Advice to brides

Hi...I posted this link in response to a post on the 05 board and got requests to post it here.

Just some things that helped keep me sane and reminded me what is really important.

Click here

Thank you so much, great info!

This advice:
'This is tough, but I believe that money does not equal control. Just because your parents (or whoever) are paying, does not give them the right to steamroll you. That means that if you want a small intimate wedding, your mother doesn't get to invite 100 people just because she pays for it. Your husband's grandfather does not get to have a polka band just because he pays for it. (By the same token, if your mother is paying, and she wants an all broccoli menu, that's her right, right?) Think about if you were going to throw your parents an anniversary party. And you picked the menu that YOU liked, the flowers and music YOU liked and a guest list of all YOUR friends. You'd be a pretty thoughtless host, right? Well, though it's controversial, I believe the same is true of hosting a wedding. Your parents already were the bride and groom...now it's your turn. They don't get to go again. '

Is the BEST!!!!

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Posted by PrincessRose

Everything she said was 100% true. Trust me, if I could go back and read that BEFORE the wedding day, I'd probably give up my car.

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I agree..I luckily found it when I was going through a stressful wedding moment and it helped tremendously. I emailed her and thanked her!!!

Hi, I need to print out the following and memorize it:

You're having a wedding, not a photo shoot. A wedding is an event involving real people that will also be photographed and often, filmed. You're not staging an event just to be photographed and filmed or costuming actors to play a role..... You're having a party for people to enjoy, not a photo shoot with models. Make it your priority to focus on doing whatever it takes to make the actual event wonderful, and the pictures will reflect that. If you find yourself asking, 'But how will it look in pictures?', think again. 'Is this what I want for my wedding?' is a much healthier question. In other words, aim for a great wedding, not just a perfect-looking record of one. Besides, you should banish the word 'perfect' from your wedding vocabulary unless you're talking about your spouse. (And a special footnote about the eternal white shirt/ivory dress 'crisis': a man in a crisp white tuxedo shirt can never, ever be out of style, no matter what the woman standing next to him is wearing.)

What a great site! I will definitely share.

Thanks

That was such great advice, I whole-heartedly agree with everything she said!!! Such a beautiful wedding, you could see their happiness!!!

Thanks for posting!!

Excellent advise. Makes you see things from a whole different perspective. I hope that I can retain and practice what she advised. I added it to favorites.
Thanks