Alittle annoyed about one of my bridesmaid

Well, I had told my girls that I want them to do their makeup and hair by a professional (hopefully where I'm going and if not then find someone that does) and of course one of them had to give me a hard time because she don't wear makeup and how my wedding is in August and it will be too hot, etc. She wants to do her own hair and makeup. I explained to her that this is NOT just an ordinary event. This is a wedding and it's MINES at that. And also how she will be in my pictures. I told her I didn't want to become this crazy Bridezilla but she's making me turn into one.

Am I wrong for being upset?

I know some brides just doesn't care how their girls look, doesn't care how their hair or makeup is done but to me my girls have to look fabulous. Don't you all think? Any advice? Things like this shouldn't even be an argument. I have another girl that doesn't wear makeup and doesn't grow their nails and she grew her nails just bc of the wedding and she's getting her makeup done just bc of the wedding. Why must one give me a hard time?

Maybe she can't afford it...I would let it go, if she wants to do her own make-up just let her do it...just because its done by a professional doesn't mean its going to look 'perfect'... i know its your wedding and you want things to be perfect, but if I where you I wouldn't stress over it.

personally - i would ask the specific bridesmaid if the real reason was a monetary one. She may not want to stress you out and let you know that she can't really afford the hair/makeup.

try to be gentle...but if she doesn't want to have her makeup done, ask her if she would mind taking a day in the near future and doing her makeup herself the way she would for your wedding. maybe she can do an amazing job!!!

yes. *I* think you are wrong for being upset...

Yes.. it's YOUR wedding.... but, IMO you should choose your BMs for their relationship to you, and not for *show*

I'm sorry if this offends you, but it's not a photo shoot... I'm sure no one would look awful enough to *ruin* your pictures.

I think it's EXTREMELY selfish of brides to expect their BMs to go to extreme measures, just for the sake of photos...

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Posted by carolinep24

yes. *I* think you are wrong for being upset...

Yes.. it's YOUR wedding.... but, IMO you should choose your BMs for their relationship to you, and not for *show*

I'm sorry if this offends you, but it's not a photo shoot... I'm sure no one would look awful enough to *ruin* your pictures.

I think it's EXTREMELY selfish of brides to expect their BMs to go to extreme measures, just for the sake of photos...

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I agree

On the plus side the uglier your bridal party the better you will look.

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Posted by carolinep24

yes. *I* think you are wrong for being upset...

Yes.. it's YOUR wedding.... but, IMO you should choose your BMs for their relationship to you, and not for *show*

I'm sorry if this offends you, but it's not a photo shoot... I'm sure no one would look awful enough to *ruin* your pictures.

I think it's EXTREMELY selfish of brides to expect their BMs to go to extreme measures, just for the sake of photos...

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i agree as well...

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Posted by carolinep24

yes. *I* think you are wrong for being upset...

Yes.. it's YOUR wedding.... but, IMO you should choose your BMs for their relationship to you, and not for *show*

I'm sorry if this offends you, but it's not a photo shoot... I'm sure no one would look awful enough to *ruin* your pictures.

I think it's EXTREMELY selfish of brides to expect their BMs to go to extreme measures, just for the sake of photos...

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Couldn't agree more!

You girls have a valid point. She, has a family member, should had told me if it was financially but instead she burst right out and said she wasn't doing it professional due to 'hot' weather. Maybe I should of came back to her and asked if she had the money or not. I would be glad to pay for it. It's no biggie for me. I'm going to contact her tomorrow and talk with her. I'll let you girls know the outcome. I have to be very honest girls, I have been good (attitude wise) throughout the planning and I have to say that some vendors and people had gotten underneath my skin but I held my composure and didn't turn into those crazy bridezillas. I amaze myself at times. A big applause for me

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Posted by MeNBobs

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Posted by carolinep24

yes. *I* think you are wrong for being upset...

Yes.. it's YOUR wedding.... but, IMO you should choose your BMs for their relationship to you, and not for *show*

I'm sorry if this offends you, but it's not a photo shoot... I'm sure no one would look awful enough to *ruin* your pictures.

I think it's EXTREMELY selfish of brides to expect their BMs to go to extreme measures, just for the sake of photos...

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I agree

On the plus side the uglier your bridal party the better you will look.

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this is so true. that's why i dressed my girls like this:

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Posted by Bride2Be824

You girls have a valid point. She, has a family member, should had told me if it was financially but instead she burst right out and said she wasn't doing it professional due to 'hot' weather. Maybe I should of came back to her and asked if she had the money or not. I would be glad to pay for it. It's no biggie for me. I'm going to contact her tomorrow and talk with her. I'll let you girls know the outcome. I have to be very honest girls, I have been good (attitude wise) throughout the planning and I have to say that some vendors and people had gotten underneath my skin but I held my composure and didn't turn into those crazy bridezillas. I amaze myself at times. A big applause for me

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good.

just make sure you're being careful...people don't like to share their money woes...

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Posted by Bride2Be824

You girls have a valid point. She, has a family member, should had told me if it was financially but instead she burst right out and said she wasn't doing it professional due to 'hot' weather. Maybe I should of came back to her and asked if she had the money or not. I would be glad to pay for it. It's no biggie for me. I'm going to contact her tomorrow and talk with her. I'll let you girls know the outcome. I have to be very honest girls, I have been good (attitude wise) throughout the planning and I have to say that some vendors and people had gotten underneath my skin but I held my composure and didn't turn into those crazy bridezillas. I amaze myself at times. A big applause for me

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no worries... Just remember how it is a huge financial burden for someone to be in a bridal party... the only reason why I didn't feel TOO guilty was because aside from my FSIL, I was in ALL of my BM's weddings hahaha....

thing is-- they will look beautiful... and what's most important is how YOU look.... if you are paying for your BM to get her hair & makeup done, then that's GREAT... but try not to be upset if they can't add the extra *expense*

as a personal experience, at the last minute... my FSIL decided to cancel her appt with my hair dresser bc it was too expensive and foun a hair salon to do her hair for cheaper... she DID NOT like how they did her hair and wishes she went with us, but all in all, I thought she looked GORGEOUS...

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Posted by hayleyandsteve

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Posted by MeNBobs

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Posted by carolinep24

yes. *I* think you are wrong for being upset...

Yes.. it's YOUR wedding.... but, IMO you should choose your BMs for their relationship to you, and not for *show*

I'm sorry if this offends you, but it's not a photo shoot... I'm sure no one would look awful enough to *ruin* your pictures.

I think it's EXTREMELY selfish of brides to expect their BMs to go to extreme measures, just for the sake of photos...

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I agree

On the plus side the uglier your bridal party the better you will look.

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this is so true. that's why i dressed my girls like this:

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that's hot!

Caroline, no offense at all. I do appreciate your feedback.

I completely know and understand it's not a photo shoot nor is it a 'red carpet' type of event but I don't want any of my girls to show up as they please but instead to come correct. This issue is not something that I'm loosing sleep over. If I was being selfish, I then will let my girls look crazy so I can be the 'spot' light which a lot of brides do but if I'm going to look my best, I expect for the rest to look their best as well. I know I am the 'Bride' that needs to look ultra fabulous out of the other girls but I would love for my girls to look just as good in the correct way. If I 'SHINE' then all my girls will 'SHINE' right by my side.

Again, thank you and I definitely didn't get offended. Everyone has their own opinion in things. To some is a 'Lesson Learn'.

wow...great advice ladies...I tend to agree...

just think...the less money they spend on themselves the more maybe they will spend on your shower and bachelorette...maybe even a nice gift for the wedding

I am trying to be careful with the monetary thing too and gave my girls some options for beauty the day of....my stylist is coming to the house and is a little pricey in their opinion so we talked aobut other options for them....good luck with your talk with her

Thanks twright5ny. I will definitely speak to her and if she can't afford it, again, I will be more than happy to pay.

You all had great valid points that I will take into consideration.

Thank you so much!!