Advice for my married friend...Please

Original post by KerriSteve

Sep 15, 2005 04:03 PM

What would you do if your friend called your FI/DH more than she called you???

The story...
My friend, who was recently married, has a problem with her MOH. The MOH kind of (flirts with?) her husband. She calls him & visits him at work. And she kind of flirts with him in front of my friend. Example... Puts her head on his shoulder, rubs his arm. It's a little wierd.

She called me yesterday bcz she doesn't know what to do... Her DH tells her it's nothing. I'm not sure what to tell her.
Help

JessicaM. Posted: Sep 15, 2005 05:06 PM

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and God FORBID they are doing something...hair and balls would be flying! I would probably go to prison, not just because of the infidelity, but the WHO of the infidelity!

I really hope it's nothing.

brooklynbridezilla Posted: Sep 15, 2005 05:09 PM

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Posted by girlygrl33
Even if this woman has a crush on him or craves the attention of married men- especially for the challenge, I do believe it is HE that should NOT be letting this happen- QUOTE]

i completely agree.

mka06 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 05:10 PM

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IMHO -- that friend is no friend at all. Yes, she should be confronted and yes, your friend should talk to her DH. But, your friend should also think about the fact that she should not have to tell her one of her BFs not to flirt with her hubby. That's f**d up regardless of what the girls rationale is. I don't think she can be trusted...

heidla Posted: Sep 15, 2005 05:18 PM

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Um no, not acceptable. I am pretty laid back. I know that people will flirt. Hell, I flirt, but that is not exceptable. I would have a dicussion with him because he needs to put a stop to it. Men can be naive about the ways of the desperate single woman, but we all know that there are woman out there that intentionally go after men that they know can make a commitment.

Preshy7 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 05:20 PM

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unless MOH is way younger or severly DUMB
she should lay off her fh. MOH need to be TOLD.
i agree- private detective- or at lest have a friend she wont recognize find out the truth.

ugh i hate that stuff

otherme Posted: Sep 15, 2005 05:26 PM

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Hopefully this will help you.

I have a friend who was married for several years, then started flirting with the husband of one of her friends. They both laughed it off when questioned and said it was nothing, and everyone believed them.
Fast forward to now and they've both been carrying on an affair with each other for over a year and have both since been kicked out of the marriage by their spouses.

I'm sorry, but if you can't respecct the fact that someone is married and not touch them, then thats not someone i would trust. There is friendliness, and then there's more.
Calling him at work, touching him and all that you described seems more like a girl flirting with a guy she wants to get, rather than just a friend. come on, every girl knows how to flirt and what it does to a guy. Of course he's going to say its nothing, because he probably enjoys it!

gNi1125 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 05:35 PM

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Posted by KarAnthony

hire a private detective

I don't mess around. Woman's instinct is too important to ignore.

JMO

I couldn't agree more.

SomethingBlu Posted: Sep 15, 2005 11:02 PM

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Posted by otherme

Hopefully this will help you.

I have a friend who was married for several years, then started flirting with the husband of one of her friends. They both laughed it off when questioned and said it was nothing, and everyone believed them.
Fast forward to now and they've both been carrying on an affair with each other for over a year and have both since been kicked out of the marriage by their spouses.

I'm sorry, but if you can't respecct the fact that someone is married and not touch them, then thats not someone i would trust. There is friendliness, and then there's more.
Calling him at work, touching him and all that you described seems more like a girl flirting with a guy she wants to get, rather than just a friend. come on, every girl knows how to flirt and what it does to a guy. Of course he's going to say its nothing, because he probably enjoys it!

Please keep us posted!