that age.
If you want to do what is proper you should send them one each - BUT - I think they may feel more uncomfortable trying to bring a date if you invite them as a family than if you invite them separetely.
julybride444
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RLM-That's true, I don't want them to bring a guest. What should I do??? I want to be proper, but I don't want 5 uninvited guests!
CherylBooch
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IMO- Put all the names on one. It's fine, My family gets invites like that all the time. I never thought twice either. Plus you save some $$ on postage!
I think at 18...teens want to be treated more like an adult-i.e own invite...i wouldn't worry about inviting with a guest...don't put it down...
at 22 I was invited to my cousins wedding and they said b/c of space restrictions on spouses, fiances, and live-ins were being invited...it didn't bother me one bit...and usually at 16-19...they are not dating for that long...
julybride444
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When one of the aunt's was here, she mentioned her daughter bringing her boyfriend. They really like the boy I guess, but she's only been dating him a few months. So, I did tell her that we couldn't afford to have anyone other than live-ins, spouses, those who are engaged or of course couples we are friends with. She seemed put off, but she was ok I guess. So, if I then don't send them individual invites, I might put them off further. I'll just give them sep. invites, then deal with the guest problem if we have one. Thanks everyone!!
sanmik
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Any one over the age of 18 should get their own invitation. Simply address to them and in the inner envelopes (if you're having them) only their name.
prncssrachel
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Up until I was in college we would get one invitation for the family. I think that's fine and it makes it appear even more so that they are not invited with guests. I think anyone with good ettiquette would know when it didn't say &Guest, but just to be safe...
