ADVICE NEEDED (LONG)

I'm considering not coming back to my job after the wedding (if we can afford it) until I find something else, because I just can't take certain situations anymore. I know I shouldn't let people...(sick people at that..and by that I mean sick in the head) run me out of here..but I am SOOOO tired of working in a dept where the women are just childish and stupid, and give me the urge to hit them. They also do as they please...taking coffee breaks all day, standing around chatting..and taking extended lunch hours (sometimes 2 hours long).

To give you some background...there are a few of them who seem to belong to the 'Myriam Cult' and I call it that because Myriam is the ring leader who I refer to as DQ (Drag Queen). She is full of DRAMA and then there's another member Amanda (who I refer to as Bi-polar girl) because that is what she is!!! One day she's smiling and the next she's crying. They used to talk to me...until I figured out that DQ was such a fake and I kept my distance. I never really conversated 'like that' with them...but Bi-polar girl took care of my dog for a while for me. She would talk all the time. Ok she's a bit 'touched' but she would talk. All of the sudden...for the past month I'd say...she stopped talking and even started giving me looks. *** is that all about? She's got alot of issues...which is what I try and tell myself every day. BUT...enough is enough already. I had the pleasure of riding the staff elevator with her and you can tell she was so uncomfortable. Mind you Bi-polar girl asked me if she was getting an invitation to the wedding and asked if she could sing for us (of course before she woke up one day and said I'm not going to speak to her anymore).

Now here's the doozy...we had a new girl start..and apparently she joined this cult..because she gives me looks too. Unbelievable. I told my MOH to take her a** off the bridal shower list and I'm not following up w/the invite either that I sent to her and another chick. Out of the 6 I was cool w/2 so I thought.

What would you do in a situation like this. I mean Bipolar girl sits right in front of me. I ignore her...and ignore the other girls..but this is so ridiculous. I've decided not to follow up on the invitations and put them both down as no's...because I could care less if they come. Had I known this I would not have wasted an invite on them both. UGH! Sorry for the long vent.

There a few pretty unbelievable ladies in my office too. From the moment I walked in the door, they treated me as if I was below them just because they have seniority over me. My supervisor is aware of the problem and sympathizes with me, but there's little he can do. However, they moved me to an office on the opposite side of the building away from those two b****s. Now, I am so much happier. I would still prefer not to see them at all, but I definitely see less of them now.

Is it possible for you to move away from those girls in your office?

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Posted by Aly0124

There a few pretty unbelievable ladies in my office too. From the moment I walked in the door, they treated me as if I was below them just because they have seniority over me. My supervisor is aware of the problem and sympathizes with me, but there's little he can do. However, they moved me to an office on the opposite side of the building away from those two b****s. Now, I am so much happier. I would still prefer not to see them at all, but I definitely see less of them now.

Is it possible for you to move away from those girls in your office?

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Unfortunately no. The department is very small. It's just unbelievable that my supervisor knows how they are and what they do ...but he says nothing. It gets frustrating..especially when you come in to work and see them doing nothing. I mean what do you have to do to get fired..kill someone? Bi-polar girl comes in late DAILY and has for the passed 3 years that I have been here..she calls out all the time, sometimes doesn't show up. She has this little thing called 'FMLA' which they have at the hospital and most people abuse..her included, and yet and still she still has a job. It's unbelievable. If I come in late..my vacation hours are taken for the amount of time I've taken. I know my supervisor is fed up w/her and even offered her position to me should she be told to leave..but I wouldn't take it if they offered me double of what I was making..because my sanity comes first and I would be working closer with the leader of the cult. NO THANKS!

I have some major issues at work too and don't have much fight left in me. I am considering leaving too...giving my two weeks before the wedding and then just never coming back. I've been here two years and have given it all I've got...I just don't have it in me anymore. I think sometimes there is just not a fix to a problem and you need to either choose to deal with it on a daily basis...or ship out. For me, the latter is really my only option.

Best of luck to you!

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Posted by CLMon7906

I have to say while this stinks, most offices/firms/hospitals/restaurants, etc... are like this...women get catty no matter where you go. It's something about all that estrogen floating around. There is only one person in my office that I want to strangle on occasion...the only other female...she doesn't do anything wrong, she just gets under my skin. The men goof up and I have to fix it all the time...but I've never once wanted to quit, leave or cry because of anything they've said or done. In fact, in all the places I've worked, it's been the women driving me up the wall 99% of the time.

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There are 2 men in this office (excluding the MD's), the rest are women. You are right they are VERY catty!!! One of them actually had the nerve to tell another girl when I got engaged 'is she happy about it..can I go congratulate her?'. I mean come on!! I've NEVER worked in an environment like this..and it gets to you. I had it out w/that person not too long ago after YEARS of tolerating her B.S. I almost hit her..and honestly she got in trouble..which I am thankful for. Mind you this is a nurse!!! They haven't gotten to me in the sense that I want to cry..I just get so angry that I want to hit them.. .

FMLA is often abused, but employers are required by law to give it to eligible employees. Sorry that she is getting away with murder, but I suspect that your supervisor's hands are tied.

I'm thinking of looking for a new job after the wedding. I figure that I won't know what to do with all my free time. Job hunting will be my next project.

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Posted by Aly0124

FMLA is often abused, but employers are required by law to give it to eligible employees. Sorry that she is getting away with murder, but I suspect that your supervisor's hands are tied.

I'm thinking of looking for a new job after the wedding. I figure that I won't know what to do with all my free time. Job hunting will be my next project.

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I'm looking now...just in case but after the wedding will actively look.

I know FMLA is required by law, but it really ***** that people abuse it. If someone is mentally ill then they shouldn't be working. She's even come to work DRUNK WREAKING of alcohol and carrying on w/her sunglasses on claiming she suffers from 'migraines'. Yeah ok!! Each time she has her sunglasses on it's funny how the night before she was hanging out and smells of alcohol. Recently, she used used FMLA for a 'supposed death in the family' and said she had to go to PR..but on her myspace page she has pictures of herself at that same time...asking people to rate her in a bikini..and sent it to me? Now..how STUPID can you be??? Seeing as how I sit behind her...and she talks VERY loud I heard her making plans to go to PR. I won't say anything..but I think it's disgusting of people to abuse this. I know that's nothing I can control..but I needed to vent.

The only advice I can offer is to not come back after the wedding if they are getting to you that much, and you can afford it. Nobody needs that kind of grief.

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Posted by Wintersbride

Unfortunately these kinds of people are in in pretty much every office. Don't let them chase you out. I would find another job before leaving that one first if you are that unhappy. Unfortunately, office drama is everywhere. Don't let them get to you.

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Thanks. I think for the most part a few of them are unhappy w/themselve, their lives and their marriages. The other 2 are just 2 miserable women who stay w/a-holes just to say they have someone. I personally think it bothers them more that I ignore them..because I never let on that they bother me . I will continue to look for another job..actively before and after the wedding. Thanks again ladies!